Get angry, go for a blast on the bike and come back refreshed - used to work for me when I did get angry. Mrs Hippo taught me two important things 'Jai yen yen' which means 'Keep a cool heart'. The second one, important with your spouse/partner is "If you blow hot, I will blow cold. If I blow hot, you will blow cold." It makes perfect sense - two people blowing hot, the fire continues, one blowing cold and the fire goes out. Easy to say but at times difficult to do. by refusing to argue, it could inflame the situation!