Daughter #1 to Uni - Question 2!
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He took a job nearer to the University and then bought a flat that he and his daughter could share!
That way they could "keep an eye on her"
We have tried to explain about University being about finding yourself, socialising with peers and generally making your own way, but they will not back down on this.
He took a job nearer to the University and then bought a flat that he and his daughter could share!
That way they could "keep an eye on her"
We have tried to explain about University being about finding yourself, socialising with peers and generally making your own way, but they will not back down on this.
nice, but no cigar. A Mac she can have. It's a computer (of sorts). An I-Pad is a statement.She'll be getting a Mac ....
To be almost serious, though. You're going to have to find out - that's the sad truth about the matter. The difficult part is getting her to be candid. You don't want her going short, or walking miles in the rain, which means relying on her to tell you truthfully how she's managing. If my limited experience is anything to go by, the risk you run is that she'll not tell you if she's hard up.
Arch
Married to Night Train
- Location
- Salford, UK
Bah, ironing and cleaning can be struck off the list, who needs to do those?
The answer of course, at 16, is to start training her in these dark arts now. It's quite possible to be a useful mature 18 year old at Uni, or to be useless. The only way to learn this stuff is to do it.
FF, I was 30 when I went to Uni, so I was fairly grown up, but my Mum still delighted me with letters and little gifts throughout term. Nothing too clingy, just the sort of little parcel that would delight her - whether that's a £5 M and S token (to spend on posh food or pants), or a packet of instant noodles.
I did an OU degree before I went away to Uni, and on my first summer school (aged about 23), I opened my case in my room to find a little handsewn lavender filled teddy bear Mum had slipped in without me knowing. He stayed with me all week, and went to each year's exams, and then all through my undergrad and postgrad years at York. I have him still. Just as she has the little knitted bear I sent her when she started her degree, aged 70.
Can't beat teddy bears.
mattobrien
Guru
- Location
- Sunny Suffolk
Teach her not to inhale, that way there's plausible deniability if she takes political office in later life. Worked for Bill Clinton...
Also teach her to buy her own and to pass to the right :-)
Also teach her to buy her own and to pass to the right :-)
Cubist
Still wavin'
- Location
- Ovver 'thill
Survival cooking..... as if we needed to tell you! I used to shop in the market at closing time on a Saturday, which meant we could get a sackful of cheap fruit and veg, and found 101 ways to cook mince. We ate like Royalty to be fair, with Spag Bol and Curry as staples. So a couple of easy recipe sheets from you would be a treat.
Red Cross parcels.... what does she really love? Fave chocolate/sweets? She'll also need a pack of cupboard medicines, and if you can bring yourself to do it a pack of three would show her you trust her to make her own adult judgements.
Red Cross parcels.... what does she really love? Fave chocolate/sweets? She'll also need a pack of cupboard medicines, and if you can bring yourself to do it a pack of three would show her you trust her to make her own adult judgements.
pubrunner
Legendary Member
Funnily enough, I thought the same thing !
Aperitif
Meme bar
- Location
- ...I don't have much idea - really.
A television licence?
My son was furnished with one of these on commencement. After a quick beer with him and saying ta ta, I left him in the company of his next-door neighbour at halls. The telly had 'fallen' onto the floor later that night and was never used, the cutlery was dispersed 'according to need' during the subsequent weeks or days (not sure), no sign of any pans during periodic visits, file paper everywhere, along with expensive text books. The PC with iTunes was the altar of studentism (along with boom boom sound output) and that was about it.
A frisbee
Good for breaking the ice, windows and jeans.
Non-perishable food parcels.
Avoids mould growth, although once cans are open...who knows.
After 'Freshers Week' that was it. Friendships were made, notes compared and peer groups were formed. 'Needs' thereafter were minimal.
My son was furnished with one of these on commencement. After a quick beer with him and saying ta ta, I left him in the company of his next-door neighbour at halls. The telly had 'fallen' onto the floor later that night and was never used, the cutlery was dispersed 'according to need' during the subsequent weeks or days (not sure), no sign of any pans during periodic visits, file paper everywhere, along with expensive text books. The PC with iTunes was the altar of studentism (along with boom boom sound output) and that was about it.
A frisbee
Good for breaking the ice, windows and jeans.
Non-perishable food parcels.
Avoids mould growth, although once cans are open...who knows.
After 'Freshers Week' that was it. Friendships were made, notes compared and peer groups were formed. 'Needs' thereafter were minimal.
My Niece is off to Chester Uni on the 23rd. She is the second generation to go. She has got her head screwed on, she has got herself in decent fully catered accommodation so she doesn't need to worry about buying food. I expect she will end up with loads of money left as boys and social life come after doing her work.
She's also going to be dropped off by all her family mum, dad, her two sisters and brothers. I have given her some ring binders and the latest copy of Judy Bells doing your research project (best book ever as it show you how to write a decent essay).
I think attitudes to university have changed now since students are paying a small fortune to attend.
She's also going to be dropped off by all her family mum, dad, her two sisters and brothers. I have given her some ring binders and the latest copy of Judy Bells doing your research project (best book ever as it show you how to write a decent essay).
I think attitudes to university have changed now since students are paying a small fortune to attend.
vernon
Harder than Ronnie Pickering
- Location
- Meanwood, Leeds
Oh no they haven't!
My two undergraduate offspring are intent on exploring every bar and dive within staggering distance of their accommodation.
Ex-sixth formers dropping into school to pay their teachers a visit after their first term paint a similar picture.
Don't buy too much kitchen stuff, it will disappear over the course of three years. Warn her of the perils of the tumble dryer. A lemon cut in half and sprinkled with salt will get rid of "that smell" in the fridge. Beware of arse holes and people handing out flyers. Join clubs/societys and meet as many people as she can. Remember to visit the library in week 12 and don't fail first year.
Matthew_T
"Young and Ex-whippet"
- Location
- Prestatyn, North Wales
Talking about growing up, I will be commuting at very adult hours. On Tuesdays I will be leaving the house at 7.30 in the morning and getting home at 9.30 at night.
My mum is not very happy with me commuting that late, but I am not going to be getting the bus (unless it snows and it is terrible weather.
I just need to make sure that I dont mention it so that they wont get worried until I start commuting in a fortnight.
My mum is not very happy with me commuting that late, but I am not going to be getting the bus (unless it snows and it is terrible weather.
I just need to make sure that I dont mention it so that they wont get worried until I start commuting in a fortnight.
