Why does the wife repeat

[biggs682]

please can somebody a bit older and wiser than me answer this questions for me , i have a funeral to go to on next thurs , and get told got to and get a suit , i say no i will manage , what shirt are you going to wear i am asked , i reply not sure will think about , i get the same question 2 more times in the next 5 mins and give the same answer both times as the question comes out again , i get up and walk of to the pc , WHY

 

[ttcycle]

I'm probably not older than you but sounds like she just wants you to wear something suitable and doesn't want you to turn up looking scruffy. She's probably not putting it in the best way but maybe finds your relaxed approach disconcerting..?

 

[Greedo]

please can somebody a bit older and wiser than me answer this questions for me , i have a funeral to go to on next thurs , and get told got to and get a suit , i say no i will manage , what shirt are you going to wear i am asked , i reply not sure will think about , i get the same question 2 more times in the next 5 mins and give the same answer both times as the question comes out again , i get up and walk of to the pc , WHY

Just take her batteries out!

 

[rich p]

Suits are not necessarily de rigeur these days at funerals. Make your own choice of what is appropriate and tell the old bag to mind her own business

 

[biggs682]

rich p and greedo you have just given me the best answers so thanks , going to go and sit next to her indoors with no batterys and read a book . whats the betting the question comes out again

 

[ianrauk]

or get one of these

Just take her batteries out!

 

[biggs682]

that looks just the job

do evans sell them

 

[Campfire]

Quite a few of my Dad's friends went to his funeral on their bikes so had their cycling gear on! Nobody was bothered but if you are close to the person who has died it is usual to wear something reasonably appropriate so as to show respect to the family. Personally if it were me I wouldn't be bothered but it's a difficult time so I'd say go with the flow and wear something respectful but not to bother buying a new suit for the occasion.

 

[wafflycat]

please can somebody a bit older and wiser than me answer this questions for me , i have a funeral to go to on next thurs , and get told got to and get a suit , i say no i will manage , what shirt are you going to wear i am asked , i reply not sure will think about , i get the same question 2 more times in the next 5 mins and give the same answer both times as the question comes out again , i get up and walk of to the pc , WHY

Because unless specifically requested, the usual attire for males to wear at a funeral to show respect for the family & friends of the deceased is a dark suit/shirt/black tie/black smart shoes, all clean and tidy. If you haven't got a suit, if possible get one. If you can't, at least make what you are going to wear to be clean and tidy and preferrably a smart shirt/tie trousers and jacket combination. Trainers/jeans/t-shirt and any form of casual attire can come across as being disrespectful, especially if not clean and worn in a scruffy way. It doesn't automatically follow that it will, but wearing the more usual suit combination generally avoids any unintentional offence being caused.

Attending a funeral isn't necessarily about YOU, it's about everyone else there, in particular the closest family of the person that has died.It's about showing RESPECT for the life of the person who has died and his/her memory to the closest family & friends of that person, as a funeral is a way of saying goodbye and marking. One of the ways we show respect is by the clothes we wear.

Also think on this - is your wife feeling sad/stressed about the death of that person - if so, why risk increasing her sadness by getting her even more stressed by worrying what you wear or don't wear? Would it really be so hard to put a suit on for a few hours on one day? Funerals are one of those times in life where stress is bad enough already without unnecessarily increasing it.

 

[Greedo]

Because unless specifically requested, the usual attire for males to wear at a funeral to show respect for the family & friends of the deceased is a dark suit/shirt/black tie/black smart shoes, all clean and tidy. If you haven't got a suit, if possible get one. If you can't, at least make what you are going to wear to be clean and tidy and preferrably a smart shirt/tie trousers and jacket combination. Trainers/jeans/t-shirt and any form of casual attire can come across as being disrespectful, especially if not clean and worn in a scruffy way. It doesn't automatically follow that it will, but wearing the more usual suit combination generally avoids any unintentional offence being caused.

Attending a funeral isn't necessarily about YOU, it's about everyone else there, in particular the closest family of the person that has died.It's about showing RESPECT for the life of the person who has died and his/her memory to the closest family & friends of that person, as a funeral is a way of saying goodbye and marking. One of the ways we show respect is by the clothes we wear.

Also think on this - is your wife feeling sad/stressed about the death of that person - if so, why risk increasing her sadness by getting her even more stressed by worrying what you wear or don't wear? Would it really be so hard to put a suit on for a few hours on one day? Funerals are one of those times in life where stress is bad enough already without unnecessarily increasing it.

Ha ha ha ha Biggs

that's you told!!!!!!

 

[wafflycat]

If my post came across in a manner of 'being told', I apologise. I didn't mean it to sound that way, just to answer the OP's question.

 

[John Ponting]

...

Attending a funeral isn't necessarily about YOU, it's about everyone else there, in particular the closest family of the person that has died.It's about showing RESPECT for the life of the person who has died and his/her memory to the closest family & friends of that person, as a funeral is a way of saying goodbye and marking. ... Funerals are one of those times in life where stress is bad enough already without unnecessarily increasing it.

Great words.

My younger brother died suddenly shortly before Xmas and we had his funeral on Christmas Eve afternoon. Loads of snow, loads of friends and family, all paying their respects. We all made some effort at dressing suitably for the occaision. If his wife had told me that he was in his coffin wearing his favourite "sarcasm" t-shirt I would still have made the effort but might have smiled a bit nore.


Dress up a bit, say a few good words in eulogy, thanks friends and relatives and say cheerio.

 

[Lisa21]

Great words.

My younger brother died suddenly shortly before Xmas and we had his funeral on Christmas Eve afternoon. Loads of snow, loads of friends and family, all paying their respects. We all made some effort at dressing suitably for the occaision. If his wife had told me that he was in his coffin wearing his favourite "sarcasm" t-shirt I would still have made the effort but might have smiled a bit nore.


Dress up a bit, say a few good words in eulogy, thanks friends and relatives and say cheerio.

So sorry to hear that. xx

 

[Arch]

When someone nags, I'd say it's for one of three reasons.

a) they really are trying to annoy.
they are someone who worries a lot, and no matter how much they know deep down that the nagee will do something, they can't help fretting about it
or
c) they know from long experience that the nagee will do bugger all about something unless nagged.

Obviously, I can't say which fits the bill. I'm , and I know it, and I try not to, but it's a struggle.

 

[Jane Smart]

John Ponting, I am sorry to hear about your brother too

xx