Ante-natal classes

[simoncc]

I think that the syllabus for these classes should be altered for new mothers over 35 to include a section on realism. These women need to be told that it is very unlikely that everyone else is even one tenth as interested in your child as you are and that the child is probably not a genius.

 

[alecstilleyedye]

and with a refresher course when the child starts school, adding the module of how your child is not necessarily star material and that they'll pick their own friends.

 

[Arch]

On the other hand, why not just let women enjoy talking about their children?

My sister is not quite 35 yet, but of course, she loves her boy and is proud of every little stage of his development, as am I (and as is his dad, and both his grannies). Only a really grumpy person would begrudge that feeling.

And why only mothers over 35? Do mothers under 35 never talk lovingly or boastfully about their children?

I think ante natal classes could more usefully concentrate on the idea that electric powered sit-on motorbikes or cars are a waste of money and that a decent bike would be a better investment, and that a good old fashioned book can be as entertaining as a faux computer, if you simply take the few minutes it takes to read to your child and interact with it....

 

[ChrisKH]

I am also not sure what age has to do with this thread. Freud might find a connection.

I suspect most first time older Mums will be better off (a good proportion will have delayed childbirth to pursue careers) and middle class. As such they may plan their children's future a little too aggressively and publically for Simon's liking.

 

[col]

First time mothers have a right to be so over the moon that they can talk endlessly about the baby,even second or third time,its the biggest thing that can possibly happen in anyones lives.

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

Simon's just a bit bashful about possibly seeing an older woman's breast as she feeds her offspring. He's only used to Barbie and Cindy.

 

[Noodley]

I think simon's mother may have been a bit older when she gave birth and he has been a big let-down to her.

 

[papercorn2000]

Not much experience with women have you?

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

Not much experience with women people have you?

Duly altered...

 

[Arch]

First time mothers have a right to be so over the moon that they can talk endlessly about the baby,even second or third time,its the biggest thing that can possibly happen in anyones lives.

Here here. Oli isn't even my baby, and I'm over the moon about him, and as he's the first baby I've known so well, I'm fascinated by his development. The silliest little landmarks seem so important. Watching the connections forming in his mind, as he starts to make sense of the world....

 

[col]

Here here. Oli isn't even my baby, and I'm over the moon about him, and as he's the first baby I've known so well, I'm fascinated by his development. The silliest little landmarks seem so important. Watching the connections forming in his mind, as he starts to make sense of the world....

Seeing other new mums is still an awe inspiring thing for me,not because of helping with my sons birth,but because of what a very wonderful thing it is thats happened,pure life learning from day one,incredible.And i still go on myself about my sister in law finding out she is expecting a week ago after trying two ivf treatments over the last few years,absolutely wonderful stuff.
Real friends will understand all the non stop chatting about it

 

[papercorn2000]

Here here. Oli isn't even my baby, and I'm over the moon about him, and as he's the first baby I've known so well, I'm fascinated by his development. The silliest little landmarks seem so important. Watching the connections forming in his mind, as he starts to make sense of the world....

Some of us on here felt the same about bonj...

 

[wafflycat]

Simon's just a bit bashful about possibly seeing an older woman's breast as she feeds her offspring. He's only used to Barbie and Cindy.

In blow-up form...

 

[bonj2]

On the other hand, why not just let women enjoy talking about their children?

That's fine for the woman, and I dare say does no harm to the child, but I don't really see how that takes into account the feelings of the victim who is being talked at.

 

[Maz]

I think that the syllabus for these classes should be altered for new mothers over 35 to include a section on realism. These women need to be told that it is very unlikely that everyone else is even one tenth as interested in your child as you are and that the child is probably not a genius.

That's an aside. Congratulations to you and your partner, Simon!