Cancer and a bit of a rant

[fossyant]

As you age you meet folk that die. That is how life works.. Watched the channel 4 or 5 programme tonight about the folk that are terminally ill... My eyes lost it. The kids don't just get the "loss" of death and asked what was up with my eyes.. explained about mum's brother but its does not sink in at 11 or 13 just yet..

Hate the big C.

 

[classic33]

Lost my nuts to it in 99.
Operation was done the day before the last eclipse of the century, "The End Of The World".

Positive diagnosis got whilst enjoying my first day on holiday, whilst waiting for the kettle to boil after getting up.

 

[sazzaa]

I can't even imagine how it feels to go through all that (and I've been through some shoot in my life). Horrible.

 

[classic33]

I can't even imagine how it feels to go through all that (and I've been through some **** in my life). Horrible.

Well here's hoping you never will and that you are never a victim to cancer.

 

[Beebo]

As you age you meet folk that die. That is how life works.. Watched the channel 4 or 5 programme tonight about the folk that are terminally ill... My eyes lost it. The kids don't just get the "loss" of death and asked what was up with my eyes.. explained about mum's brother but its does not sink in at 11 or 13 just yet..

Hate the big C.

That "My Last Summer " programme on C4 was hard to watch last night, and it's on again next week, you saw the raw emotion of people dealing with the inevitable.
And that's just it, we are all dieing, some quicker than others, but we'll all get there in the end.

 

[SteCenturion]

So sorry to hear about your awful run of tragic (I don't know how to describe it).

My Stepdad (who was the only Dad I knew) died of bowel cancer at 59 brought on by Colitis.

Now my Mam has PanColitis (worse as in Pan = all around the colon).

We have to hope that she may not get the C.

Through the learning process of dealing with our situation we found that every human has the Cancerous cells & that all is needed is a "trigger" for this to develop further.

I take comfort from the fact that although we were estranged for some time, we had started to build bridges before the Cancer hit/was diagnosed.

Strangely, or maybe not, we believe he knew a good time before going to hospital & being diagnosed. He hated doctors surgeries & hospitals & just fronted it all out, not telling anyone he was in a bad way until the diagnosis.

Now stuck with how to close this.

You know.

 

[smokeysmoo]

I lost both my Grandad's to lung cancer, but how much of that was self inflicted as smokers I can't say

My Dad has been diagnosed with terminal PROSTATE CANCER, they have given him a reasonably long prognosis given that he's 78 now, so hopefully he'll die with it rather than because of it, but never the less

I got a message yesterday of an old work mate telling me his Wife's cancer that she's been fighting well has now spread to her liver and her back

On a more positive note I was fundraising a couple of years ago for a young girl, (5 at the time), who was diagnosed with NEUROBLASTOMA, now that's a b@stard form of cancer if ever there was one, it generally only targets young kids in infancy, WTF is that all about? Fortunately Emma has so for beaten her cancer, although she will obviously be checked regularly for years to come.

Hopefully we will continue to see more and more cases like Emma's, and less and less like my Dad's and my mates Wife's from this indiscriminating son of a b!tch disease

 

[stephec]

I lost both my Grandad's to lung cancer, but how much of that was self inflicted as smokers I can't say

My Dad has been diagnosed with terminal PROSTATE CANCER, they have given him a reasonably long prognosis given that he's 78 now, so hopefully he'll die with it rather than because of it, but never the less

I got a message yesterday of an old work mate telling me his Wife's cancer that she's been fighting well has now spread to her liver and her back

On a more positive note I was fundraising a couple of years ago for a young girl, (5 at the time), who was diagnosed with NEUROBLASTOMA, now that's a b@stard form of cancer if ever there was one, it generally only targets young kids in infancy, WTF is that all about? Fortunately Emma has so for beaten her cancer, although she will obviously be checked regularly for years to come.

Hopefully we will continue to see more and more cases like Emma's, and less and less like my Dad's and my mates Wife's from this indiscriminating son of a b!tch disease

Brilliant news for Emma, hope it stays good for her.

 

[SteCenturion]

I lost both my Grandad's to lung cancer, but how much of that was self inflicted as smokers I can't say

My Dad has been diagnosed with terminal PROSTATE CANCER, they have given him a reasonably long prognosis given that he's 78 now, so hopefully he'll die with it rather than because of it, but never the less

I got a message yesterday of an old work mate telling me his Wife's cancer that she's been fighting well has now spread to her liver and her back

On a more positive note I was fundraising a couple of years ago for a young girl, (5 at the time), who was diagnosed with NEUROBLASTOMA, now that's a b@stard form of cancer if ever there was one, it generally only targets young kids in infancy, WTF is that all about? Fortunately Emma has so for beaten her cancer, although she will obviously be checked regularly for years to come.

Hopefully we will continue to see more and more cases like Emma's, and less and less like my Dad's and my mates Wife's from this indiscriminating son of a b!tch disease

Can't add to that, very well put.

Only to say regards & Best of British.

 

[sazzaa]

One of my colleagues made a video for the guy who's in hospital (they're close mates), I've just watched it and it's heartbreaking. She's telling a story about his life while filming in his studio and down at the beach, probably the last time he'll see those scenes. Reality hits too hard sometimes.

 

[shouldbeinbed]

The usual, dad died a horrific drawn out death at 57 - f**k that frankly, I'll crawl on my lips to the railway line first if I have to, forcing people to remain alive just to die badly from terminal illness is inhumane IMO. brother lost a ball at 29, Grandma went to it, Aunt & godmum went in the space of 3 weeks from undiagnosed to dead, pal at work had a prostate op today. My son at 6 developed a malignant tumour in his head, at 15 we're just finally done with hospitals over it, no more living 2 lives between home and Alder Hey is a lovely thought.

my anger is less at the disease and more at the ego's and pressures in the medical profession. My dads death was hastened & worsened by an attitude of 'you only think you're still ill, we've done the operation and cured you' despite clanging alarm bells to the contrary. Of the 5 people on his ward, none lived 6 months after discharging & a couple of families won complaints against their loved ones treatment by the hospital. Sons tumour was a comparitively rare and aggressive thing, the first consultant was keener on documenting it for his CPD & trying experimental treatments, with talk of writing papers & "borrowing" him for tours of Europe when they worked - they didn't, they terrified and hurt him, saw his prognosis slipping down in fortnightly increments and delayed his eventual cure and rebuild by more conventional means and another consultant by quite some time. We had a hell of a fight to get free of Consultant 1, he and his experimental cures have both disappeared off the radar.

You want to be sure the people on your side aren't running incredibly fast just to stand still and have the humility and characters to look impassively at the evidence and act accordingly regardless of the lost kudos opportunities.

and can I add the organisation, as was, CancerBacup to the list of unsung heroes and true rocks to cling to in the crisis that engulfs you.

 

[sazzaa]

So, the guy from my work died overnight. I can't believe how quickly it all happened, from having stomach pains to now, gone. So sad.

 

[EltonFrog]

That is sad Sazza, I'm so sorry.

 

[Crankarm]

Dying is rather inconvenient what ever circumstances precipitate it.

 

[sazzaa]

I've been trying to keep busy all day but there's going to be no chance of avoiding it in work tomorrow. Dreading seeing people upset. And being upset myself.