Did you have a happy childhood?

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gbb

Squire
Location
Peterborough
Yes and no.
Parents were in the RAF so dad was absent quite a bit while on tours abroad, but he was a good dad when he was there, encouraging us to appreciate outdoor life, wildlife etc etc, something I've loved to this day..and in turn it's passed onto my youngest son who loves birdlife etc etc, unusual for a teenager who's now equally interested at 30.
We lived our younger lives on RAF bases, often rural and remote....idyllic places to roam, play, explore, climb trees etc etc.
But I was painfully quiet as a kid, no doubt introverted, found it painfully hard to fit in at school...did ok but just ok, but not thick either.
Again dad encouraged us and that rubbed off into me being able to strip bikes freewheels, hubs etc at about 12 or 13, build large balsa wood planes from plans as big as your dining table, tinker with model aero engines...always loved the mechanical stuff. I might have known I'd end up being a mechanic, it just took along time for it to happen.
Once I started work I kinda grew as a person I wasn't going to let my shyness hold me back.
I'm still relatively introverted but happy with who I became.
 

Welsh wheels

Lycra king
Location
South Wales
Yes. At the time I thought I was the most hard done by kid on the planet. But looking back, I can see what they were just third-world problems and I can see what I did have. Food, water, a nice warm house, a multitude of toys, friends, an education, a relatively stable family life and I could go on. I was very lucky compared to many children in the world.
 

Lee_M

Guru
up until about 13 it was great. After that it was appalling, it would be called abuse these days (physical chastisement beyond reasonable), took me a long time to get over it, but it shaped my destiny and focussed me on getting away.

Have/had a good relationship with my parents since I had it out with them, but wouldnt wish it on anyone, maybe why I havent had kids
 

Tin Pot

Guru
I did - went to school, rode a bike, long Sunday club runs with Stafford Road Club, worked in a bike shop on Saturdays and during holidays, had a reasonable 'palmeres' as a racer - life started to get mixed up as I reached 20 but finally found a friend who pulled me back together and persuaded me to marry her. :smile:

"Did you have a happy childhood?"

It's an interesting question, given that we rewrite our memories as we see fit.

And that happiness is relative to the unhappiness we perceived in others.

I would expect that if there were an objective record of happiness and unhappiness most of us would register about the same.

I don't remember as much others do, which could be a sign I'm deleting bad memories - it was hard growing up, but I think it's hard for everyone. I had good times and problem times, I wouldn't want to be a teenager again.

In short, I don't know...maybe.
 

postman

Squire
Location
,Leeds
All in all yes.We were not well off.Aged 15 my dad was in hospital for six weeks,he was a self employed decorator.No savings so we went on the Unemployment Assistance Benefits,for a few months.Rent was paid,school meals paid.But that was all.It was a pension style book thing.sadly one Friday my dad was so ill,he could not sign the docket,my mum forgot to push him to do it.We had no food that weekend apart from jam and bread,i kid you not.I will never forget that time.I wore second hand clothing,and i am not talking about todays designer stuff you find in charity shops,1965 was a lot different.
But we were happy simple things brought us closer.Christmas was a great time home made decorations and we valued small gifts knowing how much it cost my parents.I have always been frugal,it has never left me,all since 1965.
 

Venod

Eh up
Location
Yorkshire
I wrote this for the local website and I think I have posted it on here before, I had a happy childhood.

I had just made a hair raising descent of Fremlington Edge in Swaledale and now I was ascending to the lovely named village of Booze. Beyond the village should be the next checkpoint. I was competing in The Swaledale Trailquest (Orienteering on a mountain bike). the hill was long and the legs were tired, it was time to change to lower gear. A press of the gear change tells me I am already in my lowest gear and so there is nothing else for it but to keep spinning the pedals as fast as I can. While suffering up this hill at a snails pace, I started thinking what possesses me to enter these events but even though I am suffering at the minute I know that the overall enjoyment will far outway the suffering.

I got into mountain bike orienteering because I had enjoyed foot orienteering from the early 1980s but I think the real reason for my love of cycling, orienteering, and a general love of the outdoors, stems from my formative years growing up in Knottingley.

I was born in the front bedroom of 5 West View Knottingley (now 87 Womersley Road). I had an older brother Jack who was 14 when I arrived on the scene. I think my arrival was a bit of a shock to mum & dad.

From our back bedroom window you could see for miles. The housing estate at Downland Crescent hadn't been built at that time and I remember watching the flashes from the welders as they worked on the construction of Kellingley Pit. There was a quarry at the bottom of the garden in which hens were kept, and you could see the sand quarry between Broomhill and Scholeys farm. The only downside to having an open aspect at the back of the house was that when the wind was in the right direction there was no stopping the smell from the 'Kimics', as dad used to call the Chemical Works.

One of the earliest memories I have of the outdoors is going to the swimming quarry with my dad (Joe) and my brother Jack. This quarry must now be a High School playing field. I remember Jack searching for a rose stick to make me a bow with and dad telling me the water was very deep. I don't remember swimmers in there but I think it was popular at the time.

