Advice on neighbours and parties

[w00hoo_kent]

Party - Is it really going to cause you that much of a problem? We live next to a pub, sometimes they have do's that go on late. We live with it. At one point we were confronted with people quite a distance away with a petition for the council trying to get the landlord of the time moved on because of the noise. I asked what the landlords reaction to the petition was, they said they'd not told him they were doing it. I smiled and refused to sign. If you're worried, go and have a chat with the people, but really unless you've had problems like it before, I'd let it go.

Thug kid - sounds like he is unlikely to get better and if your kid has health issues then I can see why you'd want to protect him. I presume he could play outside before and now can't, that sort of thing. Letting his parents know it's not on is a start. Sadly it's probably worth creating a paper trail now in case things don't get better. Watch what is happening and try and react proportionately but make sure they know it's not on. Play up the sickly angle if you like, might help emphasise that the behaviour is not on.

 

[Piemaster]

I find a broadsword helps people to agree with me during such encounters.

Pfft...it's a bouncy castle.At least pick the right tool for the job.

Bonus...you don't even leave the castle house.

 

[dan_bo]

Pfft...it's a bouncy castle.At least pick the right tool for the job.

Bonus...you don't even leave the castle house.

 

[Gravity Aided]

Pfft...it's a bouncy castle.At least pick the right tool for the job.

Bonus...you don't even leave the castle house.

Or, you could have some friends by

 

[classic33]

Road closure applied for and got I take it!!

 

[screenman]

If health issues allow I would suggest that a good course would be to enroll your child in a Judo club, this will build masses of confidence and you will be suprised how the bullies stay away from kids with confidence. I feel that others may not agree with this but we have brought up 3 boys who have never been involved with fights nor despite 2 being gingers being picked on.

 

[summerdays]

I wouldn't have a problem with a one off party. Our next door neighbours are having a big one tomorrow, and initially warned us back in March. Ok I may get a little annoyed by the noise but I doubt it unless it does go on into the night (the teenagers from up the road occasionally have noisy parties, which can be irritating at the time but it's not very often). If it is noisy late into the night you could try phoning the police? I know my kids have arrived home from a party that the police broke up a couple of times, presumably because a neighbour complained.

As for the behaviour of the other boy, I think that is a separate issue. I don't know enough about council tenancies but maybe they have previous form in this regard. If so you will need to stay calm on your side and maybe report it to them. I can't imagine they would do anything at this stage but it could start a log of problems.

 

[vernon]

Get yourself invited to the party. Practise some entente cordiale and bear in mind the saying of Sun-tzu: 'Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer'

 

[w00hoo_kent]

If health issues allow I would suggest that a good course would be to enroll your child in a Judo club, this will build masses of confidence and you will be suprised how the bullies stay away from kids with confidence. I feel that others may not agree with this but we have brought up 3 boys who have never been involved with fights nor despite 2 being gingers being picked on.

Our advice in these situations was - first strike tell them it isn't funny and to stop, second strike tell an adult what happened and that you told them to stop, third strike hit them back - hard enough that they know it. It seemed to do the trick. They didn't get to three very often, but once it was known that they would bullies chose easier targets.

 

[Beebo]

Will it be a ticketed event, or can anyone from all around turn up? Who is paying for the band and bouncy castle? Who is clearing up afterwards?
I wouldnt want to organise a party like that without the necessary insurance and permits, it could go very, very wrong.

 

[cyberknight]

Will it be a ticketed event, or can anyone from all around turn up? Who is paying for the band and bouncy castle? Who is clearing up afterwards?
I wouldnt want to organise a party like that without the necessary insurance and permits, it could go very, very wrong.

These are my main concerns TBH , i like the idea but seems they have not thought it through enough.

 

[vernon]

These are my main concerns TBH , i like the idea but seems they have not thought it through enough.

Let them get on with it and you get on with your life. You can't live theirs for them as well as your own. If it really concerns you, pitch in with the organisation of the event and help with the tidying up. Lead from the front.

 

[luckyfox]

https://www.gov.uk/government/get-involved/take-part/organise-a-street-party

They had to contact the council etc for a small gathering where I live. If they haven't done this, stay out of the organisation so you dont get in trouble. As for the neighbour, if it's ongoing give then a knock and settle things or contact the council if you feel there is a serious problem. Not everyone thinks the same and it may be there way of dealing with things, blindly ignore/deny rude behaviour and use intimidation.

Either way lifes to short to worry about others, behind your front door is your own sanctuary. Like was said above, go away for a while haha

 

[ufkacbln]

How do you lot function in everyday life?

Perfectly adequately I suggest..........

I fail to see why you find a perfectly normal discussion a source of derision.

 

[Jordon Brooker]

I'd contact the council. I'm sure it's not something they would have approved of.