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Married to Night Train
- Location
- Salford, UK
But every tour starts with a ride round the block...
I'm back, after a series of disasters. (Looking for recovery)
- Thread starter Debian
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But every tour starts with a ride round the block...
Davidc
Guru
- Location
- Somerset UK
Not intentionally, it's just that 1 minute after setting off you remember what you've forgotten and have to go back for it!
ComedyPilot
Secret Lemonade Drinker
- Location
- The Kingdom of Yorkshire
Yep.....that happened to me last year on the way to the Netherlands.
badkitty
A Fiddler of ill repute
Again, am too far away to be of any ride help, but wanted to say how sorry I am that you are having such a dark time.
Hang in there for your kids and one day, you will feel like getting off the sofa again.
Don't be too hard on yourself either. You need to take time and recover from all the shocks and stress.
Good Luck.
Hang in there for your kids and one day, you will feel like getting off the sofa again.
Don't be too hard on yourself either. You need to take time and recover from all the shocks and stress.
Good Luck.
Mark_Robson
Senior Member
- Location
- West Boldon Tyne & Wear
+1 I'm really gutted for you.
Hello; I just picked up on this thread, I'm really sorry to hear you have been having such a bad time, it certainly puts my 6 months off exercise with policeman's heel into perspective! I'm not riding yet, but should be soon, although it will take me a while before I am doing more than 45 mins, I suspect.
On the plus side you are recovering, and the weather is getting better (I really believe that makes a difference). Keep in touch, I am hoping to be on the bike next month so perhaps a few miles round the Malvern area might help?
On the plus side you are recovering, and the weather is getting better (I really believe that makes a difference). Keep in touch, I am hoping to be on the bike next month so perhaps a few miles round the Malvern area might help?
Hey Debian,
Good that you are back, but terrible that it is under such poor circumstances.
If I lived nearby I'd definitely be up for a ride, alas I live in the wilds up north. However, I am sending positive vibes your way, and remember if you need a pick me-up, just watch a couple of my videos and marvel at how high pitched my voice can be!
Good that you are back, but terrible that it is under such poor circumstances.
If I lived nearby I'd definitely be up for a ride, alas I live in the wilds up north. However, I am sending positive vibes your way, and remember if you need a pick me-up, just watch a couple of my videos and marvel at how high pitched my voice can be!
I may have to steal your sig, it's quite appropriate for me
Hehe, the "mind backed up on disk" part? You're welcome, it isn't original to me. (I might take the other part off, I was having a grumpy day when I spotted it but I'm not normally quite that rude.)
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Debian
New Member
- Location
- West Midlands
Thank you all for the messages of support. They really do help. I'll be responding to everyone that needs a personal response shortly by PM, thanks for all the offers of assistance.
I did briefly try and get on the bike this morning, fail! Legs felt rubbery, no energy (probably because I've not been eating well though) and mentally unable to cope on the road. I felt ridiculous, every car that went past made me jump and cower mentally and I seemed unable to carry out the simplest of manouvres, I lasted all of five minutes before bailing and walking home. Looks like I'll have to try taking the XC bike offroad before I can contemplate and road cycling.
Thank you all again.
Pete
I did briefly try and get on the bike this morning, fail! Legs felt rubbery, no energy (probably because I've not been eating well though) and mentally unable to cope on the road. I felt ridiculous, every car that went past made me jump and cower mentally and I seemed unable to carry out the simplest of manouvres, I lasted all of five minutes before bailing and walking home. Looks like I'll have to try taking the XC bike offroad before I can contemplate and road cycling.
Thank you all again.
Pete
Kirstie
Über Member
Good grief you have had such a hard time. I hope that you get better soon - but getting over depression is like eating an elephant - one bite at a time! It sounds like you are taking some good steps towards recovery, but I would echo what everyone else has said on here - relate are good (speaking from experience), general counselling is also very helpful. You can find one in your area on the British Association of counselling and psychotherapy website. Definitely try to get out on your bike if you can. The endorphines will really lift your mood.
Your boss and company sound awful. It's great that you have some papers which exonerate you from any blame. Keep hold of them, and should you end up leaving the organization and feel up to it, speak to a lawyer about a constructive dismissal claim. I have been in this situation myself and regret not taking my ex employer to the cleaners about how they treated me.
Your boss and company sound awful. It's great that you have some papers which exonerate you from any blame. Keep hold of them, and should you end up leaving the organization and feel up to it, speak to a lawyer about a constructive dismissal claim. I have been in this situation myself and regret not taking my ex employer to the cleaners about how they treated me.
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Debian
New Member
- Location
- West Midlands
ColinJ
Puzzle game procrastinator!
- Location
- Todmorden - Yorks/Lancs border
I'm pretty much the same age as you, and had a similar sequence of things happen in my life about 10 years ago so I know exactly how you feel!
I know all about lying around feeling completely drained of energy, but it really does help to make the effort to get out on the bike and having company does make that easier.
I've been feeling very down myself the past few months because my mum was very ill last year and finally died over Christmas. I came back up to Yorkshire emotionally and physically drained and wondering how I would ever get anything done this year.
It was hard work starting cycling again after a long lay-off but local CycleChat members have turned out for rides with me, and (as always) have waited patiently for me when I'm struggling to keep up. I had a great ride in the sunshine yesterday with bromptonfb (thanks for the company Shaun!). We have another forum ride booked up for Sunday.
Sorry, this isn't my thread! What I'm trying to say is this - yes, do meet up with other CycleChat members and go for some gentle, fun rides. Go and have some coffee and cake somewhere nice. It's bloody hard to make the effort feeling the way you do, but life has to go on. Good luck!
I know all about lying around feeling completely drained of energy, but it really does help to make the effort to get out on the bike and having company does make that easier.
I've been feeling very down myself the past few months because my mum was very ill last year and finally died over Christmas. I came back up to Yorkshire emotionally and physically drained and wondering how I would ever get anything done this year.
It was hard work starting cycling again after a long lay-off but local CycleChat members have turned out for rides with me, and (as always) have waited patiently for me when I'm struggling to keep up. I had a great ride in the sunshine yesterday with bromptonfb (thanks for the company Shaun!). We have another forum ride booked up for Sunday.
Sorry, this isn't my thread! What I'm trying to say is this - yes, do meet up with other CycleChat members and go for some gentle, fun rides. Go and have some coffee and cake somewhere nice. It's bloody hard to make the effort feeling the way you do, but life has to go on. Good luck!
betty swollocks
large member
Get out on that bike!
Go out for walks.
Experience this spring happen.
Give yourself structure to every day.
Find some projects to keep you busy and distract you.
Voluntary work, while you have time off?
Try and find some consolation in the warmth and company of friends.
Don't watch the news!
Your original post was difficult reading. I wish you all the best.
Go out for walks.
Experience this spring happen.
Give yourself structure to every day.
Find some projects to keep you busy and distract you.
Voluntary work, while you have time off?
Try and find some consolation in the warmth and company of friends.
Don't watch the news!
Your original post was difficult reading. I wish you all the best.
Flying_Monkey
Recyclist
- Location
- Odawa
I'll just give my best wishes and echo what Kirstie said. Find someone professional you can talk to and who makes you work the things out that you can.
