Toddlers

[Julia9054]

This is so true & the kids of today bringing up kids don't seem to understand this, (wide sweeping statement I know)

Erm, weren't the kids of today of which you speak brought up by the previous generation?

 

[Deleted member 26715]

Erm, weren't the kids of today of which you speak brought up by the previous generation?

Yes, but my observation is that kids of today seem less mature than of old, also as families break down the role of grandparents/great grandparents seems to have diminished, they have more distraction, in the past they would stop their wanton toddler from doing anti-social things, these days they are glued to their phones so allow the toddler to do exactly what they want, when my kids were growing up, there were boundaries, these don't seem to exist anymore.

 

[Tommy2]

I feel I’m too harsh on my kids sometimes for other people’s comfort, my 8 month old is finding his voice and has taken to just shouting, he’s not upset or crying just exploring his voice but I’m constantly trying to shush him in public places, but then I think ‘it’s a public place and he’s a baby’.

 

[Andy in Germany]

I feel I’m too harsh on my kids sometimes for other people’s comfort, my 8 month old is finding his voice and has taken to just shouting, he’s not upset or crying just exploring his voice but I’m constantly trying to shush him in public places, but then I think ‘it’s a public place and he’s a baby’.

We generally tell our kids a public space is a 'sharing space', and that other people don't always appreciate the extra joy that they bring by demonstrating their lung capacity.

It occasionally works...

 

[Andy in Germany]

This is so true & the kids of today bringing up kids don't seem to understand this, (wide sweeping statement I know)

To be honest I think a lot of them either didn't have role models themselves, and are also kn*ckered from trying to make ends meet. I arrive home tired out and I have a challenging but generally secure job. How people manage working longer hours and looking after their family I don't know.

 

[Andy in Germany]

Why when they cry ( most of the time ) do parents take them into the garden away from the people that love them so the people that dont love them have to listen to it ?

In Japan that was THE punishment for antisocial behaviour: The group identity of the family was so strong that children who were put on the front step would be desperate to gain the acceptance of the family again, so they shut up promptly.

We tried it with ours. They wandered off.

 

[fossyant]

Sooo, I guess some of you were never a child. I bet you've got some tales to tell

 

[Deleted member 26715]

Sooo, I guess some of you were never a child.

About 50% of the population

 

[Dan B]

Childless adults should pay an additional 20% income tax.

So-called adults who have not yet made the connection between "children" and "the next generation of economically active people" should be prohibited from investing their pensions into any endeavour which is premised on there being a next generation of economically active people.

 

[slowwww]

The Government secretly pays us parents to do this. They are increasingly concerned about the financial affordability of population growth and by exposing those yet to breed to the full joys of bringing up toddlers, it's likely to reduce their inclination to do so.

More social engineering by the ruling classes, I'm afraid.

 

[gbb]

I feel I’m too harsh on my kids sometimes for other people’s comfort, my 8 month old is finding his voice and has taken to just shouting, he’s not upset or crying just exploring his voice but I’m constantly trying to shush him in public places, but then I think ‘it’s a public place and he’s a baby’.

Not too harsh at all IMO.

Our grandson who as i said came into the family at 2 YO and had troubling tendencies, now 4 YO can be demanding and seeks attention all the time and gets louder and louder given the opportunity. When i respond to him i put my finger to my lips and say 'not so loud Luke'...gently but firmly. He responds well to that....for a while

Now his mum, we love her to bits but she had a terrible upbringing, put into care, her mother was off the rails at various times in her life and its had a catastrophic effect on her daughters ability and understanding of how to bring up kids. We've been helping, supporting and guiding her as much as her son....and its amazing to see people flourish. Early on when she came into the family she was struggling to afford the Xmas shop, we brought her £50 worth of shopping and she burst into tears when we took it round...'no-ones ever done that for me, my own mum wouldnt do that'

Without someones help some folk are lost, and its easy to judge someone in the queue because their kids are playing up but they likely have no idea because they've never been taught (or sometimes even loved)...

 

[fossyant]

Well I certainly got up to more stuff than my kids did, and only recently has my dad told us about what he used to get up to, he's in his 70s and a few beers usually get him spilling the beans. A bit of a rascal I believe. He was quite strict with us. I only found out a year or two ago that he used to have a fixed gear bike, despite me having had one for 10 years.

 

[Tin Pot]

In Japan that was THE punishment for antisocial behaviour: The group identity of the family was so strong that children who were put on the front step would be desperate to gain the acceptance of the family again, so they shut up promptly.

We tried it with ours. They wandered off.

I’m not sure that you are, but I really would not be looking at Japan as an ideal social model