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Losing it

Discussion in 'Commuting' started by Nigeyy, 11 Jun 2008.

  1. Nigeyy

    Nigeyy Veteran

    Location:
    Massachusetts, USA
    So how do you post your fastest commute? I've had so many good commuting days with such a lovely commute, something was bound to happen sooner or later.....

    I was on a twisty narrow road (narrow by US standards that is) and lorry pulling a caterpillar on a trailer overtook me when they shouldn't have done -a bend -and then promptly squeezed in back in without having overtaken me. At one point I know if I'd extended my little finger, I could have touched that
    caterpillar (it was considerably wider than the trailer it was on). If I hadn't braked and wasn't in primary to begin with, I'm pretty sure I would have been in real trouble. Anyway, I caught the the guy up at a junction, and alas, much to my embarrassment, here is an extremely accurate account of my interaction:

    What my brain should have made my mouth say: hey, did you know you almost hit me, could you please be more careful?

    What I actually shouted at the top of my voice: "You nearly f**king killed me back there you f**king idiot!!!!! Keep your f**king eyes open!"

    to which the guy just swore back at me and waved me off....

    What my brain should have made my mouth say: come on be reasonable, just be more careful please.

    What I actually shouted: "f**k off you f**king idiot!!!"

    and my middle finger extended gracefully, several times. I don't know what got into me, I have to say it's not like me to get so worked up, but I will say the guy did drive with very obviously little to no care for me. Thing is, the guy was pretty big and could have pulverized me had he got out -then I would have been in trouble. It was truly a spur of the moment thing that just happened.

    I've got to learn from it. It was not cool what I did -I think I had a touch of road rage going there -as far as I can recall, this is only the second time in my cycling I've ever confronted a driver negatively. I've always vowed that I would do my best to have the most positive, polite manner possible (as I think the way I did react isn't or won't make the situation better the next time this guy sees a cyclist again, and it could be me), but the situation got the better of me. I really don't want that to happen again and I want to learn from this.

    Anyway, from all my macho adrenalin rush, I did post my fastest commute into work for the year. And so beginneth my day.....
     
  2. Tynan

    Tynan Veteran

    Location:
    e4
    I always lose it without fail, every single time, it's human in a moment like that

    not productive mind but at least they know you're upset and might think about it despite their automatic reaction
     
  3. tdr1nka

    tdr1nka Taking the biscuit

    I've stubbornly had to learn to count to ten and let these idiots trundle out of sight.
    My immediate reaction would otherwise be to chase the driver down and give him/her a thorough dressing down, irrespective of how they may react.
     
  4. I try to control my temper but every now and again I just explode.
     
  5. Joe24

    Joe24 More serious cyclist than Bonj

    Location:
    Nottingham
    A very cheery and loud 'thank you' and a wave sometimes gets them thinking. I used to get really annoyed with the drivers that overtook me close. I had a few arguements with them, but the best i think was when i caught up with someone and sat by his window looking at him and smiling. I kept knocking on his window when he looked away. Wasnt too keen on starting a conversation. The guy didnt have a clue what i was going to do. :smile:
    What really did annoy me was when an old man in a Corsa overtook really close, and i shouted move over. I got a reply that was either 'bollocks' or 'never' not sure which. That annoyed me, and when at some traffic lights he waved at me, i filtered past him and thumped his roof hard. A few people looked around and the old guy paniced abit.
    It is better to relax, say thanks and if they swear at you just say no problem, i'll contact the police, its on camera, and just keep riding with a grin on your face.
     
  6. gavintc

    gavintc Guru

    Location:
    Southsea
    I had a car hit me on the road by Edinburgh airport about 6 months ago. He came out of the airport skimmed past my arm just touching my jacket. I caught him at the Maybury roundabout and half way through holding his tie in a strangle at his throat, I suddenly woke up, realised that killing him was not worth it, and then told his passengers calmly to look after him, walked back to my bike, and rode away. I have since promised myself to always count to 10 and to calm down.
     
  7. mootaineer

    mootaineer New Member

    Location:
    London
    I'm generally like that too...shoot first and ask questions later :smile:

    ...and if a big guy climbs out of the lorry...then I'll be angelically polite :smile:
     
  8. Riding in Circles

    Riding in Circles Veteran

    Location:
    EDINBURGH
    I did this today as well, must be the time for it, I was riding along when a car pulled into thye cycle lane in front of me, no problem as the lane crosses the entrance to a layby, but he didn't go into the layby, just parked up in the cycle lane, I tapped on the side of the car and said "you know this is a cycle lane don't you", and rode on, a hundred yards on he screeched along side jumped out and started screaming about me touching his car.

