Dating agencies and going on a first date,for the first time in decades

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Drago

Legendary Member
And, in all seriousness, I'm 100% faithful too.
 

Globalti

Legendary Member
A cycling friend of mine met a girl through Fitness Singles. She turned out to be as mad as a box of frogs; she was a fitness obsessive and would make him paddle along behind her in a rubber dinghy while she swam the length of Blackpool beach training for the next triathlon. On the bike she wore him out and he's a former British national hillclimb runner-up. So beware.
 

simon.r

Person
Location
Nottingham
Yes i do. Do you think that'll impress them? Any tips on boosting my profile are most welcome!:smile:

MrsR said many men's profiles were full of claims about climbing Everest before breakfast, then bungee jumping off The Empire State Building in the afternoon before flying a private jet home in time for dinner.

So my profile in which I described myself as an "fairly normal middle aged bloke", or words to that effect, made a pleasant change!

FWIW https://soulmates.theguardian.com/ was the website through which we met.
 

Saluki

World class procrastinator
Hmm. Back in the dating pool myself.
Been half seeing someone. Or wholly seeing them I guess. He & I have decided to be a 'we' at least.
The thought, at 53, of actually being naked in front of another human being is frankly terrifying. Hell, I apologise for the state of me to my chiropractor and practice nurse.

I have never joined a dating agency though. A friend of mine has and seemed to get contacted from people out to scam the girl out of money (Can't come this weekend as pay hasn't arrived, unless you can send me £30 for the diesel" sort of stuff, which you just know would get out of hand if she had done that). She did meet someone and has dated him for 3 years. She still has no idea of his last name, where he lives and he has never stayed the whole night. My entire being is screaming out "He's married you pillock so dump the chump" but what the hell would I know. I am probably just a cynical old cow.

That all said, there is a lot more to a relationship than having a car or money. I met the chap that I've been seeing on a bike ride. Bit like being 14 again really :laugh: our 'dates' tend to be sploshing through muddy puddles, defrosting in the occasional pub and waving goodnight at the mid-point between his place and mine. My bike is nicer than his bike, natch.

Just go for it @Accy cyclist. What harm could a reply do? Use a burn email address if you don't want anyone to have your regular one. It might be fun.
 

MarkF

Guru
Location
Yorkshire
My main worry is like i said in my opening post,i haven't a car so getting there would be a problem and according to the e-mails from the agency. They're all "desperate to meet me". It sounds like they're after something other than a relationship? Also,when i gave my age(56)they must've taken it that i want someone of a similar age. I'd like someone a bit older. I like to be mothered.:hugs:

I have a pal who has just returned from teaching English in Thailand, he has no money, no job, no car, is living with his ma in Ilkley and his only transportation being a white VanMoof. He is fending off women from his honest POF profile.
 
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ColinJ

Puzzle game procrastinator!
Be honest.

I met a woman years ago who brought along 3 of her 2 kids ... When we got chatting, she announced that the 4th of her 2 kids was away at university! I didn't mind her having 4 children but I did mind that the first thing she'd told me was a lie. (She said that she did it because men were not interested in meeting women with 4 children. I replied that being honest would be a good way of weeding out the ones who would do a runner once they found out the truth!)

I met another woman. She told me about an article that she's read in the Guardian about someone who had arranged to meet a 30 year old suntanned Adonis in a car park in a public area. The woman had waited and waited, but there was no sign of him. There was only one other car in the car park and it was occupied by a fat, balding 60 year old. Eventually she got tired of waiting and phoned Adonis to see what had delayed him. As soon as the phone started ringing, the fat man took a phone out of his pocket and answered the call! She asked why he had put a fake picture up on the dating site. He was quite offended and said that it wasn't fake ... it was a picture of him taken 30 years earlier! (He didn't think she would have agreed to meet him if he had put a current picture up. Presumably he thought that she would be so bowled over by his charm and wit when she met him that she wouldn't have noticed the discrepancy?) My date and I didn't work out but she contacted me later to say that she was getting married to someone else that had met through the site.

A friend met a woman from overseas who turned out to be at the opposite end of the wealth spectrum to him. He had been looking forward to meeting her and picked her up from the local airport. She turned out to be more interested in buying a Rolex for herself from a Jewellers at the airport! :laugh: She turned the date into a shopping trip and was never heard from again.

A different friend met a woman who had a similar weed-smoking habit to him. She relieved him of his stash and vanished ... :whistle:

I know people who have been successful in their online romantic quests and others who have been frightened off. I think it certainly beats talking to random strangers in pubs!
 
After my previous marriage of 22 years finished, took the plunge and went online. In first week, started one online conversation, met face to face following weekend...and have been together 7 years and married for past 3 years.

Pretty good strike rate, perhaps we were just very lucky.

...........I know I am a very lucky boy, Mrs TB is bloomin' brilliant.
 

MarkF

Guru
Location
Yorkshire
Be honest.

I posted before about an acquaintance who showed my a pic of his new girlfriend that he'd met on POF, just back from 2 years working in the USA. I recognised her straight away, a good looker all right, she was my ex ánd she'd been in prison for 2 years.

Ok, a bad lie, but "spent the last 2 years in the clink" is not great chat up line.
 

Jayaly

Senior Member
Location
Hertfordshire
My step daughter has had a run of terrible experiences using Plenty of Fish. I've wondered if she would have a better experience using a paid site, but she's pretty much resigned to it, and figures why spend money just to meet more of the same. Do the folks with positive stories to tell know if they were on paid sites?
 

Vantage

Carbon fibre... LMAO!!!
The site I used was free but I would imagine that the folk that folk meet on a paid site are less likely to be time wasters or spammers.
I was contacted by a few genuinely interested women from the likes of Mexico and The Philippines :whistle:
 

pplpilot

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Location
Knowle
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