How should I tell my parents and the in-laws?

[Andrew_Culture]

My now wife was 16 and I was 17 when we had to tell ours, there was not a lot of joy from them. 39 years later we are still extremely happily married and showed them all wrong.

According to some figures I would be more than £450,000 better off if we had not had the 3 boys, would I rather have the money, well the wife tells me know I would not.

I love this post so much!

 

[lukesdad]

LM s fancy man told me !

 

[Tribanite]

wait until the first scan. my bro-in-law told the world and 1 week before the scan, they unfortunately lost the baby.

his wife is pregnant again and this time they told only immediate family before the scan. she is doing fine this time. fingers crossed for a healthy baby late summer :-)

 

[deanE]

I remember that my mothers first words were “ Well don’t expect me to baby sit”. We didn’t, Her loss.

 

[subaqua]

for the 1st we told wifeys mum and dad at his bedside while he was recovering from chemotherapy when wifey was 8 weeks, he died the next day from a massive stroke. we told my mum and dad a week later at his funeral and swore all to secrecy till scans.

2nd pregnancy we told them at 12 weeks but we lost G at 25 weeks
3rd to 10th all miscarried between 16-18 weeks and we didn't tell anybody ( wifey is factor V leidon and we were guinea pigs for a drug treatment devised by Prof Reagan at St Marys Paddington.
for youngest we told family after 25 weeks.

we just said wifeys pregnant all times.

oh and if anybody is going through the hell we did between 2nd and 10th then PM if you need to talk I know what you are going through and talking to somebody who has been there really helps.

oh and BTW congrats on the pregnancy .

 

[byegad]

If you hadn't found out from the pregnancy and alcohol thread Mrs Black Sheep is about 3 weeks pregnant, so very early stages and many things can, unfortunately, go wrong.

However, if something does go wrong then she'll most likely talk to her mother for moral support so we figure they might as well know that she is pregnant so we're off tonight to tell them.

How do you tell your father in law that his daughter is pregnant?
Should I take beer?


and for the more comical side, when the time comes to tell my parents - how should I do so?

I did think about telling my dad he needs to get a shed and become even more eccentric!

so, suggestions, both sensible and hilarious are required.

Tales of how you told your parents welcome.

My sister's husband told my parents like this...

'I'm sorry Mr Byegad, but I've got your daughter into trouble!'

They were delighted.

 

[Arch]

for the 1st we told wifeys mum and dad at his bedside while he was recovering from chemotherapy when wifey was 8 weeks, he died the next day from a massive stroke. we told my mum and dad a week later at his funeral and swore all to secrecy till scans.

2nd pregnancy we told them at 12 weeks but we lost G at 25 weeks
3rd to 10th all miscarried between 16-18 weeks and we didn't tell anybody ( wifey is factor V leidon and we were guinea pigs for a drug treatment devised by Prof Reagan at St Marys Paddington.
for youngest we told family after 25 weeks.

we just said wifeys pregnant all times.

oh and if anybody is going through the hell we did between 2nd and 10th then PM if you need to talk I know what you are going through and talking to somebody who has been there really helps.

oh and BTW congrats on the pregnancy .

Blimey, that's a heck of a lot to go through. I'm glad you had another happy result in the the end!

I think I wouldn't tell anyone until at least three months in - I'm fairly superstitious in that I never buy or make a present for an expected baby until it actually arrives.

 

[tony111]

Our daughter and future son-in-law called and said nervously, " Oh, by the way , there's gonna be an extra guest at the wedding.............your grand child". Happy tears and back slapping and hugs foloowed shortly after. Keeping it a secret for a few weeks was tricky.

 

[Silver Fox]

My now wife was 16 and I was 17 when we had to tell ours, there was not a lot of joy from them. 39 years later we are still extremely happily married ....

Dude, I envy you.

 

[Crackle]

Just say, have you seen this post on the internet...

 

[subaqua]

Blimey, that's a heck of a lot to go through. I'm glad you had another happy result in the the end!

I think I wouldn't tell anyone until at least three months in - I'm fairly superstitious in that I never buy or make a present for an expected baby until it actually arrives.

July 2003 to Sep 2007 were not the 4 best years of my life. and it wasn't great for eldest. since then its been great and i love being a dad.

 

[biggs682]

we waited till after scans , and when i told my parents mums words were what do you expect when you play with fire !!

 

[Gromit]

My sister and her husband to be presented my mum with a card, saying congratulations your going to be a grandma. My mum hit the roof as my sister had only just turned 16.

 

[summerdays]

I remember my parents picking me up at the airport and me greeting them with a "Hello Grandma and Grandpa!!!"

I also remember a friend's announcement .... "my wiggly one has met her round one ... and had a little celebration"

 

[fossyant]

You need to tell us how old you two are and how long the relationship has been there. Can't really sort some good advice unless we know background.

Me and the missus was easy, we had been married over 4 years..easy, we are preggers.

IF you aren't married, in a recent relationship, then is a fair bit more careful.. Know what we mean. Duno.you need to explain your situation.

Me was very easy, met by lots of cheers, but it was a traditional marriage. Thank god !!!!