Difficult start

[User10119]

I quite liked this, on the subject...
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...n-disabilities-special-needs-mumsnet-campaign

What you can do
• You can't always tell when someone has a disability. Respond kindly, not judgmentally.
• Don't make assumptions about a child's potential based on a label. People with disabilities have a range of capabilities, just like anyone else.
• If people seem to be struggling, ask: "How can I help?" or "What do you need?"
• Saying "at least it's not cancer" is not helpful.
• If there is a child with a disability in your child's class, invite him or her over to a playdate, or include him or her on the birthday party list. Too many parents of children with special needs kids say their kids miss out on peer activities.
• And one last time: don't stare. Really. Just don't.

 

[Electric_Andy]

Maybe not an excuse but a possible explanation.
The OP didn't state that they were actually asked to leave, just that the - ' the manageress came and made it very clear that we should leave by giving Abi evil looks and tutting disapprovingly!'
That seems, on the face of it, to be a subjective take on the scenario.

I disagree. If you work in hospitality and have the cheek to tut and raise eyebrows at a customer, whether they are autistic or not, then you don't deserve to work in hospitality. A person doesn't have to hear the words "you're ejected" to have their meal and their day ruined. A large part of any job is to serve a client/customer/patient with respect, despite the fact that you might not feel up to it, or you might not feel happy at that moment.

 

[Sharky]

Thanks Sharky,
Good to hear that that you managed tot get her off the respiridal. Hope you managed to get some sleep! Have a safe drive to Dover.
Easytigers

Thanks and thanks for all those "likes" from others. I slept fairly well, but my OH did get up a couple of times. Good drive to Dover and then went to Herne Bay and found a nice little pub on the front, the Ship Inn over looking the sea. But it was so misty, we could only see to the other side of the road. Will return for another visit when it's sunnier.

 

[Dirk]

I disagree. If you work in hospitality and have the cheek to tut and raise eyebrows at a customer, whether they are autistic or not, then you don't deserve to work in hospitality. A person doesn't have to hear the words "you're ejected" to have their meal and their day ruined. A large part of any job is to serve a client/customer/patient with respect, despite the fact that you might not feel up to it, or you might not feel happy at that moment.

I didn't say that I condoned the actions of the member of staff; merely that it was a possible explanation for their actions.