Just had a glimps of how I used to be

[Bluebell72]

I had an ex with a drink problem. He would say he was 'a heavy drinker'. Hmm. Lost all his/our friends, people simply got sick of being out with someone who was rude/arrogant/argumentative to taxi drivers/waiting staff/friends or of pulling him out of physical fights.

I became expert at avoiding eye contact with him when he came home steaming drunk ready for a row, ready to pick a fight over nothing, or sticking elastoplast on injuries he had no idea he had/ where they'd come from.

The strange thing is, years later, I find the smell of red wine disgusting - it's just the association I suppose.
I am even wary of going out to do's where there is going to be a lot of drink - seeing other people in a state really scares me and I tend to go home before it's really late.

 

[Angelfishsolo]

I had an ex with a drink problem. He would say he was 'a heavy drinker'. Hmm. Lost all his/our friends, people simply got sick of being out with someone who was rude/arrogant/argumentative to taxi drivers/waiting staff/friends or of pulling him out of physical fights.

I became expert at avoiding eye contact with him when he came home steaming drunk ready for a row, ready to pick a fight over nothing, or sticking elastoplast on injuries he had no idea he had/ where they'd come from.

The strange thing is, years later, I find the smell of red wine disgusting - it's just the association I suppose.
I am even wary of going out to do's where there is going to be a lot of drink - seeing other people in a state really scares me and I tend to go home before it's really late.

I was much like your ex. Now I am much like you. What really gets to me is that when I was drinking I used to think him a lightweight! I can only imagine the hell I put people through.

 

[Bluebell72]

Hey friend!

There are a lot of things I don't understand about alcoholism, and don't really want to.
I have difficulty in how serious drinking is so often perceived as being socially acceptable, even desirable, in a way that other addictions are not.

Friday afternoon in the workplace - it's usual for people to talk about how much they;re going to drink, where at and who with, and how 'bad' they're going to be - and then the Monday digest of 'how trollied was X, ha ha'

Can you imagine the incredulous silence there'd be if someone said 'I've had a crap week, I'm going to buy a bit of smack in the pub toilet on the way home, and go home and inject. I might do some ketamine at that party tomorrow.'

 

[Angelfishsolo]

Hey friend!

There are a lot of things I don't understand about alcoholism, and don't really want to.
I have difficulty in how serious drinking is so often perceived as being socially acceptable, even desirable, in a way that other addictions are not.

Friday afternoon in the workplace - it's usual for people to talk about how much they;re going to drink, where at and who with, and how 'bad' they're going to be - and then the Monday digest of 'how trollied was X, ha ha'

Can you imagine the incredulous silence there'd be if someone said 'I've had a crap week, I'm going to buy a bit of smack in the pub toilet on the way home, and go home and inject. I might do some ketamine at that party tomorrow.'

Exactly. This country has an horrendous drinking culture. I would go so far as to say it is socialy accepted attempted suicide for many on a week-end.

 

[jonny jeez]

Can you imagine the incredulous silence there'd be if someone said 'I've had a crap week, I'm going to buy a bit of smack in the pub toilet on the way home, and go home and inject. I might do some ketamine at that party tomorrow.'

without trying to make light of your comment, I do know people who *do* revel in their drug taking in this way. they see it as a socially acceptable (aspirational) way to carry on and think nothing of bragging about the state they plan to get into.

 

[User482]

Yeah, but, they're like so totally radical, dude, like, man, there was like this totally gnarly dropoff man, and like I totally tacoed it man, but it was ok because we had weed. Woah! You're still riding hard-tail? Get with the new millennium man! That's like so totally not cool dude.

There's a perception amongst mountain bikers that roadies are a rather miserable and sneery lot. It's difficult to imagine why.

Me? I just ride bikes.