High Schools

[fossyant]

What is it with kids when they go from Primary to High School that turns them into horrible creatures ?

I've said before we've had trouble with my son being bullied at Primary, and this culminated in July when 3 kids jumped my son when on a visit to High School. These were kids from the Pimary. Anyway, we involved the police as the Primary had been inefectual, and even the Secondary Head advised that he'd get the Police involved. That got 'dealt' with, and my son has only had one incident since from this lad, but he responded and hurt the other kid.

Anyway, given the past, the ex. Primary kids are nearly all 'against' my son. In the last few months, his PE kit went 'missing' for a week - then turned up on his desk, calculator stolen, pens stolen, BIKE lock thrown away (only have part of it), mobile smashed, and latest, scratches down face from one girl he doesn't get on with.

The phone issue was one lad rummaging through my son's blazer, scuffle starts, phone gets smashed, lad gets smack in head for it (off my son). I mentioned this to the lads parents as I know them and they 'insisted' their son was in no way involved and I was wrong. Lets say School investigated and the other lad was lying and school have asked him to contribute to another cheap phone - I'm awaiting an apology from his parents (I think it will be a long wait).

The scratches ended up with my wife calling in on this girls family for a chat with the mum. Looks like some tail telling has gone on, but we don't think this can be patched up.

What we did find out is that because 'we' had been to the police, certain parents (AKA this busy body and her cronies) thought we'd gone too far and they had 'excluded us'...... 'erm we weren't part of this clique ? WTF Nothing lost but it's no wonder we've had the reaction from the 'phone' parents - they are in the same 'group'. It's laughable as the 'blokes' still talk to me - these mums are obviously on some 'power' trip.

Seriously considering a school move, but this one is the best academically in the area, others are a significant distance away. Off to see the deputy head tomorrow !!

 

[summerdays]

Sorry to hear that the troubles have followed him. I do know of a child who was having bullying problems at their new school who did the first term in one school and then swapped to be at the same school (and class) as my youngest. As far as I know he has settled in the new school (just hoping any problems don't follow him).

What sort of percentage of children have come from his ex-school? Are they all in his class or spread throughout the year? And has he made new friends? I don't know when you make the choice to look at another school.

 

[SomethingLikeThat]

Kids in years 7-10 can become quite nasty sometimes. I think it must the hormones starting to take hold.

 

[alecstilleyedye]

year 8 was a nightmare for my eldest, something to do with girls' friendship groups that i don't for a moment pretend to understand.

she's having a much better time now, in year 10…

 

[fossyant]

My wife is on the PTA and was chatting with one of the teachers who said they all 'fall out' at this time of year as it's a bit of a 'shock' to the system starting high school. The old primary makes up about a 5th of the year and all are spread out in various classes. The lads my son is with were 'ok' at primary. Just so happens that all Year 7's congregate in one area, which isn't well supervised, so all sorts of trouble happens.

We are going to see if he can sort the 'situation' out, as we will need to be supportive, but I don't think talking to other parents works - I was really pleasant to the lads dad who broke my sons phone, but he was really 'sharp' about it. They all go round winding each other up.

 

[Black Sheep]

I had a bit of a rough time at junior school but it was just one kid and his mates, ironically, the only child in the class who's mum was a teacher at that school!

I went to a different school to the rest of my class except for 4 other children, and I, again had a rough time of it and resorted to just trying to keep out of the way.

Found out a few years after starting uni that mum and dad had thought of swapping me schools, the only option being over the county boarder but they chose not to. For some reason, some children will always be picked on and bullied regardless of what they do

 

[craven2354]

I'm 19 and left school only a few years back . The parents always think their child is the perfect child and that he couldn't do anything wrong so I can't see you getting through to the parents as they'll think your the lier (even if this isn't the case) I was excluded many times a is had a bad temper in school but everytime something happened the school were not much use as they only care about their own reputation rather than the children (maybe not true for all schools) I don't think you need to remove your child from the school but I do think you need to get the school to monitor your child's situation as it can get nasty if it exsulates

 

[biggs682]

Kids in years 7-10 can become quite nasty sometimes. I think it must the hormones starting to take hold.

too true

 

[Milo]

I was actually permanently expelled from a primary school. Got it mostly out my system and stayed mainly trouble free through secondary. Weird way to go around it but hay ho i'm ok now I think.

 

[Sandra6]

My experience has been slightly different. I've noticed children become worse in the last year of primary but quieten down considerably that first year of high school - no longer the big fish in a small pond, just another tiddler in a lake! If they're of the sort to be vile though it won't last and their natural attitude will resurface by year 8.
My daughter was bullied for two years after we moved house and she started a new school, changing schools wasn't an option as there wasn't another school to go to. Fortunately she was strong enough to cope with it and rode it out, as soon as she went to high school it stopped as she found new friends from outside the area and has remained friends with them right through school.
I would seriously consider moving your son if things are bad for him though. Academic success isn't the only measure of a good school imo.