Being single

[jonny jeez]

I mean, I'm sitting up watching Poirot and baking oriental breads, neither of which I could do if not single!

why ever not?

 

[simon.r]

I think some here are getting 'living alone' and 'being single' mixed up - they're not the same

I sometimes think I have the best of both worlds. I have the benefits that come with living alone but I also enjoy the company of a fine woman 2 or 3 nights a week.

Aren't I the lucky one (smug smiley here please!)

P.S. - Have those of you who are single and don't want to be not heard of internet dating sites? Honestly, if you're anywhere near 'normal' there is absolutely no shortage of perfectly pleasant people out there. Though there are a fair few nutters as well ...

 

[jonny jeez]

I think some here are getting 'living alone' and 'being single' mixed up - they're not the same

I sometimes think I have the best of both worlds. I have the benefits that come with living alone but I also enjoy the company of a fine woman 2 or 3 nights a week.

Aren't I the lucky one (smug smiley here please!)

Must. resist. temptation. to. make. smutty. joke...must. resist

 

[jonny jeez]

Living with my Missus is tricky. Frankly she's, neurotic, over sensitive, obsessively clean, over organised, methodical, maternal, beautiful, intelligent, funny, engaging, sexy, spirited, fun....

...sorry what was the question.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

...dunno mate i moved on when you said neurotic

 

[Pat "5mph"]

StuAff said: ↑

Single forever. It would have been nice to have the choice not to be....but that's not mine to make.​

Pat "5mph" said: ↑

Yes it is.
Truth is all of us have had/ will have our chances.
For various reasons we let them pass us by.
Being in a relationship is hard work, but you get used to it, after a while one is hardly aware of the effort made.
Being single is also hard work, but you get used to it.
After many years of being single, though, it still takes me a lot of effort and organization to remember every single thing that has to be done, from paying the bills to get the milk in. ​

Have to disagree here. You cannot control other peoples feelings. You can try to influence them, but you cannot control them. This is especially true with something like romantic attraction which even the person feeling the attraction has no control over (attraction is not a choice). It is like when riding a bike you cannot stop someone pulling out into the road in front of you (you can try things to minimize the chance of it happening, but never directly stop it happening).

There are some things in life that affect you that you cannot control. The trick is knowing and dealing with what you can control and not worrying about the things you can't.

In a nutshell, are you trying to tell us you never ever had the chance at a relationship?
Or are you saying that you are continuously attracted to people that don't reciprocate?
Maybe if you paid more attention, that special someone shall reveal themselves

Ops: just realized al78 is not StuAFF ... confused!

I know the reasons of my spinsterhood - not telling the whole wide web
Guess if it was important to me at this stage of my life I would do something about it, like I did when I was younger (ah, memories!) but obviously it's not, so I'm more or less comfortably settled in my routine.
Until, maybe one day, somebody will come along to shake it all up, it has happened before
Frankly, I'm hoping in a quiet old age, not much upheaval, a few more cats perhaps: but I know, should cave man come drag me by the hair into his lair, I will be sharing the soap with no hesitation

 

[StuAff]

'Never had the chance at a relationship'? I suppose so. As far as I can know, no woman's ever had that kind of interest in me. Not one date. Not one kiss. Nothing. I tried to change that a few times, for all the good it did me (none whatsoever). Variations on the 'you're nice but...' speech, through to insults, lies, humilation. The one time I finally thought I'd found someone who might give me a chance....I found the worst of the lot. Imagine going straight from initial flirtation to a messy expensive divorce and you'd have the gist of it. I won't put myself through that again. I've got plenty of female friends, some of whom, had circumstances been different, I'd have been interested in...but it is what is. Given my track record and my all too often appalling taste in women (and the nice ones I'd rather stay friendly with) I'm resigned to my fate.

 

[al78]

StuAff said: ↑

Single forever. It would have been nice to have the choice not to be....but that's not mine to make.​

Pat "5mph" said: ↑

Yes it is.​

Truth is all of us have had/ will have our chances.​

For various reasons we let them pass us by.​

Being in a relationship is hard work, but you get used to it, after a while one is hardly aware of the effort made.​

Being single is also hard work, but you get used to it.​

After many years of being single, though, it still takes me a lot of effort and organization to remember every single thing that has to be done, from paying the bills to get the milk in. ​

In a nutshell, are you trying to tell us you never ever had the chance at a relationship?
Or are you saying that you are continuously attracted to people that don't reciprocate?
Maybe if you paid more attention, that special someone shall reveal themselves

Ops: just realized al78 is not StuAFF ... confused!

I know the reasons of my spinsterhood - not telling the whole wide web
Guess if it was important to me at this stage of my life I would do something about it, like I did when I was younger (ah, memories!) but obviously it's not, so I'm more or less comfortably settled in my routine.
Until, maybe one day, somebody will come along to shake it all up, it has happened before
Frankly, I'm hoping in a quiet old age, not much upheaval, a few more cats perhaps: but I know, should cave man come drag me by the hair into his lair, I will be sharing the soap with no hesitation

Oh I've had one relationship, lasted about eight months. Other than that, it always seems to be a case of either she isn't interested in me, or she is already in a relationship, or she is just out of a relationship and not ready to date, or she is just too busy, or she is moving to some far flung corner of the country/world/whatever. Imagine that for the last 15 years and that just about sums it up. I'm more relaxed about it these days, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't, I'll still keep going out socializing and taking opportunities as they come along.

 

[Pat "5mph"]

Well guy, what can I say?
Best of luck to you both, never say never

 

[BigonaBianchi]

..again

 

[Pat "5mph"]

..again

I didn't mean you happy chappy BOAB, but the two sad(ish) singletons Stuaff and al 78

 

[Night Train]

I keep looking at the top of the page waiting for 'DateChat' to appear.

 

[ColinJ]

I keep looking at the top of the page waiting for 'DateChat' to appear.

No, no, no - CycleChatUp!

 

[Cyclist33]

Living with my Missus is tricky. Frankly she's, neurotic, over sensitive, obsessively clean, over organised, methodical, maternal, beautiful, intelligent, funny, engaging, sexy, spirited, fun....

...sorry what was the question.

Och, you're getting the odd blow job, in other words.

 

[mcshroom]

Living with my Missus is tricky. Frankly she's, neurotic, over sensitive, obsessively clean, over organised, methodical, maternal, beautiful, intelligent, funny, engaging, sexy, spirited, fun....

...sorry what was the question.

Spot the point that Missus Jeez walked into the room