I bet I'm not the only one..

[Col5632]

...who gets moaned at for going on the bike on certain days

My gf works 9 - 5.15 on a saturday and i dont start work till 5, before i joined this site i was never really out on the bike at the weekend but after the first forum ride i try to make more of an effort, her lunch is at 1 and if im not riding or doing something then i go down and see her on her 45 minute lunch but every so often a forum ride is organised and due to her work being so pants and her hating it if i dont go down she feels like her whole day is rubbish and moans that im not coming down.

Surely im not the only one to get this kinda problem, and what do you do about it?

 

[Night Train]

...who gets moaned at for going on the bike on certain days

My gf works 9 - 5.15 on a saturday and i dont start work till 5, before i joined this site i was never really out on the bike at the weekend but after the first forum ride i try to make more of an effort, her lunch is at 1 and if im not riding or doing something then i go down and see her on her 45 minute lunch but every so often a forum ride is organised and due to her work being so pants and her hating it if i dont go down she feels like her whole day is rubbish and moans that im not coming down.

Surely im not the only one to get this kinda problem, and what do you do about it?

Where's Fnaar when you need him?

 

[Col5632]

Where's Fnaar when you need him?

Not the best wording but written in anger

 

[Night Train]

OK, serious now.

Does she return the favour when you are on your break?
Why does she want you there? Is it just because she hates her job or is there a more personal insecurity issue going on?
Does she dislike that she is on her own when you are out enjoying yourself?
What happens the rest of the week?

 

[rich p]

Tell her not to be so selfish?

 

[MrJamie]

Send her photo messages of things you've seen on your ride so she knows youre thinking of her

 

[Col5632]

OK, serious now.

Does she return the favour when you are on your break?
Why does she want you there? Is it just because she hates her job or is there a more personal insecurity issue going on?
Does she dislike that she is on her own when you are out enjoying yourself?
What happens the rest of the week?

She comes to see me from time to time but then im full time and shes still at college, she wants me there to break up her day and cheer her up from her crappy day, im not sure she dislikes me enjoying myself, i work mon to fri 9-5 and then fri and sat nights 5-11.30/12.30

Tell her not to be so selfish?

I'm not sure if she is just having an 'off' day but it does seem selfish to me especially when she gets loads of free time when im at work to do what the hell she likes

Send her photo messages of things you've seen on your ride so she knows youre thinking of her

Thats not a bad idea that

 

[rich p]

One of the most important things in my relationship, when it started back in the last century, was a mutual agreement to be free to do things apart. One was going to the boozer, races and the like with other friends without jealousy. I don't think it covered sleeping with her best friend

 

[Col5632]

One of the most important things in my relationship, when it started back in the last century, was a mutual agreement to be free to do things apart. One was going to the boozer, races and the like with other friends without jealousy. I don't think it covered sleeping with her best friend

All rotten anyways

We do see each other alot and its not that i dont want to go and see her on her lunch its just i like cycling with the guys from here aswell (and its only been twice this whole year so far) she thinks i should do it before or after i see her but then that only leaves me 4 hrs either way unless i get up well before 9 and go out but i work late on fri and sat nights

 

[Fnaar]

Tell her you're not going down because you'd rather play with your pump. Ho ho.
Seriously though, maybe it's a "maturity of relationship " matter. It isn't healthy to try to use someone to break up your day, no matter how much you think you love them. The healthy thing is to let them (ie you) do what makes them happy.

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[Col5632]

Tell her you're not going down because you'd rather play with your pump. Ho ho.
Seriously though, maybe it's a "maturity of relationship " matter. It isn't healthy to try to use someone to break up your day, no matter how much you think you love them. The healthy thing is to let them (ie you) do what makes them happy.
Sent mobile phone stylee

Im happy doing both but once or so a month without seeing each other for the 45 minutes isnt much to ask is it? Been seeing each for 2.5 years or so

 

[Moodyman]

I once worked with a married couple.

They came to work together, went on cigaratte breaks and lunches together and went home together. She came to all our team nights out (I reported into the bloke but she worked in a different department).

He said that he turned down business trips that involved overnight stays because he would be away from her.

Perhaps I'm not the romantic type...but if surely if you spent so much time together wouldn't you end up getting sick of each other.

 

[Col5632]

I once worked with a married couple.

They came to work together, went on cigaratte breaks and lunches together and went home together. She came to all our team nights out (I reported into the bloke but she worked in a different department).

He said that he turned down business trips that involved overnight stays because he would be away from her.

Perhaps I'm not the romantic type...but if surely if you spent so much time together wouldn't you end up getting sick of each other.

Me and my ex (who i still sadly have to work with) pretty much done that and i think it gave us nothing to talk about and in the end split us up i think

 

[fossyant]

College aged lady - high maintenance mate !

I left the women out of it till my early 20's - bikes were too important and young women too high maintenance.

 

[Moodyman]

Me and my ex (who i still sadly have to work with) pretty much done that and i think it gave us nothing to talk about and in the end split us up i think

That's precisely what happened to this couple.