Not how I imagined it.

[Mad Doug Biker]

@Crandoggler, the world doesn't somehow owe you anything, if you want something, you have to work and or save up for it, but, at the end of the day, it is just... STUFF.

The very best things I have ever bought have been the really useful ones, especially the things I had to save up for (I don't have much money, so I appreciate things a lot more), not the extravagant and flamboyant - I have also collected many things over the years, and quite frankly, although it is nice to own things, the chances are, they will never improve your quality of life, not truly. You will have it all.... Gathering dust in the corner - Big deal!

Oh and what you will find is that unless you win the lottery or whatever* there probably wont be any great epiphany where your life will suddenly get 'better', it will happen eventually, so just enjoy things as they come and stop trying to get everything at once, it wont happen!



* - If I won the lottery I would help people, but I sure as hell wouldn't go public with it (so I'd be anonymous), the last thing I want is every sob story under the sun or every materialistic person crawling out the woodwork wanting a piece of me just to buy something frivolous and vain like the latest Merc or whatever.

 

[Crandoggler]

Do you own the Skoda or just a month's a worth.

Funny how in this section the talk of hard work getting you places is accepted, in the more political section of the forum I have been told it is almost wrong.

Well this is the side of the argument I wanted to get to. I agree.

 

[Piemaster]

He said he was content with life and that these things will come in time.

Wise man.
You perspectives change as you get older and you start looking more at what you have done as much as what you wanted to do. 'stuff' just seems to be less important than it was, though I'm at a point were I can reasonably buy what I fancy (currently got a tab open looking at a windsurf board). Time is my most valued commodity, theres never been enough of it with my wife and kids over the years (I work at sea) and now they are starting to fly the nest.

 

[Crandoggler]

Also, can we stop saying 'the world doesn't owe you anything' or that 'You have no right' I'm fully aware and preach that to 16 year olds who think they have a right to everything when they leave school, before earning it.

I'm not 16, I'm not earning £7.50 an hour, I'm not claiming any benefits, I'm not claiming to be poor, I'm simply claiming that I'm a qualified avionics engineer and am debating the fact that I have created a path, which has led to this moment. The moment when I realise that I can no longer progress to achieve and gather the finer things in life. Thus where in my life to accept this fact? Or when and where to move forward.

A bit blunt, but really. I'm not after a packet of fags and a crate of special brew, I'm after the bigger things.

Thanks.

 

[Crandoggler]

Wise man.
You perspectives change as you get older and you start looking more at what you have done as much as what you wanted to do. 'stuff' just seems to be less important than it was, though I'm at a point were I can reasonably buy what I fancy (currently got a tab open looking at a windsurf board). Time is my most valued commodity, theres never been enough of it with my wife and kids over the years (I work at sea) and now they are starting to fly the nest.

Awesome. I like this.

 

[Crandoggler]

I'm wholly looking for the answer, which will never be found. But, it's actually fantastic to see the different outlooks people have on life, where they've been and where they're going.

 

[Hill Wimp]

Sorry but "the bigger things" ?

You are now definatly sounding like you need to grow up.

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

You'd tell me though, wouldn't you Doug?

I have to admit that doing it anonymously would be just as difficult as being public, but at least you could run off and hide when things get a bit crap!

Thing is, I am single, and other than my family, most of which I am not very close too, I have no ties, so I could, in theory just disappear with my location only known to a select few....

 

[Hill Wimp]

........you are going to move to Sutton Coldfield

No Finchley

 

[midlife]

If you want the finest things in life then being a wage slave is not going to do it for you..... I earn quite a montly wedge but currently drive a V reg Clio with rust riddled bodywork.

You are going to have to change tack completely and start creating wealth. But you know that already......

Shaun

 

[welsh dragon]

........you are going to move to Sutton Coldfield

I used to live there many decades ago.

 

[Hill Wimp]

Now there's a place worth avoiding

But thats where all the millionares live in their 6 bed houses, Bentleys on the driveways and subterranean cinemas and gyms.

Whats not to like ?

 

[screenman]

What are you doing to achieve the objects you desire. For me at 19 years old and married with a 1 year old and just getting through being made homeless the only option was to make more money than a job paid somebody of my age and limited skills. So I had to start my first business, and work harder and longer hours than I knew existed.

 

[screenman]

But thats where all the millionares live in their 6 bed houses, Bentleys on the driveways and subterranean cinemas and gyms.

Whats not to like ?

The huge debts they have.

 

[jnrmczip]

I'm 29 and felt like this a few years back. But then I lost my mum. This put a lot of things in perspective for me and how life should be. Watching my mum suffer for the 5 years she did and having to hold the family together while it was happening and after really taught me how important the little things are. I suddenly didn't feel the need to have all the fancy thinhs and decided family and so on were more important. I started to save ditch the wild nights out the wasting money on clothes and getting in to debt and finance.

Turns out now I can afford to buy things when I want I can have a nice car if I wanted but realise I don't actually need one enough to warrenty it.. and I have now even set enough money aside so the kids can get a good start in life.

I suppose I took a lot of positives from my mum's death which helped me turn around all the negatives that were going on and in turn made me happy.

It's sad to think it took something so drastic to change my life around and better it but it did

Firstly you need to make a list of what really matters work out the best way to achieve it. Realise things don't get handed to you. And go about achieving what you want