Dead neighbour etiquette

[Pat "5mph"]

It would be a whole lot easier if you all, just posted a living will in your profile. If you're not heard of within six months, it's first round your house gets it......

PS it would also help if you posted your bank details as well

I told my friends that if I don't show up in FB/Skype for 2 days I'm dead, where there spare key is, come and get the lot!
I told my manager that if I don't show up for a shift I'm surely dead, she must adopt my cat - she also knows the location of the spare key

 

[phil_hg_uk]

It would be a whole lot easier if you all, just posted a living will in your profile. If you're not heard of within six months, it's first round your house gets it......

PS it would also help if you posted your bank details as well

Dont forget date of birth & mothers maiden name

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Dont forget date of birth & mothers maiden name

February the 29th, 1900 and Minnie Mouse.

There.

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Bike spaces are strictly limited...
http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=http://www.planetslade.com/images/necropolis/necropolis-wimbledon.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.planetslade.com/necropolis-railway1.html&h=230&w=400&sz=21&tbnid=M9DaWo7IsKzW7M:&tbnh=69&tbnw=120&prev=/search?q=necropolis+railway&tbm=isch&tbo=u&zoom=1&q=necropolis railway&docid=sqGKmBR1lgO7TM&hl=en&sa=X&ei=SYdnT8fiPNSA8gPekZWUCA&sqi=2&ved=0CFUQ9QEwAg&dur=141

Was it ever delayed because of a body on the line??

 

[slowmotion]

Was it ever delayed because of a body on the line??

It was always "late"...

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Ba Dum Tish!!

 

[slowmotion]

 

[MarkF]

My grandad had a special knife and fork he used only to eat his Yorkshire pudding with on Sundays... .

Ok........I give in, I've tried to leave the thread alone.....but.....what was special about the Yorkshire pud knife & fork that only came out on Sundays?

 

[mangaman]

Some of the 'black humour' on this thread makes me a bit queasy. A friend's husband who was a serious cyclist died suddenly about five years ago, and my friend his widow would have been devastated if a neighbour had popped up only days later asking about his bike. How can anyone think that would be a good idea, it's completely crass. Please don't mention this to the man's widow at all, don't be so greedy and acquisitive! The world is full of bikes, but losing a partner is devastating.

For the record, my friend still has her late husband's bike, a beautiful LeMond Zurich. When she heard I was looking for a road bike she offered it to me, but on loan, because she still didn't want to part with it - it was so much a part of him and his life. Sadly for me, it was a bit too big, but I was immensely flattered at her offer.

Absolutely.

The "black humour" I haven't found funny.

My father died 8 months ago and my mother is still psychologically finding it very difficult,

Every time she goes through some of his things it brings back memories - so she has decided to take it slowly. The garage is the last place she'd look.

If a neighbour she barely knew asked to have a bike of his, she'd be very upset and tell him where to go.

I assumed at first this thread was a wind-up. If not, Markf you are being a complete twat.

If the widow wants to give you the bike, fine - let her, in her own time.

Otherwise butt the hell out.

 

[MarkF]

The "black humour" I haven't found funny.

Can't help you, I found some replies very funny indeed. But then when my dad died we hired a comedian/vicar, it was a great "do", not sad at all. here he is.

If the widow wants to give you the bike, fine - let her, in her own time.

Otherwise butt the hell out.

How would she do that? She doesn't know me or know that I am interested in the bike. Dunce!

 

[MacB]

How would she do that? She doesn't know me or know that I am interested in the bike. Dunce!

It's hardly being a dunce and you can't apply your own emotional reactions to someone you don't know. Say she finds contact from you emotionally distressing what do you do? just tell yourself it was worth a try, no harm done and she'll get over it?

If the bike means that much to you then I'm sure you'll proceed on a 'nothing ventured nothing gained' basis. But don't expect to get unanimous support for your approach. some of us will consider that the gains are outweighed by the potential to cause distress. Yeah, you may find out, at a later date, that she tipped it and if she'd known you could have had it....cest la vie.

But be honest man, if you didn't think this was at least a bit dodgy you wouldn't have started this thread.

 

[caimg]

In all honesty, the most you can do is maybe go out for a ride when you think she might see you or something. If she wants rid of the bike then she will put 2 and 2 together and may offer it to you. Otherwise, it's her property and it has immense emotional connection to her husband...you'll definitely seem like a heartless c*ck if you chase this.

 

[caimg]

Absolutely.

The "black humour" I haven't found funny.

My father died 8 months ago and my mother is still psychologically finding it very difficult,

Every time she goes through some of his things it brings back memories - so she has decided to take it slowly. The garage is the last place she'd look.

If a neighbour she barely knew asked to have a bike of his, she'd be very upset and tell him where to go.

I assumed at first this thread was a wind-up. If not, Markf you are being a complete twat.

If the widow wants to give you the bike, fine - let her, in her own time.

Otherwise butt the hell out.

My mum's mum died over 10 years ago and still has many of her possessions, so I can understand that. Sorry for your loss bro.

 

[Bluenite]

Watch out MarkF. You don't want to find yourself mounting a haunted bicycle..

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

Absolutely.
I assumed at first this thread was a wind-up. If not, Markf you are being a complete twat.

If the widow wants to give you the bike, fine - let her, in her own time.

Otherwise butt the hell out.

Problem is Manga, everyone is different. She might have hated the ruddy thing and can't wait to get rid of it. You never know. As for the original question, I don't think there is a precise time becuase, as I say, everyone is different.

Mark, you might get lucky, then again, you might not, but you will know the situation better than us, so I'd just say use your intuition on it and be as diplomatic as you possibly can. The rest of us cannot really comment on the situation at hand, seeing as we don't know the woman.

That said, and I know this will sound a bit silly, seeing as it is only a bike and all, but I don't know how comfortable I would feel riding her husband's bike around in possible view of her.

Alas, it all depends on the circumstances, doesn't it??