Buying rounds of drinks: The Rules

[swee'pea99]

it doesn't prove/disprove 'manliness'. In fact, politely excluding yourself from rounds and standing up to the group/mob mentality is far more manly than just joining in like a sheep when actually you don't want to.

Ok, so let me see if I've got this straight.

Buying rounds doesn't prove/disprove manliness.
Refusing to buy rounds does prove manliness.
Buying rounds proves sheepliness.

Is that right?

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Ok, so let me see if I've got this straight.

Buying rounds doesn't prove/disprove manliness.
Refusing to buy rounds does prove manliness.
Buying rounds proves sheepliness.

Is that right?

Lets just discuss it over a pint.... Who's round is it again?

 

[I like Skol]

Ok, so let me see if I've got this straight.

Buying rounds doesn't prove/disprove manliness.
Refusing to buy rounds does prove manliness.
Buying rounds proves sheepliness.

Is that right?

No, you have got it spectacularly wrong!
Point 1, Yes
Point 2 No. Choosing not to buy rounds because you don't want to is good, maybe you are a really slow drinker or might only be there for the first couple and it would be unfair to buy a large round and not receive the same back or vice-versa.
Point 3, No but buying rounds even if you don't want to because you are afraid of being the odd one out is sheepish.

 

[Pale Rider]

Lets just discuss it over a pint.... Who's round is it again?

Yours, of course.

And after you've got them in, I will explain the difference between whose and who's.

http://englishplus.com/grammar/00000268.htm

 

[Electric_Andy]

Rules differ depending on what age you are. When 17/18 he's probably going out with larger groups of friends, who are not all good friends with each other. In that case, I would just say don't be the last to buy a round but don't be afraid to call people out if they're not paying.

Now in my 30's, if I'm with my actual friends we don't need to discuss the rules as we're all tripping over ourselves to pay and to not incur a cost to others.

I'm also going to be telling my son when he's that age, how much I probably wasted on booze in my teens and 20's, and if he'd actually rather drink water and have a mortgage deposit by the time he's 25!

 

[nickyboy]

But what still don't understand is why (as long as they aren't taking the p***), exclude, or suggest to exclude people on cheaper drinks? If they pay their round too, then what does it matter?

It is a polite thing to suggest so at to not pressure someone who drinks a cheap drink to subsidise the others. It's then up to the individual. If they want to stay in the round then that's great. But this way it gives them a "get out of the rounds" card

 

[nickyboy]

Rules differ depending on what age you are. When 17/18 he's probably going out with larger groups of friends, who are not all good friends with each other. In that case, I would just say don't be the last to buy a round but don't be afraid to call people out if they're not paying.

Now in my 30's, if I'm with my actual friends we don't need to discuss the rules as we're all tripping over ourselves to pay and to not incur a cost to others.

I'm also going to be telling my son when he's that age, how much I probably wasted on booze in my teens and 20's, and if he'd actually rather drink water and have a mortgage deposit by the time he's 25!

Money spent on alcohol is never wasted. I, on the other hand.....

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Yours, of course.

And after you've got them in, I will explain the difference between whose and who's.

http://englishplus.com/grammar/00000268.htm

Tripped up, thanks!

It is a polite thing to suggest so at to not pressure someone who drinks a cheap drink to subsidise the others. It's then up to the individual. If they want to stay in the round then that's great. But this way it gives them a "get out of the rounds" card

Ah right, sorry.

 

[ufkacbln]

Tell him not to buy any drinks at all...until he's 18 just like i did

Met a friend in town and went for a pint

Bumped into his son in the bar, made the usual comment about how he had grown

Proud father then declares "He is Eighteen in two weeks.

Bar maid leans over and removes yhevson's pint of Lager...... smiles and asks;


"You will be ordering soft drinks for the next two weeks then?"

 

[ufkacbln]

Money spent on alcohol is never wasted. I, on the other hand.....

Traditional;

He who buys meat buys many bones
He who buys land buys many stones
He who buys eggs buys many shells

But he who buys good ale- buys notthing else

 

[swee'pea99]

Traditional;

He who buys meat buys many bones
He who buys land buys many stones
He who buys eggs buys many shells

But he who buys good ale- buys notthing else

Non-traditional:

"If I had all the money I've spent on drink, I'd spend it on drink." - Sir Henry (at Rawlinson End)

 

[ufkacbln]

Non-traditional:

"If I had all the money I've spent on drink, I'd spend it on drink." - Sir Henry (at Rawlinson End)

Can you tell the time with a sundial?

 

[steverob]

Being someone who doesn't drink, I rarely go to any pubs (unless eating) so have never really followed what the rules are on who is supposed to buy what and when. The main occasion I do find myself in a pub is when we at work go for our lunchtime Christmas drinks (that typically span over the entire afternoon) and I have come up with one rule that has served me very well over the years and that is to make sure I buy the first round. Normally there'll be about five or six of us (out of the 20 or so in our office) who will turn up all together, so with all of them plus any people already there who are now finishing their first drinks, it means it can be quite an expensive round, but it works out in my favour later on. For some reason, the drunker my colleagues get, while they struggle to remember who bought the last round, it seems that buying the first sticks in their mind and even if it was now hours ago they will insist "nah, you've already bought recently, I'll get this one for you", meaning I'm sorted for soft drinks for the rest of the night. Not that I can stomach more than a few pints of that sugary post-mix stuff without it running straight through me, so I'll normally turn them down anyway, but still (to me) it's been an interesting phenomena to observe.

 

[youngoldbloke]

But what still don't understand is why (as long as they aren't taking the p***), exclude, or suggest to exclude people on cheaper drinks? If they pay their round too, then what does it matter?

Round of 3 drinkers, 1 & 2's drinks cost £1, 3's, 50p. Round costs £2.50. Therefore 3 ends up paying £2.50 for their 3, 50p drinks. and 1 & 2, £2.50 for their 3, £1 drinks = not very fair.

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Round of 3 drinkers, 1 & 2's drinks cost £1, 3's, 50p. Round costs £2.50. Therefore 3 ends up paying £2.50 for their 3, 50p drinks. and 1 & 2, £2.50 for their 3, £1 drinks = not very fair.

Thanks, I get it now. I thought it was the opposite way round and people were being excluded as they might take the p**s.