Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
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- Cwmbach, South Wales
Do you mean corporal punishment?
How to tackle bullying?
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Do you mean corporal punishment?
Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
- Location
- Cwmbach, South Wales
There are two schools of thought that I am aware of
1/ Hit them so hard that they do not want to get back up.
2/Talk, talk, talk, talk, move
1/ Hit them so hard that they do not want to get back up.
2/Talk, talk, talk, talk, move
My son is Only 10,when he hears the Ice Cream Van come onto our estate he like to cycle round to another close so he doesnt have "to wait"!! he came home in floods of tears one day,some older kids took his money and then told him to cycle upto the roundabout stand in the middle of the roundabout and take his trousers down. i was so angry,i drove round until i found these boys,i basically told them if they ever touch him again i will beat the living daylights out of them....theone who had his money was shaking so much he could hardly get the cash out of his pocket.i didnt feel proud of myself afterwards scaring 13/14 yr old boys,but i felt thay needed a lesson.
Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
- Location
- Cwmbach, South Wales
Bluebell72
New Member
- Location
- Hull, East Yorkshire
The daughter of one of my friends is currently being bullied. She is 12, but looks about 16 - she's tall, very attractive, excels at sport, plays in an orchestra, works hard...and she's a lovely lovely girl.
Since she moved to senior school, her friends have given up playing their musical instruments 'cos it's not cool' and stopped working in lessons 'who wants to be a geek?'.
So far it's been low grade pushing, knocking her schoolbag so all her books fall out in a puddle etc. Her Mum has been to the school and they seem to be playing it down rather than doing much - they've spoken to the ringleader who has denied anything, and the teachers have said 'well, X has said she hasn't done anything'.
I know she's looking forward to the summer holidays more than most, as for a few weeks she won't have to see any of these idiots.
Since she moved to senior school, her friends have given up playing their musical instruments 'cos it's not cool' and stopped working in lessons 'who wants to be a geek?'.
So far it's been low grade pushing, knocking her schoolbag so all her books fall out in a puddle etc. Her Mum has been to the school and they seem to be playing it down rather than doing much - they've spoken to the ringleader who has denied anything, and the teachers have said 'well, X has said she hasn't done anything'.
I know she's looking forward to the summer holidays more than most, as for a few weeks she won't have to see any of these idiots.
fossyant
Ride It Like You Stole It!
- Location
- South Manchester
I still think, give 'em a good smack. Martial Arts doesn't laways work as one of the bullies threttened to lie to teachers that my son was using his 'skills' on him. My son was doing karate at school at the time and he knew that they would be thrown out if they used their karate on others in school - the bully also knew this.
The bullies that are causing my son issues are low achievers and, dare I say it, from the less 'nice' parts of our village. Both these kids are allowed to wander round the local area, which most other 10 year olds don't, and I don't mean within a few streets of home !
The bullies that are causing my son issues are low achievers and, dare I say it, from the less 'nice' parts of our village. Both these kids are allowed to wander round the local area, which most other 10 year olds don't, and I don't mean within a few streets of home !
another Bullying story from me,i was coming home from work one day when i saw my 15 yr old nephew walking along the road,he looked a bit depressed and i asked him if he was OK, "im going to have a fight" he replied.basically a group of kids had been picking on him for the whole of the school year,he was told to turn up at the park for a fight or they were going to beat him up worse the next day. i walked to the park with him as i couldnt talk him out of not going.i was sure he was just going to get a beating and hope it would all end. i said i would be with him and stop it if if gets out of hand. i advised him to walk over and smack the leader in the face as hard as he could as soon as he got there. we sat on a bench waiting for the "gang" to arrive.he was shaking with fear. a group of about 10 kids on BMX bikes turned up and i said to Paul go on walk over and hit him as hard as you can, i wont let you get beaten up.i think a years worth of anger came out as he walked over and battered this kid to a pulp!!! i had to go and pull him off. whlist walking home he cried all the way.We laugh about it now as he is in his 30's now.he said it changed his life,no one messed with him anymore.Im sure if i had not gone with him things would have had a different outcome.
asterix
Comrade Member
- Location
- Limoges or York
Right, done that. Now what?
ColinJ
Puzzle game procrastinator!
- Location
- Todmorden - Yorks/Lancs border
I was the kind of teenager who probably would have been bullied, but I didn't suffer from that because I used to be tall. What I mean by that is that I was 6' 1" tall when there weren't many teenagers of that height. These days, it would only be considered 'tallish'. Anyway, my height and medium build in my teens were enough to deter any would-be bullies.
I did suffer from one case of bullying when I was 10 though, before the growth hormone kicked in. I was playing in a cricket match at my junior school and waiting to bat. I was sitting on a bench at the side of the field when 3 teenage boys strutted over and one of them shoved me off the seat and took my place. I saw the red mist, jumped to my feet and shoved him backwards off the seat and sat back down again. Psycho-teen was about to attack me when a teacher spotted what was going on and chased the 3 teenagers from the premises.
