do you have people like this in your life?

[Norm]

There's been research to suggest that you can have somewhere between 5 and 12 close friends, and between 100 and 150 friends.

Is it time for a cull, ttc?

 

[ttcycle]

I had a cull last year -

My best friend and someone who is amazing (yeah the concept of a best friend is a strange one for me!) has commented on the health of the friendship before - we go through patches of this but I suppose if it wasn't stimulating and supportive and a strong friendship at other times I would think twice.

I agree with the 5-12 figure that's where I'm am at the moment.

 

[ComedyPilot]

Bcc the emails to me and I'll ghost write some 'replies'

 

[ttcycle]

It's not who you think if thats what you were thinking

what you?

CP - I am not going to indulge you

 

[ComedyPilot]

CP - I am not going to indulge you

Drat.....................oh well, never mind.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

prey,do tell BOAB....

I wish to make it absolutly100% clear my comment does not relate to anyone on this board

 

[trustysteed]

this thread is useless without....it being anybody on here!

 

[summerdays]

I've got a close friend who always finds the exact right moment when I have the most pressure, the most going on and problems up to my neck - despite her knowing that's the case, where she lands her personal problems onto me disguised as a 'oh how are you email'. If i'm not able to respond or say what she wants she then gets defensive and pissed off. God it's exhausting on top of everything else going on in my life.

So tired of this.

Do you know people like this too? A little bit self absorbed but good otherwise?

Not friends no, sibling yes sometimes. A bit of me would worry whether I would be the offender rather than the offended - or maybe not listen enough to their problems.

 

[jeltz]

I think the optimal response is to comment on her problems, empathise, suggest what course of action you think best (if any) then say that you are so glad she contacted you as you really need to talk to a friends about your problems and see if she reciprocates.

 

[ttcycle]

Thanks guys