Its, my Birthday next week & my nephew always buys me expensive presents,lve received an IPOD,Timberland Boots,Fancy trainers, etc etc Ive tried to tell him im happy with a book but he doesnt seem to get the message.I find it embarrasing and i dont want him blowing his hard earned cash on me,Its the same when we go out for a meal,its a battle to pay for myself !! Infact im scared to mention i like something because he will probably buy it for me.i know there are probably worse things to worry about but i find it embarrasing.
Extravagant presents are embarrasing to receive
- Thread starter gary r
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Archie_tect
De Skieven Architek... aka Penfold + Horace
- Location
- Northumberland
Just mention something which you know won't cost much.... then you know he's buying you a present which is relevant and that you'd like and removes your concern about the cost. On the lines of, "I know it sounds daft but I've always wanted a ...." The effort of finding something cheap but obscure will be rewarding in itself!
Ludwig
Hopeless romantic
- Location
- Lissingdown
Yes it does sound a bit excessive and you must surely feel indebted to his gratitude.. A simple card, book or cheap novelty item would be fine.
Archie_tect
De Skieven Architek... aka Penfold + Horace
- Location
- Northumberland
....Ferrari/ flat on the riverfront/ year's supply of Maltesers...."
Flying_Monkey
Recyclist
- Location
- Odawa
In some traditions, expensive presents are a way of deliberately making someone indebted to you through the obligation to reciprocate or even better the gift. Perhaps the easiest way to stop it would be to give him a really crap present for his birthday (like a herring or a CD of 'Tina Turner Sings Country')
summerdays
Cycling in the sun
- Location
- Bristol
I like this idea - but do it gently ... don't go for something really really cheap - if you do he will just get you another present to go with the cheap one you have chosen but something half way in between - so probably still more than you would prefer him to spend. Or could you suggest that he spends it on some kind of activity day that you could do together?
Aperitif
Meme bar
- Location
- ...I don't have much idea - really.
"...I really like benborp's Focus Izalco with the Cosmic Carbone wheels and those lovely Assos shorts go so well with the Pearl Izumi top and Specialized matching gloves and helmet..and as for those Sidi carbon shoes - wow..."
Just amuse your nephew Gary...
Just amuse your nephew Gary...
Wolf04
New Member
- Location
- Wallsend on Tyne
View: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g6SrPH_wDFw
OMG I can't believe I've managed to get this far in life without finding this gem!!
snorri
Legendary Member
- Location
- East coast, up a bit.
Could it be this nephew has got his eye on the longer term, have you written your will yet?
Arch
Married to Night Train
- Location
- Salford, UK
That's a lot of Malteasers!
Good idea to ask for something cheaper - how about saying you just want a tennersworth of vouchers for itunes - that way, you're saying how good the ipod is, too...
automatic_jon
Guest
Well if you're embarrassed to receive expensive gifts you can pass them on to me, we don't give gifts in my family, so I get bugger-all!
If you are sure there are no strings attached, I'd get over your embarrassment. It seemingly gives your nephew pleasure to splash out on you so just accept the genuine good wishes gracefully. The price isn't important, so it doesn't matter if they are expensive gifts!
Personally, I hate those disagreements over money and who pays etc etc etc.... no, no, allow me.... oh no, I couldn't possibly.... no, it's MY treat.... etc etc etc. If someone wants to then let them. Accept with good grace and let that be the end of it.
Personally, I hate those disagreements over money and who pays etc etc etc.... no, no, allow me.... oh no, I couldn't possibly.... no, it's MY treat.... etc etc etc. If someone wants to then let them. Accept with good grace and let that be the end of it.