As I got older the local quarries played a big part in my life and I would be in them all day generally having a good time. We would catch askards (Newts) which were plentiful in those days. There were plain green ones and the great crested ones which were easy to see through the clear limestone waters. It was while catching newts one day that I was taken hostage and tied up by 2 older lads. They must have held us captive for a long time as my dad came looking for us, I remember him scaring them off and being impressed by how far he was able to throw a brick after them.

In the wintertime, the ponds would freeze over - the ice being thick enough to walk on with caution. I remember two lads from Broomhill losing their lives after falling through the ice, and this brought home how foolish we were.

We had a dog named Sandy who was a Labrador/terrier cross. He wasn't very keen on water so one day while out walking with him I decided to introduce him to the water, I had to take him by surprise so as we were walking alongside a pond I took the opportunity of shoving him in, but he was quicker than me and ducked out of the way at which point I went hurtling headfirst into an algae covered pond complete with airgun in hand, I had to walk home covered in green slime, so if anybody tells you a tale of slimy green ET spotted in Knottingley in the 1960's it could easily have been me. I got my own back on Sandy by putting him on a raft someone had built in the quarry near Englands Lane. I sent him out to the middle of the pond and set off home so that he had to swim to join me. ( yes it was cruel)

The quarry where the boys drowned was separated from the quarry nearest to our house by a long strip of untouched land known as the breasting. I would climb this from all possible directions over the years. I think it was left standing to support telegraph poles. At the other side of the breasting the quarry was used as a tip at both sides. We used to scavenge ball bearings & nuts which must have come from Pollards at Ferrybridge. These were lethal when used in a catapult. Catapults were made from carefully chosen sticks, bits of dads old braces and elastic available in 2 strengths from a shop on Aire Street, the name of which I forget. I think it was a cycle shop near the top of the street. If you could afford one you could get a ready made metal catapult complete with indent for your thumb!

The quarry with the tip at either side had a raised mound of earth on the flat bit between the tips which had been used as a firing range, we were told, so searching for spent bullets occupied some time, later we would ride motorbikes over this mound and it was while landing after completing a jump on a motorbike on this mound that the handlebars slipped and I got identical cuts to each hand from the brake levers!

At the top of the tip Gypsies used to camp with their colourful covered wagons that were drawn by horses. You also used to get a lot down Common Lane. It was a great site to see a convoy of them pass our house. While camped at the top of the tip they had a horse funeral that went on for days.

As we got older catapults made way for Airguns. There was an older youth who frequented the quarry with a pump airgun and I remember being very impressed with the power and bolt action of his gun. We were using BSA Merlin and Airsporter guns which didn't seem to match up to his.

We would walk up the railway line with the guns from near Englands Lane to what we called the second bridge, the gaps between the railway sleepers being a perfect strides length. At the Second Bridge was a small wood which could also be accessed from Womersley Road by a track over the railway. It was in this wood that trees were climbed and swings were constructed. Just before the turnoff for the lane was the old observation post, used to look out for enemy aircraft. Our next door neighbour, Charlie Eades, used to be an observer and when a plane was heard overhead he could be seen in the back garden with his binoculars. When the corn was in the adjacent field we would jump from the top of the building into the field. I remember it being quite an height .

Near the top of West View lived Mr Tunningley who used to recruit us as Beaters for the local farmers shoot. This entailed riding in the back of a Land Rover across farmland and then forming a line across the countryside and driving the birds towards the farmers guns. You had to jump ditches and wade through mud while getting showered with shot. At the end of the day you went home tired but happy. I loved it!

Today foot orienteering leaves me with the same satisfaction. I still jump ditches, wade through mud, and climb breasting - only the shot is missing. Today I have to pay to enter an event whereas we got paid to beat.

The first cycling adventure I remember was going on dads crossbar to the nut wood to gather nuts from the trees, this wood was about where Gail Common Ash Mound is today. Bicycles were the only mode of transport at our house. Dad used to go to work at Bagleys everyday on the bike and mum used to visit Grandma Andrew at Broomhill everyday by bike. Their journeys by bike up and down Womersley Road by them both must be in the thousands so it was appropriate that I learned to ride on this road, using mums heavy 3 speed hub bike. Mums bike was used because there was no crossbar so I could stand up and ride.

The tips in the quarries mentioned above where the source of a frame and various bits for my first bike build, put together with tips from dad and a little experimentation. I still remember that bike - it was sky blue with cow horn handlebars and a fixed rear wheel.

My first real bike, a Raleigh racer, was bought with money I earned from working on Scholeys Farm in the big summer holidays. This involved stacking bails in the fields and then loading them onto a trailer and taking them to the farm where they were unloaded onto a haystack. It was hard work for young lads but we got to drive the tractors which was a bonus. The bales were loaded onto the trailer with a pitch fork and if they were wet it took two of you with pitch forks to load one bail. I remember one of the older farm hands shouting to me "come sithy here and yuk it up" meaning "give me hand to lift this bale"

We had a red van that used to come round selling groceries. It was owned by the Lancaster's who lived a few doors down from us. I used to play with Keith and Tony Lancaster and my first proper bike ride was to relations of theirs at Grimethorpe. It seemed a long way in those days. I rode that bike for many a mile and there has not been many occasions since when I have not owned a bike.

