Re - newing wedding vows

[martint235]

My OH asked about second honeymoons the other night and what the point was. I explained it's an expensive holiday bought by whichever party played away first or got caught playing away first.
FWIW I've been engaged for 14 years and counting.

 

[byegad]

To me it's about the same as a person serving a life sentence for murder getting out to kill the same person again!

 

[shouldbeinbed]

To me it's about the same as a person serving a life sentence for murder getting out to kill the same person again!

Brilliant analogy, mad but brilliant

 

[Herbie]

I am with you on this one Herbie.
If people accept a wedding vow is something to renew, then it must be seen as something that somehow runs out or is time limited. The point of a wedding vow is that it is not time limited other than by death. So in a way it is rather undermining or devaluing the wedding vow, so I cannot quite see how the Church goes with it.
Sort of thing where when the first person in the world said "I want to renew my wedding vows", you wish someone had just said "don't be stupid, they do not need renewing".

Re The Chase.
Someone else watches it! There is so little on TV now that I have resorted to recording it as it is on at a silly time and then there is always something to watch when you want a little break in front of the TV.
I cannot stand the way the fat one says "faaasand paaands"

I love The Chase...I'd like to go on it but probably too chicken.... If Bradley asked me what I'd do with the money I'd say bike tour of Europe for 6 months

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

I went to a vow renewing event. My wife's cousin and his OH were centre stage. It seemed a very odd event to me especially as we had hardly ever been in touch. It was a sort of "duty" to attend as far as I was concerned. Even Mrs 26 didn't get it and she's much more in touch with these sorts of things than I'll ever be.

Next year will be a significant number of years married for us. I think the plan is a BBQ for a select few. No big doooo's for us

 

[pplpilot]

Same as the mugs that feel the need to do the valentines thing...

 

[spen666]

if you are guest at a re newal of vows ceremony, are you expected to buy a present?

 

[DaveReading]

if you are guest at a re newal of vows ceremony, are you expected to buy a present?

Yes, but it's perfectly OK to give something that's been recycled.

 

[Cyclist33]

While watching The Chase tonight a contestant was asked what would she do if she won any money...she said she would go away somewhere nice with husband and renew their wedding vows....this got me wondering why do people do this and need to do it? Was their wedding day not sufficient? Anyone on here done this ?

I don't understand why people get married in the first place.

 

[ufkacbln]

I think it is a personal choice.

I had a work colleague who got married whilst young and poor. They could not afford very much and their wedding was very low key, photos were taken by friends

At thirty they decided to have the wedding that they would have liked the first time

 

[Beebo]

My OH asked about second honeymoons the other night and what the point was. I explained it's an expensive holiday bought by whichever party played away first or got caught playing away first.
FWIW I've been engaged for 14 years and counting.

I think you're right, the only reason to renew vows would be if one of them had done something they shouldnt have.
And was making a public statement.

 

[awomaninsane]

I just wouldn't want to spend all that money on other people, I'm tight like that. If I was going to do this (and I'm not, it's a pointless exercise) then I would book a lush holiday where only hubby and I benefited from it. I don't really understand big weddings anyway, inviting hundreds of people and feeding them and giving them drinks. Why spend all that money on one day? Like I say, I'm tight!

 

[martint235]

Really? I think that's rather a sad view.

I see renewing vows as being an expression of continued love and devotion.

An expression to who? The loved one? Or is it just an opportunity to get people together to shout "Look at us. We're so happy but we can't be happy unless we tell you lot we're happy"

I just wouldn't want to spend all that money on other people, I'm tight like that. If I was going to do this (and I'm not, it's a pointless exercise) then I would book a lush holiday where only hubby and I benefited from it. I don't really understand big weddings anyway, inviting hundreds of people and feeding them and giving them drinks. Why spend all that money on one day? Like I say, I'm tight!

This about sums it up apart from the tight bit. Yes me and the OH could have afforded to get married but why waste a couple of grand on other people. We just went on holiday instead.

 

[stephec]

This seems to fall into the category of, 'things that other people do that don't really affect me, but still wind me up when it really shouldn't.'

Personally not for me, although I think Mrs Stephec would like it if I offered, but if others want to do it then let them get on with it.

 

[Fnaar]

This seems to fall into the category of, 'things that other people do that don't really affect me, but still wind me up when it really shouldn't.'

Personally not for me, although I think Mrs Stephec would like it if I offered, but if others want to do it then let them get on with it.

I created a family kerfuffle when I refused to go to my nieces first communion. I told my sister I wasn't a Catholic, I thought the whole idea absurd, but hoped everyone had a good day. I wanted no part of it.