any legal eagles out there ?
- Thread starter peanut
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Sorry Peanut, my post wasn't very helpful.
At our old house a few years ago, our neighbours were reeeeally obnoxious to my parents, built a fence expanding their property by a few feet into ours, parked their cars in our driveway to clean their cars ....and that was just the tip of the iceburg.
So I told their kids that Santa wasn't real
Anyway - hope this gets resolved Peanut
At our old house a few years ago, our neighbours were reeeeally obnoxious to my parents, built a fence expanding their property by a few feet into ours, parked their cars in our driveway to clean their cars ....and that was just the tip of the iceburg.
So I told their kids that Santa wasn't real
Anyway - hope this gets resolved Peanut
Wow you lot get up early on a weekend.
Thank you all for your your helpful advice, it really has overwhelmed me. Theres me thinking I didn't have a friend in the world and I've got all you lot.
I am naturally very upset over all this. I may look like an 18 stone prop forward but underneath I hate any sort of violence, conflict or antagonism. I was so upset last night i couldn't eat my dinner my stomach was churning so much.I work hard to get along with people and however cross I may get its all gone by the next day. Life is too short.
My neighbours are basically snobs they hate me and everything about me. My car, my lifestyle, the fact that I don't go to their wine n cheese do's. Its not that I'm unfriendly , I suppose I'm a bit of a loner and find socialising very hard work.
The best I have been able to achieve over the past three years is a curt nod and a false smile at my greeting when we meet in the lane.They have been spreading themselves around the village ..councillor, chair person of various village commitees ..you know the sort. I do not have any allies because I keep myself to myself .
The rest of the lane are retired and are also pompous snobs having made a bit of money from their properties they now think they are better than everyone else. They treat me like a poor relation, with pity and contemp because I do not play their silly games .
There is no way I could build any bridges the situation has escalated way too far now . Whilst I would be prepared to make the effort I know from past experience they would not.
Any normal person would have stuck there head around the garden wall and said 'Nick would you mind mowing tomorrow as we have guests this evening' .
The best I can achieve is to be careful not to put a foot wrong to give them the slightest excuse to find fault and make things unteneable for me here.Keep my garden tidy my car clean ,make no noise and be above reproach.
Thank you all once again for all your kind thoughts concern and advice. I hope that I can be helpful and supportive to you some time when it really matters .
Thank you all for your your helpful advice, it really has overwhelmed me. Theres me thinking I didn't have a friend in the world and I've got all you lot.
I am naturally very upset over all this. I may look like an 18 stone prop forward but underneath I hate any sort of violence, conflict or antagonism. I was so upset last night i couldn't eat my dinner my stomach was churning so much.I work hard to get along with people and however cross I may get its all gone by the next day. Life is too short.
My neighbours are basically snobs they hate me and everything about me. My car, my lifestyle, the fact that I don't go to their wine n cheese do's. Its not that I'm unfriendly , I suppose I'm a bit of a loner and find socialising very hard work.
The best I have been able to achieve over the past three years is a curt nod and a false smile at my greeting when we meet in the lane.They have been spreading themselves around the village ..councillor, chair person of various village commitees ..you know the sort. I do not have any allies because I keep myself to myself .
The rest of the lane are retired and are also pompous snobs having made a bit of money from their properties they now think they are better than everyone else. They treat me like a poor relation, with pity and contemp because I do not play their silly games .
There is no way I could build any bridges the situation has escalated way too far now . Whilst I would be prepared to make the effort I know from past experience they would not.
Any normal person would have stuck there head around the garden wall and said 'Nick would you mind mowing tomorrow as we have guests this evening' .
The best I can achieve is to be careful not to put a foot wrong to give them the slightest excuse to find fault and make things unteneable for me here.Keep my garden tidy my car clean ,make no noise and be above reproach.
Thank you all once again for all your kind thoughts concern and advice. I hope that I can be helpful and supportive to you some time when it really matters .
Andy in Sig
Vice President in Exile
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- Sigmaringen, Germany
I think that discussing it with them is unavoidable and also not to be avoided. How about a mix of being conciliatory but firm e.g. "Look I'm sorry that my lawn mowing upset you last night but what you do not know is that I had put it off so as not to disturb you because I had heard your voices in the garden. I'm always prepared to accomodate your or anybody else's wishes as I have no desire to upset anybody. However, I do not take kindly to being abused by people who are the worse for drink and who therefore forget their manners. All it would have taken would have been a quiet, 'do you mind not doing that at the moment?' and I would have happily stopped." They sound like the kind of people who would happily use the kind of behaviour they exhibited as a stick with which to beat others and it won't hurt to get them on the back foot over it.
thomas
the tank engine
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- Woking/Norwich
Was this something they did just because they were drunk, or common behaviour? If I did that when drunk, and presumably remembered the day after I would be very apologetic the day after.
I'd go over and try and explain your side and just work things out. It's not easy though, I've had my last night at UNI the other day and there were definitely some people in the hall who I could of done without - loud music 24/7, stealing food (more than a bit of milk), never clearing up mess, etc...
With that I made the odd remark to the person, but knew that I didn't have to put up with him for the considerable future so wasn't that bothered. In your situation, just letting things slide probably won't work.
I think Cubist has some good ideas though
I'd go over and try and explain your side and just work things out. It's not easy though, I've had my last night at UNI the other day and there were definitely some people in the hall who I could of done without - loud music 24/7, stealing food (more than a bit of milk), never clearing up mess, etc...
With that I made the odd remark to the person, but knew that I didn't have to put up with him for the considerable future so wasn't that bothered. In your situation, just letting things slide probably won't work.
I think Cubist has some good ideas though
Black Sheep
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- Rammy
montage said:Sorry Peanut, my post wasn't very helpful.
At our old house a few years ago, our neighbours were reeeeally obnoxious to my parents, built a fence expanding their property by a few feet into ours, parked their cars in our driveway to clean their cars ....and that was just the tip of the iceburg.
So I told their kids that Santa wasn't real
Anyway - hope this gets resolved Peanut
so you installed a lockable parking bollard while the cars were on their drive?