I have been researching my family tree and found a lovely story about my great-grandmother on the Knottingley website and it got me thinking of how little we know of our ancestors past so I hope my great grandchildren read this and if they get up Fremlington Edge on their Hoverboards, I hope they think, how the **** did great-granddad get up here on his bike. It must have been his Knotla upbringing".

PS. I couldn't find Askards on Google, does anybody else remember calling Newts Askards?
 

raleighnut

Legendary Member
On average, yes. Some upset and disquiet around the time my parents split, but other wise fine.

I was bullied a little, but pretty soon was bigger than the bullies and it stopped. I wasn't fiddled with. I always had food and clean clothes, and I roamed within a 50-60 mike radius at will in my bike without so much as a puncture repair kit in my pocket.

@raleighnut summer of '76 was awesome! Raleigh Chopper, and not a cloud in the sky for the whole summer holiday, stand pipes in the street, and a bath once a week whether I needed it at not!
I had the use of my cousins Carlton (the one I still own) Worked full time all summer at the garage that I did Saturdays at. Knew which pubs I could get served in (aged 14) and girls knew I had plenty of money for fags and cider.
 
Yes, although there was never much money we always had food on the table , clean clothes and plenty of love .I was lucky compared to my wifes childhood of mother who left not long after she was born and then having to be raised by fathers sister(s) who lets say liked a drink and weren't particularly nice to her when boozed up.
 

Bollo

Failed Tech Bro
Location
Winch
Yes. Any unhappiness was my own fault.

Yes and no.
Parents were in the RAF so dad was absent quite a bit while on tours abroad, but he was a good dad when he was there, encouraging us to appreciate outdoor life, wildlife etc etc, something I've loved to this day..and in turn it's passed onto my youngest son who loves birdlife etc etc, unusual for a teenager who's now equally interested at 30.
We lived our younger lives on RAF bases, often rural and remote....idyllic places to roam, play, explore, climb trees etc etc.
But I was painfully quiet as a kid, no doubt introverted, found it painfully hard to fit in at school...did ok but just ok, but not thick either.
Again dad encouraged us and that rubbed off into me being able to strip bikes freewheels, hubs etc at about 12 or 13, build large balsa wood planes from plans as big as your dining table, tinker with model aero engines...always loved the mechanical stuff. I might have known I'd end up being a mechanic, it just took along time for it to happen.
Once I started work I kinda grew as a person I wasn't going to let my shyness hold me back.
I'm still relatively introverted but happy with who I became.

I'm a RAF kid as well so your post rings true. Due to Pa Bollo's trade we were usually posted to smaller bases, so RAF kids were definitely the outsiders at whatever school we ended up at. The biggest contrast was a move from RAF Stanmore (norf Landon) to RAF Boulmer in Northumberland when I was about 12. That was an exercise in fitting in quickly! We didn't get posted overseas much (two years in Cyprus when I was too young to remember much) but I did get to up and down the UK and live in some beautiful places.
 
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Yes, it was my late teens and twenties that weren't very good.
 

Sandra6

Veteran
Location
Cumbria
I had a fairly normal childhood, I think, up til age 9 when my parents divorced and my mother took my brother and I to live in a 2 bedroom house with my gran.
My relationship with them went downhill from there. It didn't get any better when my parents remarried (each other, not new spouses) and then separated not so long after.
I had a fairly dismal time as a teenager and hit rock bottom when I went to sixth form.
It got much better when I left early and got a job, then I got married.
 

Globalti

Legendary Member
No. Betrayed by my parents at the age of 8 and sent to boarding school, then my parents fought and argued all though my teens. I was happy to get away from them when I went off to college.
 

Cubist

Still wavin'
Location
Ovver 'thill
Similar to GTi I went away to boarding school at 8. I didn't feel betrayed once I'd settled in though. It was a great, progressive school that didn't tolerate bullying, with friendly approachable, supportive staff. There were some unhappy moments, mostly due to home sickness, but it was a fun, friendly atmosphere completely different to any stereotypes of public boarding schools so oft quoted by detractors. Holidays at home were awesome, I had a tight group of friends all sharing a common love of the countryside and cycling, and we made the most of those freedoms. Yes, I was priveledged, but learned very early that if you put in the effort to enjoy life the rewards are redoubled. In my mid teens my circumstances changed dramatically, but that's another story, and it didn't have more than a temporary effect on my overall happiness.
 

craigwend

Grimpeur des terrains plats
Like doing the C2C a number of years ago , a lot of ups and downs, you realise the flat bits are undervalued , however hard it has been, so far it has been worth it
 
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