cleavage perceptions

[bobg]

Got to go out, I'll look forward to revisiting this later

 

[taxing]

" I hope you wont be offended but I feel I out to say that you appear to be showing rather a lot of cleavage" Unwise choice of words I suggested.

Very unwise, it sounds more like a propsition than a request to cover up. I'd have recommended something like "So-and-so, I think your top button may have come undone." Or he could just mind his own business.

 

[Fnaar]

Exactly, perhaps he could have signed off his discrete word with "Oh, and get us a brew, there's a good girl."

ahem.

...there's a couple of points I'd like to get to grips with...

(My mind is basically a Carry On film..)

 

[jeltz]

Yes poor choice of words he would have been better advised to say something like "I think one of your buttons has come undone" and left it at that. The inference then is surely you can't be intending to show that much cleavage.

 

[Leah]

I was about to discuss the relevancy of someone in a position below me, and a position above me making a similar comment. Then my mind told me that was definately not a good addition to this conversation lol.

He shouldn't have said anything, if he was her boss and thought it was inappropriate then that's a different matter. I would probably also have been offended if I had been in her situation.

 

[goo_mason]

He could simply have said, "If you're selling those puppies, I'll have the one with the pink nose."


I'll get my coat....

 

[Globalti]

I detest this abbreviation but.... LOL!

 

[ChrisKH]

He could simply have said, "If you're selling those puppies, I'll have the one with the pink nose."


I'll get my coat....

WE had one trainee at work, very attractive girl, who wore open blouses and low tops. My manager asked me what I thought. I said they were great and had no problems with it (in jest). She then had to traipse into this poor girl's office and tell her to wear something a little more professional as our client's may get the wrong idea about what services she was offering. Of course she can get away with it as a) she is more senior and b) she's a woman. I don't think the guy did anything wrong although his choice of words were a bit poor. I would have kept schtum.

Needless to say, my manager was proved right; the new trainee complained the next week that the office dog (partner) had taken her to a lap dancing club and had said what a great pair of **** she had. No kidding. She covered up after that.

 

[Fnaar]

I'd have whistled the theme tune to "Cheggers Plays Pop"

 

[Yellow Fang]

This is more a questions on cleavages in general rather than at work, but if a woman is displaying a lot of cleavage, is it ok to look? I mean if it's on display then surely it's not fair to expect you to avert your eyes. It might be considered more rude not to look.

As for your friend making that comment - just let her get on with it. He's not a priest, is he, or her boss? It's not actually causing him offense (like it might do if I walked around the office in my lycra cycling shorts). Was he worried she was coming on to him? If it was causing offense then maybe the better response may have been to approach the personnel manager.

 

[rich p]

On the surface its something quite daft. The typical (Male) responses might be "have a sly look and enjoy the view" or as you said "avert your eyes and do nothing!.

But seeing as I hate all this feminist and PC rubbish; I understand your friends line of thought; and think it should be perfectly acceptable for him to have "discreatly" brought it to her attention. s with his example of flyes undone, the same would duly be done.

Me too!
Bring back the days when we could all have a good laugh at Love Thy Neighbour, call a wog a wog, we could wolf whistle girls - ah those were the days

p.s. Have ever tried spellcheck?

 

[magnatom]

What has this got to do with cycling, a breast?


IGMC

 

[Over The Hill]

I found out the rules on if it is tarty are;
Bit of clevage is OK
Bit of leg is OK
Both at the same time is tarty.
(so agreed six women where I worked)

Once I found out this formula I could have fun guessing if it was going to be boobs or legs day.

Some did not like their legs so were always boobs. Some alternated betweent the two. But you never got both at the same time.

 

[summerdays]

I've had one friend who has been told that she was displaying a bit too much in one particular top ... but she seemed to take it ok - and was re-telling the story - but I don't know who told her and I think they were senior to her. But a lot could depend on personalities.

I know that in a previous office that I worked in they ended up bringing in a dress code to deal with one woman who kept wearing low cut tops and short skirts rather than dealing with her directly. Mind you even if I'd of been her boss I would have been scared to tell her directly.

 

[Yellow Fang]

All the women in my office are muslims except for one 60-year-old. You don't even get to see their hair