OK, I think I answered the above myself as some folks whip their saddles out oft he frame when nipping into shops and such, so I should be able to just slide the saddle stem into the frame with the QR doing the lock in - right?
Well I have to heave and twist the stem I was sold by the technician at my lbs and I think I now understand why. The technician tried a narrower stem in the frame which showed about a 1mm of play with the QR off the frame and said I needed a slightly bigger stem to take out the play.
Now a week later for it to be ordered and it fits the open frame collar, but won't go past say 2 inches down the tube and that is because he fit the stem to the open collar of the frame and not the actual tube diameter

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Surely a bike technician should have known that?
Trouble is now, because I used the seat stem to ream out any remaining aluminium oxide (from chemically removing the old one - see famous thread) before realising it was the wrong size completely it is now no way resaleable! OK it was their fault for ordering the wrong part, but my fault for trying to ream the dirt out of my frame with it so I doubt they'll see eye to ey for a reufnd!
I don't suppose anyone here wants to buy a brand new but cosmetically scrawped seat post? Silver coloured PUSH seatpost, Layback profile, 6061 Aluminium, 400mm length, single bolt adjustment, 26.8 diam.
Cost me £21.99 - on sale here at £10.00, post free. PayPal accepted and the mods know where I live so buy in confidence!