Canrider
Guru
It's easy to trot out hard man lines like 'You need to lose in order to gain the desire to win'. This presupposes that someone is going to pass that message along to the loser themselves. You could just as easily take away from it the message that 'You've lost, and you're always going to lose, so why bother trying in the first place?'.
Take 'high jump' day in primary PE. Line up all the kids* and have them them attempt the jump. Anyone who fails get a second shot, everyone who fails the second time gets to sit down and wait for everyone else to be eliminated. Raise the bar and repeat until you've selected the ultimate 'winner'. Throw in a Czech PE teacher who likes to yell at kids when they knock the bar off for good measure.
Now convince me that the kid who's eliminated first** is absolutely, necessarily, guaranteed to think 'Shucks, I'll try harder next time'. Like hell he will.
*Lots of standing around waiting, must be 'sport'?
** Not me, incidentally, thank Crom, the stress of the *possibility* of being first out was bad enough
Take 'high jump' day in primary PE. Line up all the kids* and have them them attempt the jump. Anyone who fails get a second shot, everyone who fails the second time gets to sit down and wait for everyone else to be eliminated. Raise the bar and repeat until you've selected the ultimate 'winner'. Throw in a Czech PE teacher who likes to yell at kids when they knock the bar off for good measure.
Now convince me that the kid who's eliminated first** is absolutely, necessarily, guaranteed to think 'Shucks, I'll try harder next time'. Like hell he will.
*Lots of standing around waiting, must be 'sport'?
** Not me, incidentally, thank Crom, the stress of the *possibility* of being first out was bad enough