Younglings at home....

[GrumpyGregry]

Do you have young people living at home with you who are no longer in education and are of an age where you might once of thought they would have flown the nest?

We have three between the ages of 24 - 28 with us. One son, one daughter, one son-in-love. All adorable creatures, and as a family unit we function surprisingly well but...

... back in the day, post 2008 and the crash, I'd assumed that by the time I'd got to 53 the nest would be empty and the lovely Helen and I would be able to consider downsizing even if we chose not to execute that option. Son (works full-time) and daughter (works p/t whilst doing an OU degree) have both left and bounced back. Son-in-love (works full time) came along some while after daughter returned home. Son might move back to London to a shared house/flat if economics allow but can't see daughter and son-in-love being able to escape unless they get very lucky financially. I'm not complaining btw, as the upsides far outweigh the downsides, just expressing bafflement at the unexpectedness of it all.

(fwiw I left home (chucked out) and bounced back three times between 14 - 24. At 24 I got married to TLH, who was 20, and already living away from home, and I left home for good.)

Who's boat is similar?

 

[Andrew_Culture]

My two year old does very little to pull her weight around here.

But yup, I moved out at 19 to shack up with my wife.

 

[swee'pea99]

We're in the early stages of resigning ourselves to the likelihood that our two will never leave. 14 & 17 now, so still university to come, but after that, they'll probably both want to work in London, and I just can't see any way they're going to be able to afford it unless they move back in. Nightmare!

 

[MisterStan]

My two year old does very little to pull her weight around here.

Ditto, mine won't even wipe her own @rse!

 

[MisterStan]

We're in the early stages of resigning ourselves to the likelihood that our two will never leave. 14 & 17 now, so still university to come, but after that, they'll probably both want to work in London, and I just can't see any way they're going to be able to afford it unless they move back in. Nightmare!

Change the locks when they head off to University?

 

[Deleted member 26715]

I know the feeling, daughter moved out at 19, 9 years ago has husband, child & own house, son now 25 stuck in a dead end 6p above minimum wage job appears to have no prospect of ever moving out.

Alan...

 

[Justiffa]

I have 3 kids age 28, 25 & 21. on weekdays 2 will be home but the eldest, who's an english teacher out of the city, will usually come back for the weekends making it a full house. but its ok, i like it that they're home… we make a merry bunch, sometimes close to killing each other but merry nonetheless lol

 

[Hill Wimp]

I don't have any kids but i live on an ever developing new housing development and have recently noticed 3-4 bedroom houses with garages being built with accommodation over the garages. I asked one of the sales staff why this was so and she explained that during the last phase of houses that her company built they were inundated with requests for separate/annex accommodation for just this and so they amended and resubmitted their plans to the county council and have apparently done so on all their developments now.

 

[Mr Haematocrit]

Mine is 28 and came home last year after breaking up with her partner and has flown the nest again..... I can't blame her I don't even like living with me

 

[vernon]

Levy Towers is in a period of transition.

Daughter, 20, spends term time at Bangor University. Younger son, 22, lives two miles away and is a full time student at Leeds Metropolitan University. I use the term full time with a degree of vagueness as he manages to play in a band and work 20-30 hours a week in a bar. Older son, 25, is waiting to move back in on a temporary basis to save up for a move to Manchester or Edinburgh. He should have moved back in or downsized from his opulently appointed flat ages ago as it consumes a large part of his salary but style and austerity beats downbeat and affluence every time in his book.

The boys came round every other Sunday for Sunday dinner and during university holidays we have the full set at home every other Sunday when much hilarity and mirth ensues.

Wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Andrew_Culture]

Ditto, mine won't even wipe her own @rse!

Take it from my own experience, it's best not to let them have a go

 

[Beebo]

A general question to the group.
Do these live at home adults pay rent and living expenses, or are they freeloading?
I left home at 25, but paid a reduced rent to my mum whilst I was employed, it was a token offering, and for that i got full board and lodging, with laundry service. It was a bargain, and I do wonder if some of these adults are finding it just too easy to stay at home, instead of roughing it in the big bad world.

 

[nickyboy]

Maybe there needs to be a dose of realism for those still living at their parents' in the SE of England. Unless they get an inheritance passed on to them rather than retained by their parents they aren't gong to be able to afford to live there. Get a job somewhere cheaper and live there

 

[pplpilot]

I bought my first house when I was 19, i'm 41 now. The very second I could get a mortgage I was off, borrowed way more than I could afford and I had saved like mad for the 3 years previous, lived in a shite hole in a shite area and lived off rice and smart price food for 5 years and I reckon I only ever had the heating on half a dozen times in that 5 years. I still have that house and rent it out. I did without for a long time, hell I even had a black and white portable hand me down and furniture from charity shops. I feel there are some younger people now that are just not prepared to do without for a few years to get a foot hold on the housing market. We have a friend who is continually moaning about their 28 and 30 year old still at home and the fact that they can't afford a house and the deposit. I can sort of understand the deposit thing but when they both run 2 year old cars and iPhone, iPad and still insist on 2 foreign holidays a year along with label clothing and every Friday and Saturday in trendy bars in town my sympathy is short lived.

 

[MisterStan]

[QUOTE 2817733, member: 259"]It's not always that easy - when I was unemployed, all the decent jobs were in the South East and there were far more of them. It may be different now, but I doubt it.[/quote]
Wages tend to be higher too in the SE....