luckyfox
She's the cats pajamas
- Location
- County Durham
That's not a bad way to do that. He can read it when he's feeling like it. Long isn't best tho'. Maybe write an old fashioned letter?
If you call round to see him you'll have to play it by ear. Be prepared to be rejected and if things "OK" don't stay too long
The last incident involved worrying comments he'd made then him not answering the door/texts/calls and I had to get help. I don't want to put him in that situation again. The following day I got a reply which was almost denial/blaming me and telling me not to contact him again. The email I've written is long but gives the understanding and reassurance I feel would help. We've been in stages of me being rejected before but we've always come back. This time i'm really not welcome because now I know. Without me he can keep the head in the sand but I do worry it will suffocate him. Given how long it's been without me knowing i think the email could be a positive to help dispel the underlying beliefs he has. I strongly get he is ashamed, embarrassed, humiliated but at his wits end with it. I've talked about my own struggles with mental health in the email which I feel he might resonate with.
I'm not in his head and I know it's difficult for anyone but the concept of who I am to him and trying to help is the worst possible idea to him. Yet I was the only one he told. I'm not going to over think it but to me it's a huge honour he would trust me with that. I love him to bits and of course I want to help however I can but I just don't want to make him worse.
I've read through the email and where it does give a lot maybe start slow. He always appreciate stupid pictures of my cat when he'd had a bad day...
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