stephec
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You are Les Dawson AICMFP.I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; and then it was too late."
You are Les Dawson AICMFP.I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; and then it was too late."
Wow what a compliment to your wife, hope you told her thisMy wife took a chance on a second hand,worn out tall boy.And turned it in to a fitted wardrobe.
We're almost at 23 years tooSwinging but leave it a bit before suggesting this for obvious reasons. But being serious for one moment I am just coming up to my 23rd anniversary and I am still happily married. Actually not certain how we did it except to say she is probably my best friend, supports me completely and I love being with her.
We were friends originally so we have quite a strong foundation of that. We have fun and are very silly together and I think that really helps, as you say. There are arguments too but that's okay- I used to be upset by arguments (maybe my family was a bit repressed....) but now I accept them a bit more.Congratulations from one on his only marriage and celebrated our 25th anniversary in May.
Advice: its a marathon not a sprint. Keep working at being friends. Whatever else the years or ups and downs of marriage can bring, a strong friendship underneath it all will make troubles a lot easier to fight and triumphs a lot more fun to celebrate.
Thanks! I like this because I myself don't think men and women are different inherently.Ignore all the advice you're given - especially the advice about how men and women are different and the advice that implies you shouldn't trust each other. Make your own way in the world in love, mutual respect and friendship. You are two unique individuals, and its your individual uniqueness that has attracted you to each other, not the boring things that you each share with millions of others.
Your post was especially interesting to me as we met quite young too, I was a bit older than you were when you met Ms Skol but not much, and I'm 23 now. Nice to hear that the years haven't distanced you, I hope for the same.Met the fabulous Lady Skol as we both turned 17 and have been together ever since. Married in 2001and I am now 43 with two children age 10 & 13 so I guess I qualify for giving 'advice'.
My advice would be to ignore most advice. Most of it is people telling you what they would do, and look where that has got them. 2nd & 3rd marriages, resentment and selfishness!
You WILL have to compromise but don't be a pushover. Be completely honest, even if you have been an absolute idiot, you have to be able to trust each other.
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Most importantly, be friends.
Definitely! People put a lot of effort into toeing the line or going to lengths to show how nonconformist they are. I think I am quite eccentric in some ways but quite traditional in others, and my self-involvment and ego has calmed down a bit now that I'm properly into my 20s so I'm looking to maintain that attitude of just living how it feels right- and I like the way you phrased that.This.
Don't follow convention but don't strive to ignore it either. Just live your own life and let the chips fall where they fall, don't label it.
Yeah I've seen a bit of that close up.... luckily I get teased for being overly-frugal, like when I was caught washing tin foil (I think that's reasonable?) I'm definitely going to keep on top of the finances as much as I can.Congratulations, marriage can be a fantastic life experience. The one piece of advice I would give is do not spend more than you earn each month.
Money problems are big problems and kills off many a relationship.
you're asking on a cycling forum, so, get bikes and cycle together, don't storm off ahead and occasionally let her think she's leaving you behind!
on a serious note, a minister's wife at the church I went to before leaving home had two favourite sayings that have stuck with me:
"the grass is greenest where you water it" she'd go on to explain, if you're looking at and longing for something else then you're essentially 'watering' that want and neglecting what you have.
on a serious note, a minister's wife at the church I went to before leaving home had two favourite sayings that have stuck with me:
"the grass is greenest where you water it" she'd go on to explain, if you're looking at and longing for something else then you're essentially 'watering' that want and neglecting what you have.
I know I can be a bit of a tightarse, but washing tin foil?
That's class, I'll have to remember that one.
Congratulations! I'm 26 and would like to be heading this way soon ish but the boyfriend doesn't seem so keen. It's nice when you are both on the same page as it seems you two are