Apologies this morning
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I think this thread just goes to highlight different people's attitudes to others and our approach to dealing with everyday situations .
I would have done exactly the same as janm399 for all the reasons raised here. I too would have felt embarrased and felt the need to apologise for the other cyclist's behaviour. Its a sad fact that all cyclist's get branded with the silly inconsiderate and selfish actions of a very small minority . Every time we ride on the pavement, jump or bypass the lights, creep into a junction, and behave badly we simply re-inforce others negative opinions of cyclists.
I too have a quick fuse and need to take my own advice as I frequently shout out at motorist's who cut me up
I would have done exactly the same as janm399 for all the reasons raised here. I too would have felt embarrased and felt the need to apologise for the other cyclist's behaviour. Its a sad fact that all cyclist's get branded with the silly inconsiderate and selfish actions of a very small minority . Every time we ride on the pavement, jump or bypass the lights, creep into a junction, and behave badly we simply re-inforce others negative opinions of cyclists.
I too have a quick fuse and need to take my own advice as I frequently shout out at motorist's who cut me up
fossyant
Ride It Like You Stole It!
- Location
- South Manchester
My two most 'close dices with death' were due to 'mistakes' and drivers not looking at all - a loud 'oi' was all that was needed - I just carried on, despite having missed the car by inches. All this ranting.....just compounds the situation. If you are calm there is not much they can do !
gbb
Squire
- Location
- Peterborough
Hats off to you janm...you recognised a 'mistake' for what it was, accepted it and even went as far as making sure the driver didnt go away thinking we're all rabid holier than thou merchants. ( i say that tongue in cheek )
The stakes are much higher when you're driving...you should be much more careful of your actions, but reality dictates mistakes happen. That's human nature, and nothing in the world's going to change that.
Rant at the right time or accept an apology gracefully. I understand some contributors responses, we feel (and are) very vulnerable to others mistakes, but personally, i'd have acted exactly the way janm did.
)The stakes are much higher when you're driving...you should be much more careful of your actions, but reality dictates mistakes happen. That's human nature, and nothing in the world's going to change that.
Rant at the right time or accept an apology gracefully. I understand some contributors responses, we feel (and are) very vulnerable to others mistakes, but personally, i'd have acted exactly the way janm did.
BentMikey
Rider of Seolferwulf
- Location
- South London
User3143 said:Hmm..again you have answered a question for me without me even postingas well as bringing my family into this debate, really BM you have no class.
You would like someone swearing and shouting at your wife/mother for a mistake anyone could make? I can't imagine that's true, no matter what else I might think of you. Turning the situation around shows your shouty swearing approach is wrong and contemptible.
BentMikey
Rider of Seolferwulf
- Location
- South London
Anyway, back on topic, big up to Jan for dealing so well with the situation. I hope I can do as well as you in the same sort of scenario.
I'd be pissed off that someone decided to have a go on my behalf. I can look after myself and I'd rather not have someone representing me but from their own viewpopint and with their own opinion.
if I saw such and event and someone asked me to back them up I'd do so but I wouldn't just wade in. That's fairly arrogant assumption on behlaf of the other guy.
if I saw such and event and someone asked me to back them up I'd do so but I wouldn't just wade in. That's fairly arrogant assumption on behlaf of the other guy.
hackbike 6
New Member
- Location
- The Mile End Road.
Must admit I have done it in the past but it never made me proud.
In fact afterwards I feel like a right prannie so I try not to do it.Heat of the moment blah blah blah.
When someone does something stupid I mean.
In fact afterwards I feel like a right prannie so I try not to do it.Heat of the moment blah blah blah.
When someone does something stupid I mean.
U
User482
Guest
There's no excuse for a foul mouthed tirade in front of a woman and her kids. If we want to be respected, then we need to show some respect ourselves. I do sometimes get drivers to accept that they need to be more careful, but if you just swear and rant, the mental shutters come down and there's no way they'll take any notice of what you say.
Edited to add: I must admit to have using a few choice words in the heat of the moment one or two times - but I think that's a lot more forgivable than the situation described in the OP.
Edited to add: I must admit to have using a few choice words in the heat of the moment one or two times - but I think that's a lot more forgivable than the situation described in the OP.
hackbike 6
New Member
- Location
- The Mile End Road.
Hang on I had two kids throwing water bombs at me from one of those funny jeep cars a few years back and yes I did lose it.
There is no excuse for young kids yobbish behaviour and as that jeep was going at speed I could have been badly injured or involved in an accident with another vehicle if I had come off.
There is no excuse for young kids yobbish behaviour and as that jeep was going at speed I could have been badly injured or involved in an accident with another vehicle if I had come off.
Maz
Guru
I was once knocked off my bike by a driver as she overtook me on the approach to a mini roundabout. She stopped the car to check how I was. Her 2 young children watched open-mouthed through the rear windscreen at what had happened. She was clearly upset and apologetic and I was OK. I explained calmy what she did that caused the incident and she understood, although she was still clearly shaken. I'm so glad I didn't shout and swear at her - it wouldn't have helped either of us.
gbb
Squire
- Location
- Peterborough
hackbike 6 said:
And you'd be quite right in that situation to 'lose it'
That's a calculated deliberate act to endanger you....
BentMikey
Rider of Seolferwulf
- Location
- South London
gbb, I'd say it was totally understandable and excusable to lose it and swear in Hacker's situation, but still not the right thing to do. I'm sure I'd have done much the same.
