When is adultery acceptable?

[Drago]

My Great Aunt cared for Great Uncle Albert , who had MS, for as long as I can remember. I don't have any memories of him standing up. She said that she had made her vows and that was that.

Same here. What kind of man would I be if I couldn't even keep my word?

People can do as they see fit when such circumstances arise. However, its wrong to take vows if you don't mean it. They're just hollow words.

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

Mrs D has MS and is ever so slowly declining, and it doesn't matter how bad she gets, as God is my witness I'll keep it tucked in my pants.

Bit OT - but do you know of the Stem Cell treatments? Friend of mine's wife has just had such treatment. I'm no expert tho'.

 

[oldwheels]

Good on you Drago. My wife had Parkinson's and towards the end got very difficult. She was terrified I could desert her and put her into some " hell hole" as she had to go into such places for brief periods of respite for me and hated them ( with some reason). After being together for nearly 60 years I could never do that and remained as her carer till the end.

 

[Tin Pot]

If you were knocked off your bike and had head/spinal injuries then needed 24 hour care would it be ok for your wife/husband to start a relationship and have kids with another person?

Would you want to be visited by partner while in care and have them drop your step children on the bed with you?

Until death do us part.

A good friend of mine had to put up with his father having a long affair with his mother's carer as she slowly succumbed to long term terminal decline. It absolutely destroyed him.

 

[JoshM]

I'm not sure I see the choice as being either stay by my side, or abandon me to my fate.

I'd hope my partner would love and care enough for me to want to remain in my life, but I'd also hope that I could accept that our relationship had changed somewhat as a result of my accident. How exactly that would look would depend on a few factors, like what care I'd need, the extent to which I was able to maintain our relationship along the same lines at it was before the accident, the temperament of my partner, our family situation etc. I'd hope they'd continue to play an important and active part of my life, and that I'd continue to play an important part of their life, but I also hope that I wouldn't want them to deprive themselves of the physical and emotional intimacy I was no longer able to offer.

Love and devotion has many faces.

 

[jonny jeez]

The answer to the question in the thread is.

When it's acceptable.

 

[SpokeyDokey]

The Dignitas procedure (putting aside any ethics/legalities implications) is slightly more complex than it may first appear.

If this is anyone's desired outcome in dreadful circumstances it would be well to visit their website to get an overview of the process now before it is too late.

Personally (not wanting to start a debate here - one for 'Politics' etc) it's about time we sorted this out in the UK - there are some dreadful conditions that (imo) make an early exit seem desirable - if that's the right word.

 

[Milzy]

The Dignitas procedure (putting aside any ethics/legalities implications) is slightly more complex than it may first appear.

If this is anyone's desired outcome in dreadful circumstances it would be well to visit their website to get an overview of the process now before it is too late.

Personally (not wanting to start a debate here - one for 'Politics' etc) it's about time we sorted this out in the UK - there are some dreadful conditions that (imo) make an early exit seem desirable - if that's the right word.

I agree euthanasia should be made legal here. It's got nothing to do with the youth in Asia before the idiots start.

 

[Mrs M]

I adore my hubby and if something happened to him I can't think of anything further from my mind that "getting it on" with another man.
All my efforts would be caring for him and making him as happy as he could be.

 

[Mrs M]

P.S.
I would seek solace from the cat

 

[theclaud]

I'm not sure I see the choice as being either stay by my side, or abandon me to my fate.

I'd hope my partner would love and care enough for me to want to remain in my life, but I'd also hope that I could accept that our relationship had changed somewhat as a result of my accident. How exactly that would look would depend on a few factors, like what care I'd need, the extent to which I was able to maintain our relationship along the same lines at it was before the accident, the temperament of my partner, our family situation etc. I'd hope they'd continue to play an important and active part of my life, and that I'd continue to play an important part of their life, but I also hope that I wouldn't want them to deprive themselves of the physical and emotional intimacy I was no longer able to offer.

Love and devotion has many faces.

This. And the concept of 'adultery', just like 'illegitimacy', has no place in a 21st century secular society, and no relevance to arrangements between consenting adults.

 

[biggs682]

This is the best answer so far.

So is this a competition ? If so what is the prize ?

 

[Levo-Lon]

Why do you ask @Milzy?

I am with @User46386 on this, I think.

Me too

 

[MarkF]

Acceptable at most times for me, we are not robots, for men and women relationships mostly don't break down and fail without a cross over (trial) period into another.........

 

[Slick]

Life isn't always as black and white for some. I would like to believe that I would stand by my wife, but who knows what would happen should you be faced with these circumstances. An older friend had a stroke a few years ago, his wife simply couldn't cope so he was in a residential care home for quite a while. I couldn't believe it when I saw him again as he made a remarkable recovery but in the mean time his wife's health deteriorated to such a degree that she is now in a home and it is him who now lives on his own. A very sad end to 50 odd years of marriage.