Tea? (Part 4)

[Shut Up Legs]

morning all... going to be another hard day in hell today.
I may not be around much....

having problems facing the world at the moment.
family are being shoot to me because I took 36hrs to respond to my sisters text message. This is the 4th one she has sent me since my back went. she lives 25 miles away, has not been to see me. has not bothered ringing me. I have learnt 3rd hand she got engaged last week and I had nothing polite to say to her so I was waiting until I didn't say what was on my mind. now both my mother and one of my brothers are on my backs because I didn't reply. I got one line from her saying "hi sis, how's you?" what am I meant to say... this is the girl I brought up until she was 10 or 11. apparently I shouldn't let this descend into the argument that resulted in one of my uncles leaving the family and never returning. I'm the one that dropped everthing when she recently (last summer when I was on my feet) collapsed and sat with and collected her from A&E many many miles from my home and she has no idea that I had to cycle 11 miles just to pick the bloody car up to get to her! OK, im going to stop there it is making me too angry ...

like I said facing the world this morning is just making me cry.

edit: sorry.

Sorry to hear that. I hope things improve for you. Sorry, that sounds really lame, but just know we're always thinking of you here in CC Land.

 

[ScotiaLass]

Morning. I won't say 'good'.
Waiting on the GP calling me...

 

[ScotiaLass]

morning all... going to be another hard day in hell today.
I may not be around much....

having problems facing the world at the moment.
family are being shoot to me because I took 36hrs to respond to my sisters text message. This is the 4th one she has sent me since my back went. she lives 25 miles away, has not been to see me. has not bothered ringing me. I have learnt 3rd hand she got engaged last week and I had nothing polite to say to her so I was waiting until I didn't say what was on my mind. now both my mother and one of my brothers are on my backs because I didn't reply. I got one line from her saying "hi sis, how's you?" what am I meant to say... this is the girl I brought up until she was 10 or 11. apparently I shouldn't let this descend into the argument that resulted in one of my uncles leaving the family and never returning. I'm the one that dropped everthing when she recently (last summer when I was on my feet) collapsed and sat with and collected her from A&E many many miles from my home and she has no idea that I had to cycle 11 miles just to pick the bloody car up to get to her! OK, im going to stop there it is making me too angry ...

like I said facing the world this morning is just making me cry.

edit: sorry.

That's sh*t!
I know all about the family communication thing.
When my dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia, my brother only told me about it 8 months later!
He didn't tell me dad had a cancerous skin lesion removed, or much about what was going on, When I challenged him he told me it was up to me to ask! He had a go at me for not visiting my dad daily, like he did...no understanding of my anxieties, depression etc. Just a judgement.
Anyway, deep breaths....
I think your family need to be made to understand just how much you're going through right now. I'm guessing replying to a text isn't high on your list of priorities!

 

[Bobby Mhor]

Morning to all

 

[ScotiaLass]

GP called...got an appointment at 10.50am today

 

[Fubar]

Whatever else I'm not your wife. That'll get @stephec going will that. Not to mention @Fubar and @SteCenturion.

What you dragging me into this for?!?

 

[ScotiaLass]

Morning Mr Fu

 

[Fubar]

morning all... going to be another hard day in hell today.
I may not be around much....

having problems facing the world at the moment.
family are being shoot to me because I took 36hrs to respond to my sisters text message. This is the 4th one she has sent me since my back went. she lives 25 miles away, has not been to see me. has not bothered ringing me. I have learnt 3rd hand she got engaged last week and I had nothing polite to say to her so I was waiting until I didn't say what was on my mind. now both my mother and one of my brothers are on my backs because I didn't reply. I got one line from her saying "hi sis, how's you?" what am I meant to say... this is the girl I brought up until she was 10 or 11. apparently I shouldn't let this descend into the argument that resulted in one of my uncles leaving the family and never returning. I'm the one that dropped everthing when she recently (last summer when I was on my feet) collapsed and sat with and collected her from A&E many many miles from my home and she has no idea that I had to cycle 11 miles just to pick the bloody car up to get to her! OK, im going to stop there it is making me too angry ...

like I said facing the world this morning is just making me cry.

edit: sorry.

BIG

Sorry, I know it's your family and it's not my place - but what a bunch of selfish B*****ds!

You are (sometimes) and have been in a terrible place, emotions like a rollercoaster in and out of hospital with an uncertain future and they are on your backs about not replying to a text message?!?!?

