Like I said, it goes hand in hand with good parenting and guidance. You don't have to spy on kids to achieve that. Why was this kid in a position that she was meeting people she'd only met online? Did her parents not know where she was going or who she was with? Even if she did manage to sneak off and have a relationship, wasn't she taught about condoms?
Teenage daughter and Facebook guidance...
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Like I said, it goes hand in hand with good parenting and guidance. You don't have to spy on kids to achieve that. Why was this kid in a position that she was meeting people she'd only met online? Did her parents not know where she was going or who she was with? Even if she did manage to sneak off and have a relationship, wasn't she taught about condoms?
Yellow Fang
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Even my parents told me off for something I posted on FB.
It's nothing like that at all, that's just a strawman argument. My Daughter does keep a diary and I do not and never will read it. but facebook is open and in public, other people can see what my daughter writes. With facebook you can friend people and they can see either everything you write or you can limit what they see, just as my daughter's friends can not see what I post unless I make it so they can. I don't care what day to day stuff my daughter writes I care what friends she has, and what they are into. If one of her Friends started talking about taking drugs or boasting about UTS I'd talk to my daughter about it and explain. Same with other points of conflict, we as a family talk. Good parental guidance starts with talking from an early age about anything and everything. Trust is earnt not given. Claiming it is in the name of Pre-teen Privacy is just an excuse to avoid the issues.
Seriously? With your own children? Man, glad you're not in my family.
I'm able to remember I was a kid, and so yes.
Trust foolishly repent repeatedly, It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
Cycling Dan
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I have mine blocked.
asterix
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..so who's on here checking up to see what their parents are getting up to?
I have many, many reasons not to trust people, but to pass that mistrust onto my child would be a terrible thing to do. Why do they need to be treated like that because you had a bad experience? Let children be children, the worst thing you can do as a parent is pass any kind of bad feeling or resentment onto a child. They don't deserve to see the world through adult eyes while they are kids, much less a mistrustful adult. And believe me, they won't thank you for it.
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IDMark2
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@User1314 I'm hoping desperately that I can have my kids growing up without the fear factor that is constantly generated around them, I sent the two of them out this weekend with a football and a bike each, said 'I don't want to see you until you are hungry, you know where the playing fields are...'
But that's what I was trying to impress upon my daughter, not to be afraid of FB but at the same time being aware of how like shouting from a rooftop it can be.
Or so she told me...
But that's what I was trying to impress upon my daughter, not to be afraid of FB but at the same time being aware of how like shouting from a rooftop it can be.
Or so she told me...
If you are trying to imply I'm doing something sinister, then the onus is only your seedy mind. What I am saying is posting about things like taking drugs or online bullying.
Honestly not implying anything sinister.
I just think snooping on other peoples children on facebook is a bit intrusive, whether they are talking about drugs, boys, hair cuts or one direction.
I didn't have a bad experience as a child I was the bad experience, as for trusting people I've brought my daughter up to have experiences that most kids will never have, things that kids of my generation took for granted. building dens, camping in homemade shelters in the woods without parents or adults cooking over a wood fire, hunting, skinning, eating rabbits, fireside story telling and the like, as well as swimming in the rivers and streams and building rafts. It's not my daughter I don't trust, well not now, she's grown enough to have earnt it. it's others.
My house my rules, My family my rules. they don't have to like it.
Cycling Dan
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You not trust your household to ignore any such posts on facebook?
