hard decision work related

[jamma]

I know this isn't really cycling related but i have been given a hard decision at the other job i work at. They are saying i have to choose which job i want to stay at due to me being exhausted from being tired and drained all the time but i can't really afford to lose the job as its put me more financially better off but has left me with virtually no free time for myself i.e less time riding.

I really don't know what to do?


If your just going to post bullsh!t replies please just do me a favour of not posting.

 

[PeteXXX]

Only you can sort out your work life balance, but I think your employer has the right to expect that you are not too knackered to do your job.

It's up to you to know if you can survive financially with the wage of a single job.

 

[steve50]

"the other job" you work at...i take it you are holding down two jobs?
Long hours, not enough rest, constantly tired????
You are on a collision course to serious health issues if you carry on as you are, your employers are probably seeing the change in you and by giving you this ultimatum they are trying to help you out.
Money isn't everything, yes it buys the extra luxuries in life and can pay for holidays etc but if you are totally exhausted from earning the extra money how are you going to enjoy it, as you have already stated, you don't even have time to enjoy your bike.
Time to take stock methinks, think about your health and welfare , weigh up your options, I'm willing to bet you will be a lot happier with more leisure time and a little less money.

 

[Brandane]

Money is not everything; if your job is making you ill then it's not worth doing (I speak from experience).
Without your health you have nothing - see your Doctor for proper advice rather than posting on a cycling forum.

 

[TVC]

When they are saying you have to choose, how are they doing this, is it just a supportive word from your boss or formally in writing? If it's the formal route then I'm afraid it may be the beginning of a process where they end up making the decision for you.

What ever route they clearly have concerns about your performance and possibly health.

To be constructive, is there an opportunity of slightly longer hours or promotion at job 1 to improve your income without having to work the hours you currently do? Also is there any prospect of a job 3 paying what you need and dropping both jobs 1 and 2?

 

[derrick]

I did the same thing in my youth, It was only for about 4 or 5 months, Getting the deposit together for a mortgage, You can do it for a while but not for too long, You will make yourself ill. But you have to make the choice.

 

[jamma]

[QUOTE 4278939, member: 76"]What are the two jobs?
College catering techinian and Tesco general assistant (counters)
Which is your favourite?
Tesco due to interaction with customers
Which pays the best?
Tesco £7.39 (£7.60 in june)
Which do you want?

Could you do both if something else changed?
Not sure
[/QUOTE]

 

[classic33]

What were your reasons for taking on a second job in the first place?

 

[jamma]

When they are saying you have to choose, how are they doing this, is it just a supportive word from your boss or formally in writing? If it's the formal route then I'm afraid it may be the beginning of a process where they end up making the decision for you.

What ever route they clearly have concerns about your performance and possibly health.

To be constructive, is there an opportunity of slightly longer hours or promotion at job 1 to improve your income without having to work the hours you currently do? Also is there any prospect of a job 3 paying what you need and dropping both jobs 1 and 2?

It wasn't formal letter just a chat saying go home and think about it hardly any chance of getting a promotion in job 1 but alot more overtime and hardly any chance of getting a third job with paying what i need

 

[jamma]

What were your reasons for taking on a second job in the first place?

Not enough hours at the first job so picked the second job up which might give me stepping stone into the industry

 

[TVC]

It wasn't formal letter just a chat saying go home and think about it hardly any chance of getting a promotion in job 1 but alot more overtime and hardly any chance of getting a third job with paying what i need

Are you saying that there is a chance of more hours at Tesco, the better paid job? If so, that has got to be the best option.

If your employer is noticing - even informally - that you are fried then you have to do something. They wouldn't get involved otherwise because it can be a minefield. As example I had one of my reports have their performance drop right off and their mood change. We found out that to make ends meet they had taken on a cleaning job and was doing three hours of physical graft before they even clocked on with us every morning. We had to raise it with him because we were concerned about his well being and safety, but employment law is difficult and we had to tread very carefully.
Your boss's concerns should be listened to.

 

[screenman]

Out of interest what are your average total working hours per week.

 

[gbb]

Why does ot leave you exhausted Jamma ?
Is it physically demanding ?. If it is, you probably cant change that and will/may just drive yourself into the ground.
Is it mentally demanding ?. That can be just as exhausting but you may be able to change that, pressure is sometimes self induced and can be modified. Its a state of mind, relax and enjoy the job a bit more and all of a sudden...its not so bad. Also, if its mental pressure, can some of it be alleviated by better management, spreading tje load, perhaps you could make suggestions to your manager. That said, o always found management never use your solutions/suggestions...they'll usually find an alternative that suits them more.

 

[gbb]

And as said, money isnt everything.
I worked for years (23 of them) in a moderately lpw paid job...because I loved the job and the people I worked with. It meant I couldnt even consider pensions and buying a house until I was 40 but it isnt the end of the world. I brought mine at 40ish (my council house) and the years paying rent made the discount greater...I live in a modest house but its mine and cost not a lot...so despite my very modest wages for years...I did ok.
None of this may not even remotely relate to you...but it might. You can sometimes take a longer view.

 

[marinyork]

If your employer is noticing - even informally - that you are fried then you have to do something.

It's hard to say. There are some funny busy bees in businesses, I've seen it where a supervisor or manager (retail) finds out from gossip from another member of staff that someone shock horror has another job and then they can react to that person with distrust, or seeing things that aren't there and treating them with suspicion. On the other hand they may have noticed based on something concrete.