    Before I realised what I was doing I had unclipped grabbed him by the jacket with both hands, lifted off the ground and pinned him half to the roof of his car and half to the side, I am a big bloke. I then basically told him I was going to introduce him to God only not in so many words, then sanity dawned.

    I told him to get back in his car and drive away while I was still calm, he actually thanked me and drove off, maybe it was the sugar rush from the mars bar I had just eaten, those things should be banned. :smile:
     
  9. Tynan

    Tynan Veteran

    Location:
    e4
    excellent

    I ain't had a fight since school and I'm big and people back down but I think In the moment I'd square up if someone fronted me
     
  10. Crock of Gold

    Crock of Gold Guest

    Location:
    London
    Really nutty today. Not sure what my attitude should be. I've tried being confrontational; tried zen; tried just talking to myself. I have never, ever had a fight or an argument in publicc with ANYONE in my entire life. I do have a short temper but played rugby and all physical stuff was outlet in that.

    But this cycling lark! Shouted at Three drivers today. Two for pulling out in front of me and one for overtaking to closely as I overtook a parked 4x4. Though I could have avoided that last one by taking a stronger primary as the poor little rotund stag-beetle of a driver in the car didn't have the nerve to slow down and wait behind me.

    Also this morning saw a bloke in a black convertible driving alongside another regular commuter (who I'm nodding terms with through seeing each other once a week on the commute), on the dual road that runs north to Clapham North from Clapham South, asking hiom to get off his bike so he could thwack him one.

    Finally, half mile from home, I turned right for the last long drag to my home. The car that waiting behind me also turned right - he'd been waiting to overtake for - ooh - 20 secs (it's a right turn at a crossroads here you need to take early Primary or nobody will give way) suddenly shot passed after I'd turned.

    Just as, by coincidence, my s*$t for brains mate came off the pavement on his brand new £1,100 mtb (I know) and found out that his brakes worked just fine as he screeched to a halt a few inches from the overtaking car before it could hit him.

    "Don't die!" I shouted to him. "We're going camping in July, remember."

    I mean - it's all to much angst for what should just be a cycle commute.

    Not sure what my attitude should be. I certainly need to stop shouting as much as I do but I really don't like people getting away with it.

    I don't want direct confrontation as the guy/gal may be a nutter.
     
  11. andyfromotley

    andyfromotley New Member

    Location:
    Otley, west yorks
    Nige, i take it that MA doesnt have that law where anyone can carry concealed weapons?

    I would take the the madnatom approach...........chase them down shout at them in an incomprehensible scottish accent, point at your helmet a lot and then post it on you tube.

    Andy
     
  12. andyfromotley

    andyfromotley New Member

    Location:
    Otley, west yorks
    that was a genuine typo but i like it better than magnatom!
     
  13. hackbike 6

    hackbike 6 New Member

    Location:
    The Mile End Road.
    Same here.its rare but it happens.im much better than i used to be.
     
  14. OP
    OP
    Nigeyy

    Nigeyy Veteran

    Location:
    Massachusetts, USA
    Well, I still don't feel proud of what I did. And I can't help but think in another similar situation I could have ended up being in some big trouble (a lot of psychos in the states, and yes, some of whom do carry guns).

    On one hand I realize you can't be a meek individual who never fights back, but on the other hand I realize that sometimes it's not worth it, and in all likelihood won't change the individual's attitude or behaviour -or worse still, make it worse.

    In retrospect I wonder if the worst thing I did on my part was catching up to the guy ("I've stubbornly had to learn to count to ten and let these idiots trundle out of sight.." -good advice tdr1nka!!!). I also think that the fact the guy was so high up I couldn't get his attention without shouting didn't help either, and made me shout and lose it. I really do think if it was a car, I would have just tapped on the window and kept my cool.

    Mind you, I still think he was a complete and utter tw*t.
     
  15. bonj2

    bonj2 Guest

    oh, yeah - what, one of these?

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    annoying little buggers aren't they. I get 'em all the time round here.