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matticus
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We've let it go about 3 years. Its the sort of thing that gets out of hand over time!
Best time to knock on neighbours door??
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I would happily knock on his door at 2.00am 
Jameshow
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Nice to see you back!
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- Glasgow
If in 3 years you never took the time to approach your neighbours in a friendly manner to discuss the matter, you can wait another few months imo.
Politeness goes a long way, especially if they are not aware of the issue.
If they are aware and you never mentioned it in all these years, they might think you don't bother.
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matticus
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Their house is behind ours. We only see them in winter when they leave the lights on and curtains open!
Incidentally, Court of CycleChat, why aren't THEY to blame for the lack of niceties , eh? Eh?!
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- Inside my skull
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- Glasgow
I'm not familiar with those kind of houses, but if the back gardens are back to back you must see each other in summer while cutting the grass, etc .... eh? eh?? @matticus
'cmon, 3 years, no chance for an "ah, the weather is pants this weekend"?
I know most folk on my street, have been living here 18 years.
If someone new moves in I always say hi, if they move in very near me I introduce myself, my cat and even my garden
What is this problem that needs solved immediately now, after 3 years?
I stand with my opinion, never mind knocking at their door, get to know them first
I have never spoken to my neighbour opposite however it is a busy main road. He appears to have 2 or 3 Tai ladies who living with him and they all work at Malton bacon factory. Nearly every weekend they seem to set the smoke detector off with something they are cooking. On some summer evenings they get the Karoke machine out and sing till the neighbours next door ask them to tone it down.
Last week during the heat wave he was out cutting the grass on his very over grown plot of land next to his house at 5:30 am
I was very tempted to go and have a conversation with him but I wasn’t sure I would be able to keep it civil.
Last week during the heat wave he was out cutting the grass on his very over grown plot of land next to his house at 5:30 am
I was very tempted to go and have a conversation with him but I wasn’t sure I would be able to keep it civil.
Dogtrousers
Lefty tighty. Get it righty.
Ok serious answer.
There's a wall at the end of our garden separating us from the next garden back. It was falling down. I had no idea who was responsible for it so I decided to get it fixed as part of some other work I was having done. But I needed to tell them what I was doing.
So I wrote a letter with all the details, in case there was no one in. Went round and knocked on the door at about 7pm one weekday IIRC There was someone in. Had a chat and handed them the letter.
Are they exhibitionists? 😂
For all you know there could be a golf/pottery making/swingers forum somewhere with an off topic section where someone is complaining that their voyeur neighbours have been causing them a boundary problem for the last three years.
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matticus
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Exactly. And we're all 4' tall, so can't see/talk over the fences.
nogoodnamesleft
Senior Member
It's an interesting aspect.
Whenever I've moved somewhere I (as the "arriving" person have always gone round to neighbours to introduce myself, normally on the day I move in.
When I moved to France the area I moved had a very established convention, when you arrive it is your responsibility to go round and introduce yourself. Even at social or recreational events eg I used to fly gliders and when anybody arrives at the airfield 1st thing they do is go round and shake hands/bise with everybody already present. And everybody always did it. That said, it was a very rural area.
I've no idea if there are conventions in the UK (as I've always gone round when I moved somewhere).
ebikeerwidnes
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House I was in before this one had a garden at the back
but there was a fence about 8 foot tall - partly due to a slope in the ground
I don;t think it is unusual for back to back neighbours (stop sniggering at the back - I now who you are - even if one of you has been off for a while back!!!!) to have little contact as sometimes it can be quite a way round the roads to get there
to get back to the topic - I would drop a note in - possibly witha small present like chocolates
some people work strange hours - and sometime variable ones
so you can never be sure a time is convenient
but there was a fence about 8 foot tall - partly due to a slope in the ground
I don;t think it is unusual for back to back neighbours (stop sniggering at the back - I now who you are - even if one of you has been off for a while back!!!!) to have little contact as sometimes it can be quite a way round the roads to get there
to get back to the topic - I would drop a note in - possibly witha small present like chocolates
some people work strange hours - and sometime variable ones
so you can never be sure a time is convenient
Profpointy
Legendary Member
As a bit of a tangent but along the same lines, a friend had moved to rural West Wales. Whilst he was Welsh he was more of a city boy, so was aware it might be a while before he'd really be accepted, as most true locals' families had been there for longer than the English have been in England. One day a neighbour, who he'd had realrively few dealings with mentioned that a local farmer had died and would he like a lift to the funeral. He barely knew the deceased but evidently my pal was now seen as part of the community so was expected to go to funerals as a matter of course.
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