F* em, F* em all.

 

[Fubar]

Morning Mr Fu

Mornin'... bit bleary eyed this morning... Gin Tasting event last night... Mrs Fu curled up in bed having wisely taken a day off, I had to get the train to werk...

On the up side I have NO MEETINGS TODAY!!! Just need to figure out a database thingy...

 

[Blue]

Best have a few more

Are you trying to get me drunk big boy?

 

[Shut Up Legs]

Mornin'... bit bleary eyed this morning... Gin Tasting event last night... Mrs Fu curled up in bed having wisely taken a day off, I had to get the train to werk...

On the up side I have NO MEETINGS TODAY!!! Just need to figure out a database thingy...

I really don't miss gin. The hangovers from gin are always nasty ones.

 

[Lullabelle]

Whilst we were at Bangkok Airport we had a few hours to kill so went for a mooch around the duty free stuff. Never bought anything before but that time I made an exception. Everyone else was stocking up on booze, ciggies, perfume and chocolate, I bought baby orchid plants. There are 2 per jar, I bought 2 jars, they will take a couple of years to start flowering but I can wait. One is supposed to be a red colour and the other lilac/blue, I don't have these colours so looking forward to seeing them bloom

 

[Fubar]

I really don't miss gin. The hangovers from gin are always nasty ones.

TBH I didn't drink much - it was a tasting session and a birthday pressie for Mrs Fu. They brew their own beer which was MUCH more interesting!

 

[Blue]

morning all... going to be another hard day in hell today.
I may not be around much....

having problems facing the world at the moment.
family are being shoot to me because I took 36hrs to respond to my sisters text message. This is the 4th one she has sent me since my back went. she lives 25 miles away, has not been to see me. has not bothered ringing me. I have learnt 3rd hand she got engaged last week and I had nothing polite to say to her so I was waiting until I didn't say what was on my mind. now both my mother and one of my brothers are on my backs because I didn't reply. I got one line from her saying "hi sis, how's you?" what am I meant to say... this is the girl I brought up until she was 10 or 11. apparently I shouldn't let this descend into the argument that resulted in one of my uncles leaving the family and never returning. I'm the one that dropped everthing when she recently (last summer when I was on my feet) collapsed and sat with and collected her from A&E many many miles from my home and she has no idea that I had to cycle 11 miles just to pick the bloody car up to get to her! OK, im going to stop there it is making me too angry ...

like I said facing the world this morning is just making me cry.

edit: sorry.

Have another

FWIW I never bother with my siblings. 36 hours for a reply to a text, sh;t, I haven't turned my phone on for about 4 months!!

When people get older they build their own lives/families and drift apart. Just last night our daughter, who lives in Sheffield, phoned Mrs B to give her some earache because she hadn't commented on a picture she sent on Facebook a few days ago - she was excited because she had snapped someone riding a horse down her street. FFS, she's a uni graduate who is now married with a family and is 33 years old. Now we live in Ireland with open countryside on one side of us and a wide sandy coastal bay on the other so seeing a horse go down the street isn't headline news to us. We didn't pay much attention to the moaning daughter!!

Don't get wound up - the negative emotions are just self harming.

 

[SatNavSaysStraightOn]

That's sh*t!
I know all about the family communication thing.
When my dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia, my brother only told me about it 8 months later!
He didn't tell me dad had a cancerous skin lesion removed, or much about what was going on, When I challenged him he told me it was up to me to ask! He had a go at me for not visiting my dad daily, like he did...no understanding of my anxieties, depression etc. Just a judgement.
Anyway, deep breaths....
I think your family need to be made to understand just how much you're going through right now. I'm guessing replying to a text isn't high on your list of priorities!

certainly not when my response will be "I understand 3rd hand that congratulations are in order. So what is his name and what is the name of the niece/nephew I will be acquiring?" p***es me off that she lives so near and I have done so much for her, yet she can't even me bothered to a) visit me, b) send me birthday or Christmas card or c) even tell me herself that she is engaged. then she gets annoyed that I don't reply to her text message asking me how I am.....

I've had more support here online from people I have never (in the most cases) met!
I've actually had more support off my husband's family. All but one of them (he doesn't drive and can't for medical reasons) have been to see me at some point and my in-laws have been many times, probably more times than my parents have been and they live further away!
Family - the friends you don't get to choose and (usually) the ones you don't actually want either....