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[QUOTE 2790260, member: 45"]Year 7 son tells you that his mate, a pretty nice lad, claims to have stolen a pair of trainers from the changing room. Son has told him that he doesn't think it's on. You know the boy's mom.
What do you do, if anything?[/quote]
I wouldn't do anything. The kid is too young, they say the silliest things. Potential big problems over a pair of trainers that may, or may not, have been stolen. Different scenario if you see him wearing them.
What do you do, if anything?[/quote]
I wouldn't do anything. The kid is too young, they say the silliest things. Potential big problems over a pair of trainers that may, or may not, have been stolen. Different scenario if you see him wearing them.
swee'pea99
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First off, give yourself a pat on the back for bringing the lad up right.
Second, wait & see for a day or two...maybe your son's response will bring about a good resolution. What happens next kind of depends on what happens. I wouldn't personally be in any rush to try to resolve it: you've heard an anecdotal story at second hand, what if you 'tell her the truth' and it turns out to be not entirely true, and she takes it the wrong way. I'd want to be very sure of my ground - and my relationship with the mum - before taking it any further. Think also about how whatever you do will play out in school, in terms of your lad, her lad and the wider community. You don't, eg, want your son getting a reputation as a snitch.
Definitely my initial response would be to avoid rushing into anything. More broadly, think about what end result you'd like to see, and what - if anything - you can do to help that come about.
Not an easy one. Good luck.
Second, wait & see for a day or two...maybe your son's response will bring about a good resolution. What happens next kind of depends on what happens. I wouldn't personally be in any rush to try to resolve it: you've heard an anecdotal story at second hand, what if you 'tell her the truth' and it turns out to be not entirely true, and she takes it the wrong way. I'd want to be very sure of my ground - and my relationship with the mum - before taking it any further. Think also about how whatever you do will play out in school, in terms of your lad, her lad and the wider community. You don't, eg, want your son getting a reputation as a snitch.
Definitely my initial response would be to avoid rushing into anything. More broadly, think about what end result you'd like to see, and what - if anything - you can do to help that come about.
Not an easy one. Good luck.
its a conundrum... If you do something, your kid is a grass. BUT if you don't then you're not sending the right message to your kid. Depends what you think is worse. But I know this... My mum or dad would have done something if i told them something like that. They are not my "best friends" they are my parents and it is their job to show me right from wrong. It would have mortified me at the time (like the time i had to clean ALL the graffiti at the park bcoz i wrote something in chalk!) but i now have good morals and values
Ah, you've seen them, not good for you, I think you are obligated to talk to the mother. It's better for the kid to know that there is a consequence (one he might not like) to his actions.
Btw a friend of my lad stole something after a sleepover. I approached his mother, kid admitted it, item returned, end of story. We all do silly things when we are young, my son and his friend are still pals, nothing changed.
Btw a friend of my lad stole something after a sleepover. I approached his mother, kid admitted it, item returned, end of story. We all do silly things when we are young, my son and his friend are still pals, nothing changed.
Cyclist33
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Don't say anything and sleep with the boy's mom.
Don't say anything and sleep with the boy's mom.
Or use it as a chatup line... sleep with me or I will shop your son!
Canrider
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[QUOTE 2790260, member: 45"]Year 7 son tells you that his mate, a pretty nice lad, claims to have stolen a pair of trainers from the changing room. Son has told him that he doesn't think it's on. You know the boy's mom.
What do you do, if anything?[/quote]
To Mum 'Where did you get X's new trainers from, (my kid is pestering me for a pair)?'
Or, if you know her well enough, just tell her what your kid said to you--they're seven, it's not grassing when you can't be relied on to tie your own laces yet.
What do you do, if anything?[/quote]
To Mum 'Where did you get X's new trainers from, (my kid is pestering me for a pair)?'
Or, if you know her well enough, just tell her what your kid said to you--they're seven, it's not grassing when you can't be relied on to tie your own laces yet.
biggs682
Touch it up and ride it
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Don't say anything and sleep with the boy's mom.
and what is the boys dad going to think !!!
ComedyPilot
Secret Lemonade Drinker
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Threesome time......?
Sara_H
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Are they 7? I read it as year 7, so age 11/12.
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srw
It's a bit more complicated than that...
[QUOTE 2790260, member: 45"]Year 7 son tells you that his mate, a pretty nice lad, claims to have stolen a pair of trainers from the changing room. Son has told him that he doesn't think it's on. You know the boy's mom.
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Year 7 - that's, what, 12 or 13? Definitely old enough to better. Have a quiet word with his mum.
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Year 7 - that's, what, 12 or 13? Definitely old enough to better. Have a quiet word with his mum.