Letting kids go to concerts...

[Maz]

I don't think you lot are picking up on the reference to "religious/cultural difference"!

Presumably, the concerns of Maz's wife come from those differences and I think we should be a bit more respectful of them.

Maz - has your wife actually stated why she objects? Is there room for a compromise, such as one or both of you accompanying your daughter?

Exactly, Col! I wondered when someone would read that comment.

From an Islamic perspective, going to a pop concert is totally unheard of, hence the main objection is the fear of the unknown, and the fear of the unknown conjures up all kinds of images.

I've no doubt at all that it would be a benign experience, hence I am inclined to let her got. Apparently, her 'friend' has already got a ticket and is sending texts, boasting and rubbing it in (nice, eh?). She'll have to find a proper friend to go with ( I aint going if i can avoid it!). I've also been rubbing it in, telling my daughter she'd faint in the hysteria and miss the whole concert, so she might as well faint at home and save the money. I don't think she found it funny, LOL.

 

[simon.r]

Apparently, her 'friend' has already got a ticket and is sending texts, boasting and rubbing it in (nice, eh?).

The tickets for the UK gigs next Spring don't go on sale until Friday - the question is will Maz or Mrs Maz be online at 8.59am desperately trying to book tickets for Ms Maz?

 

[growingvegetables]

She'll have to find a proper friend to go with ( I aint going if i can avoid it!).

Hmm - that adds a wrinkle, Maz. Fwiw, it was my daughters' choice of friends they were going with (and knowing the parents picking 'em up) that ... "calmed" their mother's worries just enough to let them go to their first concerts (at age 14/15?).

She's still not entirely at ease - but our youngest (16) is now going off to concerts in Sheffield and Manchester. London ... a step too far, and mother went down with her and spent a miserable evening drinking coffee.

 

[toroddf]

On a serious note: Letting go and giving a child independence is probably one of the most heart wrenching difficult decission a human being have to ever make. A child/teenager/young grown up is bound to repeat our own mistakes. The same we repeated from our parents again.... and so forth. Very painful mistakes. No parents wishes pain on their children. Unfortunate, it is called growing up and being a human being.

I fully sympatise with the original post and wishes good luck. Is there a good answer to that question which means no pain for both the original poster and his child ? No. There will be pain.

 

[NotthatJasonKenny]

Given that all of your concerns are religious/cultural, unless you are looking to broaden your cultural horizon by asking on here, I would think it is more a question for an Islamic chat room. From a purely parental viewpoint we all seem to be on the same wavelength, which is that it is ok. If that helps you to make a decision, brilliant.

 

[fossyant]

Maz, you need to sort your daughter out. Music taste - argh.

 

[threebikesmcginty]