Put your fingers against the underside of the top run of the chain.
Turn the cranks a full 2.8 revolutions.
If the bones are not crushed, the chain is too loose.
If the fingers are severed, the chain is too tight.
You'll only get it wrong twice.
Basically, get it as tight as you can without it being stupid tight when it's on the big ring on the front (Right Hand Side) and the big cog at the back (LHS).
You don't need ever to ride this combination, but you need to know the chain will accommodate it.
Secondly, put it in the smallest two rings, Front and Back, and check it isn't flopping about. If it is, you need to adjust the rear derailleur, or more likely, a longer cage one.
Lastly, was your back-pedalling derailment problem an inherent one or a developed one?