A tricky situation, what would you do?

[speccy1]

Right, here goes. Been worrying about this for a fortnight now, need some constructive advice

Anybody who knows me, knows that I love being my own boss, I love my freedom, hence my choice to be single. People think I`m nuts, but tough.....................

Anyway, I`m off to my mum and dads on Sunday for a bbq to celebrate my mums birthday, all was well until I found out that they have invited the couple who are their best friends - who I hate with serious venom. They always give it the "you not married then" or "where`s the mrs, you should have one by now" etc etc etc.....

It`s feck all to do with them, and up until now I have always laughed it off, or pretended to be ill and not turned up at all. I`m not prepared to do this this time. I`m going to go for my mum, but I WILL NOT TAKE their interfering this time.

But, what do I do when I get there? Do I take one of them to one side when I get there and say something along the lines of "back off and wind your necks in" or do I wait until they start in front of a crowd of people, as they usually do, and blow my top at them - which I`m quite prepared to do this time It will create an atmosphere and probably ruin the day, but it will get it out of my system!!

Or, yet again do I pretend to have the two bob bits??

Oh wise words of CC please help!

 

[Booyaa]

wait until they start in front of a crowd of people, as they usually do, and blow my top at them

This one. Stop hiding, let it all out.

 

[cosmicbike]

Bear in mind who you are there for, and act accordingly..

 

[Levo-Lon]

Just say you prefere drugs and whores..and gay nights are best..
they wont say feck all after that..

smile atcyour Mum

 

[speccy1]

Just say you prefere drugs and whores..and gay nights are best..
they wont say feck all after that..

smile atcyour Mum

Haha that would be a conversation killer

 

[snorri]

It would be a pity to spoil the birthday party for all, also the friendship between them and your parents.
I would opt for taking them aside and firmly pointing out that the comments are not funny or clever.
If they repeat the offensive comments, perhaps you could loudly express surprise that they are still together, considering the stories that you have heard circulating in the locality.

 

[jefmcg]

OK, it's annoying, but you seem to think it's somehow worse because you are single by choice. It's not. Imagine how horrible it would be if you had lost a partner to death or divorce, or you had spent decades trying to find someone. You made a choice, now own it.

If these slightly awful people are you worse problem, then you are lucky.

 

[Venod]

It doesn't matter, what they think, grin and bear it and keep your mum happy, that's what matters.

 

[Speicher]

Can you try a expression of "resigned indifference" in response to their rudeness and arrogance?

You slightly raise one eyebrow, tilt your head and say nothing. As soon as the opportunity presents, you move away from them and circulate or go to the kitchen to offer your assistance.

 

[Speicher]

It doesn't matter, what they think, grin and bare it and keep your mum happy, that's what matters.

Sort of what I was suggesting.

 

[ianrauk]

Just tell them to shut up.

 

[fossyant]

Tell them straight. Say, "have you not got it yet, I'm happy on my own. Look at all these bikes I can have in the house !"

 

[Katherine]

If they say 'Where's the Mrs?', just say, 'you said that last time!'

Happy Birthday to your mum.

 

[speccy1]

Love these replies, didn`t think of any of them, thanks everybody

Now, which to use first? Haha

 

[speccy1]

Tell them straight. Say, "have you not got it yet, I'm happy on my own. Look at all these bikes I can have in the house !"

Priceless!