The boys and I have been invited to one of my 10 yr olds friends for New Years Eve (that doesn't sound right but you know what I mean). somewhat to my suprise I agreed to go - I am not a big social person and since ex left even less so. I think the idea is to have a takeaway during the evening but I'm wondering whether I take, wine, flowers, make a desert, take some nibbles for children or make cakes for children (one doesn't like chocolate, one has nut allergy and I think another friend who has an allergy to just about everything will be there!) As there will be other people there I don't want to stand out by doing the wrong thing. My next question could be about what to wear but given it's a choice of work clothes or jeans in my wardrobe (most of which are too small at the moment!) it will have to be the latter! These people are very nice but their Christmas Tree would fill my lounge, their house is huggggggggggggeeeeeeeee and I am anxious any gesture doesn't look too pathetic on the other hand I don't want to break the bank. Oh blimey it would be easier to stay at home, especially asthe kids will be tired and grumpy the following day! Any advice welcome.
Pathetic O/T New Years Eve question
- Thread starter Willow
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wafflycat
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- middle of Norfolk
Why don't you just ring your friend and ask what is happening?
Night Train
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+1wafflycat said:
Alternatively just send the kids and then spend NYE doing something else.
Landslide
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Night Train said:
...thus saving money on expensive bottles of wine. At that age they'll be more than happy with a bottle of White Lightning.
Ring and ask what you should bring e.g food, alcohol. If they say don't worry, we have everything, then take some flowers or a plant to say thank you for being invited.
Remember to take warm coats for you all to wear. There may be fireworks and then there is the walk home!
Remember to take warm coats for you all to wear. There may be fireworks and then there is the walk home!
Priscilla Parsley
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I think if your becoming less social its a good event to get back into the swing of things so dont decline! people really dont judge host gifts it really is just a gesture but i think its bad form to turn up empty handed, if your skint bake some muffins or cute gingerbread - home made stuff is always more impressive. I know lots of people like flowers but i remember when i did a party once and i recieved 5 bunches of flowers and i could have cried i was so stressed with the starter that i just dumped the flowers in the bath.
the hosts will be thrilled that you came so do not worry one bit and enjoy!
the hosts will be thrilled that you came so do not worry one bit and enjoy!
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On the question of what to take, I would suggest either a dessert or a cake, or small cakes, (easier to serve) preferably homemade, and bearing in mind if possible, some people's allergies. I would guess that if someone has a lot of allergies and is going to a party, they would take something they know they can eat.
I would also guess the people hosting the party know that you are a single mum with two growing lads. I would wear a comfy pair of trousers, however big the house, there may be a shortage of chairs, and you might end up sitting on the floor.
Lastly, and I am guessing here they have invited you and your boys and anything you take with you will be an added surprise, not something they were expecting. Have a lovely time. 
Then if you all have a lovely time, try and ask the boys to do a thank you letter, or write it yourself if it is easier.
I would also guess the people hosting the party know that you are a single mum with two growing lads. I would wear a comfy pair of trousers, however big the house, there may be a shortage of chairs, and you might end up sitting on the floor.
Lastly, and I am guessing here
they have invited you and your boys and anything you take with you will be an added surprise, not something they were expecting. Have a lovely time. Then if you all have a lovely time, try and ask the boys to do a thank you letter, or write it yourself if it is easier.
wafflycat
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Willow said:
So what if everyone is plumping for a takeaway? If you don't phone in advance to check, you may end up with metaphorical cheesecake on your face? Is there some reason you feel you can't ring up to check in advance?
wafflycat
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ChrisKH said:As waffly says and play it by ear. A gift, even inexpensive or handmade is always well received. Home made cakes, even better IMO.
As for what to wear, I was going to suggest thigh high boots, but I don't think I'm the best person to give advice at the best of times.
Well they'd look a treat with what I was going to suggest as attire: gimp mask and whip.
wafflycat said:Well they'd look a treat with what I was going to suggest as attire: gimp mask and whip.
I think we are starting to get an idea of the kind of parties they throw in Norfolk.
Willow - wear what you feel most comfortable in and sod what others think, it's only a party, the Queen isn't invited. I suspect that everybody else will be too worried whether what they are wearing is right, and whether their 'bring along' is suitable to even notice what you're up to.
Dave5N
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Take a cake and wear what you feel comfortable in. If they have a takeaway they'll still appreciate a cake later on.
I understand how you feel, but remember that they have their own stresses. They won't be being critical of you.
Go and enjoy it, and let the lads enjoy it too.
You're a nice person and the people at the party will be glad you joined them.
Have fun!
I understand how you feel, but remember that they have their own stresses. They won't be being critical of you.
Go and enjoy it, and let the lads enjoy it too.
You're a nice person and the people at the party will be glad you joined them.
Have fun!
BigonaBianchi
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..wear what makes you comfortable...take a bottle and some home made cakes..or sim...but mostly just take yourself and a smile...it'll be fun...and as for that Christmas tree didn't anyone ever tell you that size doesnt matter?
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BigonaBianchi said:..wear what makes you comfortable...take a bottle and some home made cakes..or sim...but mostly just take yourself and a smile...it'll be fun...and as for that Christmas tree didn't anyone ever tell you that size doesnt matter?...
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a hoover would be the most useful imagine the needles needed to clear it up, it must be 15 ft+ tall goes in their hall right up to landing and more! God the thought of getting it out of the house after would be enough to stop me having it in the first place. Anyway, DS2 has made a lemon drizzle cake and I have bought one or two other things mainly for the children so we can make a little hamper.
