Given that meths is easily available in the uk how about a trangia cookset?
http://www.simplyhike.co.uk/ProductDetails.aspx?StockID=23185
or with a gas burner?
http://www.simplyhike.co.uk/ProductDetails.aspx?StockID=23193
I have a just spent 10 days cooking on one and it was perfect for me. Non stick, leight weight, compact, windproof and smell free (if you pack away the mets burner properly). Also cheap (given that this is a full cookset and not just the stove). You will need to carry a bottle of meths though, which I found to be absolutly no problem at all in terms of weight, safty or bulk. I simply wrapped the bottle in two sealed poly bags and carefully placed the bottle in an external zip pocket of my panniers. You could also carry it in an additional water bottle cage under your frame.
I managed to cook the following:
chile con carne (not from a packet)
Beef stroganoff (not from a packet)
Bangers beans and mash
Pasta and bolognaise sauce (not from a packet)
Tuna steak and rice
Ravioli
Chicken in cream and mushroom sauce 7 rice (not from a packet)
...there are also loads of packet meals.
Tea & coffee, soup, etc are easy.
If you do go this route I suggest you get the non stick version. Very easy to wipe clean. I also suggest you get a small frying pan lid (i stole a slightly bigger baking tin from the Mrs) as this will really help reduce the amount of meths it takes to cook a meal. Or get one of these:
http://www.simplyhike.co.uk/ProductDetails.aspx?StockID=23207
On the downside....meths isnt readily available in campsite shops...but there is alwys a hardware /DIY place in UK towns. I hear that it takes longer to cook than gas burners, however I can boil a pan of water in about 4 minutes with the lid on.
As for the light....well I just use my cycle lights inside the tent at night. I also carry two small T light candles, which if you place inside the trangia wind shield reflect a good amount of light up inside the flysheet (enough to read by) and the flame is safe given the stable wind shield surround.