It's harder than i thought.

[postman]

this is harder than i thought,you might say to me man up.But today my Dan left for Uni.He is a wonderful young person,he lights up any room he walks into.
Me and his sister could not go to Manchester,there was not enough room in the car.My wife wanted to do the trip in one go.So just before i left for church,i said my goodbyes.I did not cry in his room,but down in ours,the floodgates opened.What a feeling of loss.Well after church his sister and me,went to Reds bbq and grill for dinner.We laughed and talked.Then we came home.the silly little things have started me off,his pile of shoes have gone from under the kitchen radiator,it looks bare.Then i went to make a brew,in the fridge his containers for his gluten fee foods have gone.His special cupboard is empty.
then the hard bit,i went to his room.There are large gaps on his shelves,his wardrobe has few clothes only.But worst of all,is the empty feeling,no sound,no laughter,no jokes.
I know i am being silly and in a few days it will be ok.But if there are anymore out there going through this,i feel your sadness.
Daniel i miss you and i love you.

 

[screenman]

After 41 years of kids at home I am looking forward to having my wife to myself when the last one moves out.

 

[Batgirl]

I can totally imagine how bare the house must be and how hard this is on you all. My eldest is 16, and I'm seeing her blossom into a young woman, she's taken control of her A level education subjects and chosen college. She's like a best friend to me and when we talk about uni's it's not lost on me that I'll be losing a close friend. We go to the gym together, the cinema and clothes shopping.. all of which will be reminders for me when she moves away to Uni. She is adamant she'll move away too, not spiteful but we moved to Wales 8 years ago, so she's English born and early years educated. She is keen to spread her wings.

I am close with my husband and we have date nights etc still but I will miss my daughter.. I still have another 2 to form similar bonds with of course.

I really hope you can find a balance to your new relationship with your son. Rocky Mountains point about a meal and still being needed is very real I would have thought. The tables have just shifted round a bit is all.

As for manning up, nothing wrong with showing you care and letting your feelings evolve as they should. Take care of yourself and your wife and daughter too, a few reflective days will soon pass but not to be dismissed.

 

[Ganymede]

Aw bless you. He'll be missing you too.

 

[TVC]

If he's cleared off to Uni and is looking forward to the adventure then you have done your job well. It won't be long until he's back, and when he comes back he will be more grown up and more appreciative of you.

 

[threebikesmcginty]

@Fnaar's probably 'kersnicked' himself to death over that thread title.

 

[Mrs M]

this is harder than i thought,you might say to me man up.But today my Dan left for Uni.He is a wonderful young person,he lights up any room he walks into.
Me and his sister could not go to Manchester,there was not enough room in the car.My wife wanted to do the trip in one go.So just before i left for church,i said my goodbyes.I did not cry in his room,but down in ours,the floodgates opened.What a feeling of loss.Well after church his sister and me,went to Reds bbq and grill for dinner.We laughed and talked.Then we came home.the silly little things have started me off,his pile of shoes have gone from under the kitchen radiator,it looks bare.Then i went to make a brew,in the fridge his containers for his gluten fee foods have gone.His special cupboard is empty.
then the hard bit,i went to his room.There are large gaps on his shelves,his wardrobe has few clothes only.But worst of all,is the empty feeling,no sound,no laughter,no jokes.
I know i am being silly and in a few days it will be ok.But if there are anymore out there going through this,i feel your sadness.
Daniel i miss you and i love you.

Aw, never been in this position as no little M's.
He's sounds like a great lad (and a very lucky one too)
Never mind, soon be Christmas.

 

[vernon]

this is harder than i thought,you might say to me man up.But today my Dan left for Uni.He is a wonderful young person,he lights up any room he walks into.
Me and his sister could not go to Manchester,there was not enough room in the car.My wife wanted to do the trip in one go.So just before i left for church,i said my goodbyes.I did not cry in his room,but down in ours,the floodgates opened.What a feeling of loss.Well after church his sister and me,went to Reds bbq and grill for dinner.We laughed and talked.Then we came home.the silly little things have started me off,his pile of shoes have gone from under the kitchen radiator,it looks bare.Then i went to make a brew,in the fridge his containers for his gluten fee foods have gone.His special cupboard is empty.
then the hard bit,i went to his room.There are large gaps on his shelves,his wardrobe has few clothes only.But worst of all,is the empty feeling,no sound,no laughter,no jokes.
I know i am being silly and in a few days it will be ok.But if there are anymore out there going through this,i feel your sadness.
Daniel i miss you and i love you.

You big soft shite.

It's a time for celebration. He's finding his wings. His independant life starts today.

We used to fret about two of our three kids because they never used to go out and socialise even when, in my daughters case she was home from university and my son even when he moved out and got a job.

Katie moped around the hose for a year after her return from university having failed her degree. This summer she took it upon herself to go and work in a hostel in Greece before gallavanting around Austria, Germany and Amsterdam before returning home. Yesterday she announced that she's off to Poland to work in a hostel for a couple of months.

Sam moved to London and this year he: obtained a paragliding license, celebrated New Year in Berlin, went rock climbing in France a couple of times and went to Japan for three weeks amongst other things.

Paradoxically, the most active and extrovert of the three has returned to the nest to save money and we are regretting his return on some counts - he's messier than I could ever aspire to and works irregular hours as a bar manager and the the utilies bills have rocketted because he's active when the rest of the house is slumbering.

 

[screenman]

Kids, you will always love them, but not always like them.

 

[SpokeyDokey]

this is harder than i thought,you might say to me man up.But today my Dan left for Uni.He is a wonderful young person,he lights up any room he walks into.
Me and his sister could not go to Manchester,there was not enough room in the car.My wife wanted to do the trip in one go.So just before i left for church,i said my goodbyes.I did not cry in his room,but down in ours,the floodgates opened.What a feeling of loss.Well after church his sister and me,went to Reds bbq and grill for dinner.We laughed and talked.Then we came home.the silly little things have started me off,his pile of shoes have gone from under the kitchen radiator,it looks bare.Then i went to make a brew,in the fridge his containers for his gluten fee foods have gone.His special cupboard is empty.
then the hard bit,i went to his room.There are large gaps on his shelves,his wardrobe has few clothes only.But worst of all,is the empty feeling,no sound,no laughter,no jokes.
I know i am being silly and in a few days it will be ok.But if there are anymore out there going through this,i feel your sadness.
Daniel i miss you and i love you.

He's gone to Uni' - he hasn't died.

 

[Sandra6]

Is it wrong that I don't miss either of mine that have moved out?
I miss my shoes that went to Salford with eldest daughter and I'm currently missing the fifty quid eldest son owes me, but I haven't shed a tear over it

 

[Vigilies]

Good God man you've let him go to t'other side on't hill! He'll come back eyting pies and thinking that Lancastrians are not really bad folk.

I can't spake.

Anyway good luck to him and you. You will get over it soon you know.

 

[Kestevan]

[QUOTE="SpokeyDokey, post: 3914422, member: 19480"......he hasn't died. [/QUOTE]

It's worse than that, the lads gone to bloody Lancashire.

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

Poor lad won't know what's hit him next time he crosses the threshold given the emotional reunion I've now got in my imagination.

Don't fret @postman - he needs to fly on his own now. I'm sure all the preparation you've supplied will stand him in excellent stead.

 

[Accy cyclist]

I don't know if i like the thought of Tykes coming over the hills to use our places of education?!