So sad

[postman]

I have just been for the longest but slowest walk since my operation .
And i have just passed my ex wife .She was stood waiting for a bus .We were no more than eight feet apart .She totally blanked me .The years 23 have not been kind to her, cancer scare and major surgery .
Her face looks haggard ,but to me she still looked beautiful .Life is a bummer sometimes .

I will never come to terms with how i have flourished and she has struggled since our divorce .

Long hours away from home doing overtime .Caused the split,we just drifted apart .And one silly argument caused the divorce .

Life is cruel to some .I am now retired and money wise ok .She looks like she is having to work Which she never did whilst we were married .Sorry to go on .But it's not been a good reaction in seeing her .

 

[Kirstie]

Are you sure that she saw you and recognised you?
Sorry postman, it sounds like a sad, not least awkward situation. Would having a conversation with her have made any difference to the way you felt about the whole thing, or are you just shocked at how she appeared?

 

[ChrisKH]

Is a reconciliation out of the question?

Thought about getting in touch if only to either confirm the split was the right decision or just to talk it through so you can both move on?

 

[postman]

I think it's better to let sleeping dogs lie .No good digging up the past .We both have remarried .

She looks poorly .After effects of cancer treatment .

 

[Slowgrind]

If it's eating you up make your feelings known, to a councilor or your doctor, perhaps even your Ex. Don't bottle up your emotions. That will make you suffer and be unhappy!
Good luck!

 

[ttcycle]

This is a shame postman, sometimes, even when the worst things happen and relationships sometimes end in the most acrimonious ways that mean friendship or civility is not possible.

It would always be hard trying to reconcile a situation like this as it takes the other person to. It's only human that you are saddened.

+1 slowgrind - if it is affecting that much- worth speaking to others.