inlaws visiting ?

[Fnaar]

Mrs F met my mum a couple of times before the mother died, but never met my old man, which was a pity, as he was a great fella.
Mrs F's mother died 5 yrs ago or so, and i got on well with her, though we came from different planets, basically. Same with Mrs F's dad... he's a nice bloke too, but completely different backgrounds, outlooks, expectations etc.

 

[Levo-Lon]

Took him home today...bliss..

 

[Hover Fly]

I just wish I could have met my future in-laws Hover fly's parents.

 

[winjim]

Took him home today...bliss..

Hope you retained your sanity.
Till next time!

 

[winjim]

It looks bloody flammable although I bet the fumes'd be toxic.

It just makes me sad that their first present to her is one that's had absolutely no thought put into it and has actually gone against our stated wishes. Yet if we say anything, it's my wife who will be made to feel bad about it.

Compare and contrast. My mother has now come to visit. Her gift? A locket given to my grandmother by my grandfather and containing pictures of them (so my daughter's great grandparents) from the 1940s. And for my wife, a necklace originally given to her by her aunt, to say "thank you for giving me a granddaughter".

 

[winjim]

Oh my God. They've only gone and bought a caravan. Down the road. So they can come round more often. Without consulting us. I am speechless with rage.

 

[Dayvo]

Oh my God. They've only gone and bought a caravan. Down the road. So they can come round more often. Without consulting us. I am speechless with rage.

Move!

That's the only option: other than burning them in their caravan.

 

[AndyRM]

I get on well with both my inlaws, although they've recently divorced which has been messy and awkward for everyone, particularly the father in law as he has some serious memory issues and has been given the runaround by solicitors.

 

[winjim]

Move!

That's the only option: other than burning them in their caravan.

Don't tempt me .

But seriously, what level of cognitive dissonance do you need to employ to go from being told that you can't come round when you like and need to ask first, to buying a flipping caravan down the road?

And don't get me started on the emotional blackmail that's being employed from a couple of bowls of washing up and a badly cleaned kitchen floor.

 

[Dayvo]

Don't tempt me .

But seriously, what level of cognitive dissonance do you need to employ to go from being told that you can't come round when you like and need to ask first, to buying a flipping caravan down the road?

And don't get me started on the emotional blackmail that's being employed from a couple of bowls of washing up and a badly cleaned kitchen floor.

If they are unable to grasp the fact that they are not welcome, or at least respect your wishes not to be disturbed or invaded when they see fit, then you just have to tell them. It's a case of you or them.

 

[winjim]

If they are unable to grasp the fact that they are not welcome, or at least respect your wishes not to be disturbed or invaded when they see fit, then you just have to tell them. It's a case of you or them.

It may come to that . They don't get subtle hints and when my wife tries telling them the truth she just gets dismissed and laughed at for being "assertive". Then she snaps at them and ends up feeling guilty. They accuse us of pushing them away when it's really just that we don't like them forcing themselves on us. They're running dangerously close to being barred from seeing their granddaughter.

 

[markharry66]

I am divorced. Seems drastic but dont now get any visits although i am not sure why?

 

[markharry66]

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[tyred]

The wife doesn't have anything to do with her family so i have never met any of them, which suits me fine. My family lives in Wales and as I'll never set foot in Wales ever again I don't see much of them. My mum comes down to see us a couple of times a year, but she can't stay here as the spare room has no bed as its where I keep my bikes (win win!)

You don't tuck your bikes into bed at night to keep them warm Heartless swine

 

[Smokin Joe]

Mrs SJ's mother lived with us for a few years in the early nineties. From my experience and those of people I know never ever ever let an elderly relative move in with you. It just does not work and is a stressful nightmare.