depressed!

[gambatte]

Reckon I'd be there too. Our lass would be likely to be sympathetic, but with a definite hint of 'well you chose to cycle'. The kids'd probably take her lead too.
Strange thing is. I didn't use to wear a helmet. I started after the haranguing I got from her and others. I got her a helmet too, after I got her a bike, so as she'd be able to get to the allotment, whilst I was at work.
The helmets never used. She doesn't "go on the road that much, mainly rides on the pavement"!

 

[Beebo]

Your wife and friends are probably worried about you and at the same time very glad you werent hurt.

When I got knocked off my wife was constantly telling me not to cycle again, but I could see that this reaction was out of worry and love.

Keep your wife and friends on side, explain to them what cycling means to you and I am sure they will come round in the end.

(I wear a helmet and some high vis as a compromise with the wife)

 

[tongskie01]

Your wife and friends are probably worried about you and at the same time very glad you werent hurt.

When I got knocked off my wife was constantly telling me not to cycle again, but I could see that this reaction was out of worry and love.

Keep your wife and friends on side, explain to them what cycling means to you and I am sure they will come round in the end.

(I wear a helmet and some high vis as a compromise with the wife)

this is what i thought. especially when the medical officer was asking me if i was wearing a helmet. i told her that wearing a helmet has nothing to do with my injury. for them its the ''what if'' that worries them a lot. it has only been 2 months that i fell off my bike and hurt my knee "my own fault". and same thing, i wasnt wearing a helmet. well, i thought if i was wearing one, it did not save me from my injuries.

i will probably get depression if i dont go back to cycling. i feel a lot happier and its my hobby too. i got 5 bikes already. i dont like going to the gym as what my wife is doing...i am an outdoor person.
i might just wear wear a helmet to keep wife happy and out of worries.

 

[Poacher]

On your own head be it!




Sorry!

 

[tongskie01]

 

[BSRU]

I wear a helmet to soothe the better half but also told her lots of stories of the dangerously stupid things I have done in the past and compared to them road cycling seems alot safer.

 

[fossyant]

Get back out there you softie . Tell 'em to shove it.

My wife knows not to say anything, and I even told her that going back to 'cycle commuting' I would end up in an accident at some point. Only took a year for that to happen !

I'm 3 years post that accident and didn't stop cycling, but have been left with permanent damage that requires medication. I can fully appreciate you are 'low' - I've even had to go to the NHS Psychological Services to get my brain checked, but I'm not 'depressed' yet - my GP has to keep an eye on me. I've just finished a six week CBT training course which helps with dealing with long term conditions.

Anyway, road cycling, even commuting in a city, is far safer than MTB'ing, especially with all those trees that dive out in front of you, and suicidal rocks, never mind manic mud (but don't tell the missus or she'll never let you do it)

 

[Shaun]

Just tell her: "I've found a helmet love, but it's bit expensive - what to go halves?" - and bring this up on your PC:

http://www.wiggle.co.uk/giro-aeon-garmin-cervelo-team-road-helmet/



Sometimes though, it's best just to give in and do what makes your partner feel happier/less worried - Mrs. Admin is the same and won't let me leave the house without a helmet - despite the various discussions we've had about them over the years.

I figure it's best to wear a helmet ... as the alternative would leave me with no one to brag to when I got home after a long ride.

 

[Maz]

i feel like , it was my fault for being hit by a car while cycling to work. my non cycling friends including wife seems to blame me because of my mode of transport.

What actually happened?

 

[BentMikey]

That helmet thing, it's insidious, and whilst it's meant from the heart, from people who love you and care about you, it's actually rather bad behaviour.

 

[fossyant]

That helmet thing, it's insidious, and whilst it's meant from the heart, from people who love you and care about you, it's actually rather bad behaviour.

Ah but sometimes it makes for an easier life to obey the boss - less ear bending ! More bike purchases !

 

[Arjimlad]

There's been a lot of bandying about of some very dodgy stats about the dangers of cycling recently, which may make people more worried than they should be.

By all means pop a helmet on if it keeps your loved ones happier, though. I hope you'll be back on the bike soon. Getting out & about in the daylight in fresh air has to be good for your mental health.

My wife tells me to go out shooting if I get a bit grumpy (!) as she knows it always cheers me up. Either that or she has checked out our insurance policies very carefully !!

 

[Dan_h]

Statistically cycling is no more dangerous than most other forms of transport, and a helmet does not make much difference to that. Oddly though people have a perception that it is an inherently dangerous thing to do. I am often told by people that I must be brave to ride to work, it is only 13 miles but to listen to some people opinions you would think it was 13 miles through crocodile infested swamps while being hunted by people with shotguns!

 

[Edge705]

I had a serious accident in 2004 lost a chunk of muscle from my leg the wound was that deep they could not get it stitched because of the loss of blood - I hit a road barrier (fixed) at 20mph I skewed the bike to avoid it but my left side thigh took the impact as I came to a sudden stop my head projected forward and hit the the lampost (next to the barrier) full pelt it stayed in tact but split right down the polystyrene such was the force I was concussed and thought I was a gonna - As fast as it happened I came round and a taxi driver and ambulance were on scene - I have to say that helmet saved me from a great deal of trauma Im convinced of that However my unprotected leg was not so lucky I suffered a deep gash and subsequently fractured my pelvis I didnt get out of hospital for 8 weeks and didnt return to work for 6 months

I guess what Im geting at is I could of died that day I say could of Im sure of it such was the thud - I think if your times up its up for example Ive had a couple of Offs since and ended up on the road by chance no cars were behind me

Basicaly no matter what precautions you take if your times up its up you cant go on through life worrying about what might happen - you can reduce the possibility - but never the outcome

 

[Maz]

I had a serious accident in 2004 lost a chunk of muscle from my leg the wound was that deep they could not get it stitched because of the loss of blood - I hit a road barrier (fixed) at 20mph I skewed the bike to avoid it but my left side thigh took the impact as I came to a sudden stop my head projected forward and hit the the lampost (next to the barrier) full pelt it stayed in tact but split right down the polystyrene such was the force I was concussed and thought I was a gonna - As fast as it happened I came round and a taxi driver and ambulance were on scene - I have to say that helmet saved me from a great deal of trauma Im convinced of that However my unprotected leg was not so lucky I suffered a deep gash and subsequently fractured my pelvis I didnt get out of hospital for 8 weeks and didnt return to work for 6 months

I guess what Im geting at is I could of died that day I say could of Im sure of it such was the thud - I think if your times up its up for example Ive had a couple of Offs since and ended up on the road by chance no cars were behind me

Basicaly no matter what precautions you take if your times up its up you cant go on through life worrying about what might happen - you can reduce the possibility - but never the outcome

Sorry to hear about that injury, Edge705. You have a very philosophical outlook, though.