I forgot about the incident until a couple of weeks later when I was 'newting' at a large pond nearby. I heard a shout, looked up and saw the 3 teenagers running towards me. I ran as fast as I could but they were gaining on me and I knew that I was in for a good kicking if they caught me. Fortunately for me, I spotted a middle-aged woman in the bay window of a nearby house and shouted to the yobs that my aunt would call the police if they didn't clear off. I ran up the garden path, hammered on the door and the woman (a complete stranger to me!) who had seen what was happening, came out and 'had words' with the teenagers. They left in a hurry and the woman walked me halfway home to make sure I wasn't being followed.
Third time unlucky, however ... A few days later, I was playing football on a green near where I lived. There was a shout, I turned and was pole-axed by a fist to my face. Guess who?
Chief yob had found me, and he had his 2 droogs with him. He kicked me where I lay and his mates were egging him on. I couldn't get away and stood no chance in a fight. I don't know how I thought of it but passive resistance seemed the way to go ...
I stood up and looked at my assailant. He knocked me down again. I stood up again. He knocked me down again. My nose and bottom lip were bleeding. I got up and before he could hit me again I said "You're a really brave man, aren't you! You must be 15 years old. I'm only 10 and you are half as big again as me and you think you are tough beating up a child. It's pathetic!"
He knocked me down, I got back up again (He's never gonna keep me down) ...
This went on a couple more times but his mates were getting embarrassed by it. In the end, they got hold of my attacker and dragged him away. I stood there bleeding, with hands on hips, watching them go and I knew that I'd won. He never bothered me again, though I did make an effort to keep out of his way.
I suppose if it happened now, the bully would just have stabbed me!
I did suffer from one case of bullying when I was 10 though, before the growth hormone kicked in. I was playing in a cricket match at my junior school and waiting to bat. I was sitting on a bench at the side of the field when 3 teenage boys strutted over and one of them shoved me off the seat and took my place. I saw the red mist, jumped to my feet and shoved him backwards off the seat and sat back down again. Psycho-teen was about to attack me when a teacher spotted what was going on and chased the 3 teenagers from the premises.
I forgot about the incident until a couple of weeks later when I was 'newting' at a large pond nearby. I heard a shout, looked up and saw the 3 teenagers running towards me. I ran as fast as I could but they were gaining on me and I knew that I was in for a good kicking if they caught me. Fortunately for me, I spotted a middle-aged woman in the bay window of a nearby house and shouted to the yobs that my aunt would call the police if they didn't clear off. I ran up the garden path, hammered on the door and the woman (a complete stranger to me!) who had seen what was happening, came out and 'had words' with the teenagers. They left in a hurry and the woman walked me halfway home to make sure I wasn't being followed.
Third time unlucky, however ... A few days later, I was playing football on a green near where I lived. There was a shout, I turned and was pole-axed by a fist to my face. Guess who?
Chief yob had found me, and he had his 2 droogs with him. He kicked me where I lay and his mates were egging him on. I couldn't get away and stood no chance in a fight. I don't know how I thought of it but passive resistance seemed the way to go ...
I stood up and looked at my assailant. He knocked me down again. I stood up again. He knocked me down again. My nose and bottom lip were bleeding. I got up and before he could hit me again I said "You're a really brave man, aren't you! You must be 15 years old. I'm only 10 and you are half as big again as me and you think you are tough beating up a child. It's pathetic!"
He knocked me down, I got back up again (He's never gonna keep me down) ...
This went on a couple more times but his mates were getting embarrassed by it. In the end, they got hold of my attacker and dragged him away. I stood there bleeding, with hands on hips, watching them go and I knew that I'd won. He never bothered me again, though I did make an effort to keep out of his way.
I suppose if it happened now, the bully would just have stabbed me!
Fnaar
Smutmaster General
- Location
- Thumberland
summerdays
Cycling in the sun
- Location
- Bristol
Well whether it was right or wrong I spoke with his teacher this morning ... mainly asking how he thought my child was getting on socially at the moment... he asked some questions which extracted the information from me.
Coming home from school my son asked if I had been talking to anyone ... turns out his teacher took him and the other child out of class to talk to them, and my son so far seems ok about it. Hope I haven't made the situation worse.
Coming home from school my son asked if I had been talking to anyone ... turns out his teacher took him and the other child out of class to talk to them, and my son so far seems ok about it. Hope I haven't made the situation worse.
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MontyVeda
a short-tempered ill-controlled small-minded troll
- Location
- Lancaster... the little city.
You certainly haven't done the wrong thing Summerdays. The wrong thing to do is say 'keep away from them', leaving the ball permanently in the victims court... so the right thing... be pro-active, which is what you've done.
Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
- Location
- Cwmbach, South Wales
One of my Senseis' would have said "Better to be hung for a sheep than a lamb" - Ie if you are going to be blamed for something you might as well do it. Not sure I agree with the sentiment.
My experience of physical bullying ended when I put a kick bag over the beam it was hanging from. Martial Arts solved the problem without me laying a finger on anyone.
Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
- Location
- Cwmbach, South Wales
Why do I have "Coward of the county playing in my head?" A great story.
Angelfishsolo
A Velocipedian
- Location
- Cwmbach, South Wales
Have you ever seen Marathon Man?
