Living 'alone'

[colly]

Mini-NWP[/URL] in 3 weeks time?

Is that just three weeks away??
By the time that came round last year I had loads of rides under my belt. The way it's going this year I'll be lucky to get into double figures.

Well I'll pencil it in and see if I can make it.

 

[numbnuts]

I didn’t realise there were so many single people on this forum, maybe it is a cycling thing something you can do on your own, a bit like my kayaking and fishing.

 

[NickM]

I don’t think I’m lonely as such, but maybe I have just got use to it and gone past caring and too stuck in my way to change it now

These books (the first half dozen of the series, anyway) are, apart from being rather good detective fiction, largely about dealing with - and positive aspects of - living alone. Perhaps you might find them interesting?

 

[NickM]

..."This man has a bed to sleep in, a roof over his head, all the food he needs, books to read". But this is punishment - he's in prison."

Sounds like work to me. It's a way of getting the necessities, even pleasures, but for more than eight hours, five days a week, it prevents me from doing things I would like to be doing. And it's lonelier than being on my own

Still, at least I can communicate with people in other cells. The Internet - 21st century version of banging Morse code on pipes

While being alone-yet-surrounded at work is fairly easy to cope with, I would think I had a serious problem if I felt that way at home, and hope that I would seek impartial help.

 

[tyred]

I've always been happy to be alone. I grew up on a farm, my brother and sister were much older than me and my school-friends lived miles away. It never bothered me and I'm still perfectly happy to be in my own company but I feel it has made me shy and withdrawn and I feel lonely when I'm in a large group of people at a wedding or something as I feel I should making more of an effort to "mix" but somehow can't. It's actually why I have stopped drinking; because in these situations, I would probably just sit in a corner and drink myself stupid and end up feeling very depressed. I can deal with one or two people in a sort of one to one basis but I never feel I "fit in" in large groups.

 

[Rhythm Thief]

I like being alone. But the fact that it's a treat for me, rather than a default setting, makes a difference. I used to enjoy my "tramping" job, where I lived in the lorry all week, because I got the best of both worlds.

 

[rmiker]

I live on my own and have done most of my adult life, so it's all I know. Work was my way of socialising until I retired a year ago.

Have never been a good mixer, always feel I am 'on the edge'.

In an effort not to sink deeper into a hermit existence I'm hoping to do get out more on my bike, maybe do some tours.

 

[goo_mason]

I've been on my own for a number of years now (barring the ageing cat, and my daughter who stays every weekend). I actually quite like it - no-one to moan at me for spending time on my hobbies, no-one wants to watch something on the other channel, no-one wants to go out when you fancy a quiet night in.

I'm quite used to it now and when I was in a post-divorce relationship a few years ago I actually found that I resented my every move being dictated for me. Guess living alone after 11 years of marriage makes you rather selfish of your own time!

Of course, there are times when it would be lovely to have someone there to snuggle up to and to have a blether to / laugh with. But I only need to wait 'til the weekend when my daughter's here. She loves cuddling up to her Dad and we love having a good laugh. Of course, she's 9 and no doubt giving your Dad a cuddle and spending time with him will be uncool in a few years!

 

[Greedo]

Don't mind being on my own but only really lived on my own for 5 months of my life. Grew up in a big household and then always flat shared with mates or lived with a girl. Spent 5 months on my own prior to meeting Mrs Greedo. Never felt lonely though!

Didn't mind it, but I've always had quite a busy social life. Do find though if I am on my own for a period of time I start getting bored and end up doing stupid things. It does depend though as I spent a whole weekend in the house on my own just eating, sleeping and watching films and stuff when Mrs Greedo was away for a weekend in November there. Loved it. Although other times I'm bored after a couple of hours. Wouldn't say lonely though, just need human interaction

 

[hackbike 666]

Blimey I thought I was the only one.