What is going on with young people today?

[Heltor Chasca]

I am the first to shoot people down for demonising teenagers and young people and I have had my moments myself. So I’m putting my hands up immediately to demonstrate I am a far from perfect 40+ year old, but a recent neighbourhood spat has left me despairing and embarrassed for a young couple who have moved into our road. I suspect I am venting.

I live next door to an elderly couple who I get on with very well. They are decent folk who have lived there since 1950. They get my children gifts at Easter and Christmas and I do what I can for them when I can. Gardening, DIY, carry their shopping and I once moved house for their daughter. I hold them quite high in my opinion.

The young couple who moved in next door to them are the last neighbourly types out. I don’t talk to them: They invited me round for a cuppa which I thought was a decent gesture, however sitting down to chat, the husband’s first question to me was, ‘How come you are divorced?’ Not polite small talk in anyone’s book. They have parked me in and out of my own house and they have blocked the elderly couple from safe access to their front door. They are the types to wait until they are greeted before saying hello even with their seniors. Their garden looks like a student digs and weeds seed themselves either side of their house which winds everyone up. In summary they are thoughtless and unfriendly in my opinion. But I keep out their way so it’s not too much of an issue.

I found my neighbour this morning in an upset state: Yesterday he accidentally strimmed 3 of the young couple’s raspberry canes. Apparently the husband hammered on the door last night as my oldies were getting into bed (2045-2100) and had a full on go. Over 3 raspberry canes. Anyone knows they multiply like wildfire so it just seems overly petty to me. I have offered to give him some prime stock from my garden. I just don't get the pettiness and overreaction. My elderly neighbours don't even want to go up the garden anymore.

I hate it when neighbours fall out.

Vent complete.

 

[Nonethewiser]

Sound like a pair of knobbers to me. Knobberism is not age related though as I know of a couple in their 60's who behave very much like your young neighbours here, fortunately I don't live near them. It is really pants when neighbours behave like this, we try to rub along with all of ours but some folk are easier to rub along with than others.

 

[Electric_Andy]

I see why you are upset. However, try looking at it objectively. The only thing I can see as an outsider is that they are not very warm to people. If someone had strimmed something in my garden, I would have knocked on the door as well. What I'm saying is, what they did and have done does not seem unreasonable, but more the way in which they have done it is not something you and your very friendly neighbors have been used to.

As for the age thing, it's hard to say. I think younger generations have had to develop a slightly more cynical and defensive view of the world, what with the level of violence etc now compared to 50 years ago. Maybe cut them some slack, and offer them the chance to be as friendly as you are. If they choose not to then that's their choice.

 

[Drago]

I'm very lucky to have decent neighbours.

The bloke the OP describes, apart from being a chump of the highest order, ought to think carefully who he messes with. It's not unknown for old people to have adult children, and I've seen it before where someone messes with a senior citizen, only for their lunatic son to pay a visit and discuss matters through the medium of touch. Unintended consequences.

Aside from which, what kind of nodder behaves like that over 3 raspberry trees?

 

[Spinney]

If someone had strimmed something in my garden, I would have knocked on the door as well.

At that time of night? Over 3 raspberry canes?

 

[Ciar]

I don't think it's an age thing as it crosses all age groups, people can be knobbers regardless if they are 20 or 80. I do find younger generations, not all mind seem to have a me me me attitude, but maybe that's because i am in my 40's now and just don't remember what i was like

Does he have Tattoo's? That will probably explain it.

explain what exactly?

 

[Drago]

Trump on a bike, I've just remembered that I have tattoos. I'm just off to intimidate my elderly neighbours.

 

[classic33]

Trump on a bike, I've just remembered that I have tattoos. I'm just off to intimidate my elderly neighbours.

Just remember

I'm very lucky to have decent neighbours.

The bloke the OP describes, apart from being a chump of the highest order, ought to think carefully who he messes with. It's not unknown for old people to have adult children, and I've seen it before where someone messes with a senior citizen, only for their lunatic son to pay a visit and discuss matters through the medium of touch. Unintended consequences.

Aside from which, what kind of nodder behaves like that over 3 raspberry trees?

 

[Julia9054]

It's not an age thing. Where i used to live, my next door neighbours were in their 60s. They were obsessed with plants on my side touching the fence that divided our properties. They poured weedkiller on my garden, waited until we were at work and went in my garden and chopped things down, threw urine over my front door, yelled at visitors for shutting their car doors too loudly (in the middle of the day), reported us to the council because our children played musical instruments but refused to discuss with us what practice times were reasonable and refused mediation. Rumour has it that she keyed another neighbour's car and once threw boiling water over a dog.
We eventually moved. You don't realise how stressful it is. It took me ages to relax in my new home but we now live next to a lovely chilled young couple.

 

[Jody]

[QUOTE 5303567, member: 259"]I don't think it's an age thing. Some people just don't give a fark.[/QUOTE]

People seem to give less of it as the years go by. Although saying that most of the younger than us generation on our street are pleasant enough.

 

[TVC]

People seem to give less of it as the years go by. Although saying that most of the younger than us generation on our street are pleasant enough.

The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.

- Socrates

 

[marinyork]

Always found neighbours funny how willing people are to annoy other people and then down the line their car is getting taken for a joyride or house broken into or pet needs looking after or the snow needs digging for them. At that point that 'strange' neighbour becomes useful or the one you annoyed won't do anything for you!!!!

 

[Jody]

It's not an age thing. Where i used to live, my next door neighbours were in their 60s.

First conversation with the alpha oldie on our street and he was telling me how he poisoned a womans cats because he didn't like her. Then went into great detail about how you can do it, as if I wanted to know.

 

[rugby bloke]

So the OP claims to be the first person to shot down people who demonizes young people ... but then feels they can dismiss a whole generation on the basis of the actions of 2 people ?? It has to be said, this sort of lazy generalization that properly winds me up. Perhaps you should consider changing the title to "What is going on with my neighbours ?"

 

[marinyork]

The bloke the OP describes, apart from being a chump of the highest order, ought to think carefully who he messes with. It's not unknown for old people to have adult children, and I've seen it before where someone messes with a senior citizen, only for their lunatic son to pay a visit and discuss matters through the medium of touch. Unintended consequences.

Aside from which, what kind of nodder behaves like that over 3 raspberry trees?

Indeed. One person I used to work with who doesn't live very far away had a neighbour have a dispute with their mother and said some pretty silly things that was interpreted by said lunatic son to be threats and intimidation. Soon after there was a visit to the other person's house, waiting for them to leave, got chased down the road with a machete. They went back to prison mind, but not till after the visit. I'm not saying they shouldn't have gone back to prison and certainly shouldn't have done that, but there are quite a few of these people around once you consider farther than the few houses around you.