I know I made an error with the headset first time round. I fitted it with the bearings still in place, and crushed the bearings with the headset press! (I've talked about this in other threads.) I replaced the bearings as soon as I realised what I'd done, but the cups were also damaged, which in turn damaged the new bearings. I've replaced the headset now, and the problem is solved.
I didn't say the compression bolt on the headset required a lot of torque; I said it required a lot more force than I expected.
There's definitely a problem with the bb because it's making the same kind of noise the old headset was making. I assumed all the noises were coming from the headset until I replaced it. It's also felt a bit rough since the first time I rode the bike, which I don't think is right for an ultegra bb that's been fitted correctly. (It was only when I was riding it today that I recalled wondering on my first or second ride if there was a problem with the bb.)
Anyway, I know it's hard to judge from posts on a forum, especially if you don't know the history of the bike. I've ordered a replacement bb and the proper tool to tighten the preload, and I'll make sure its fitted correctly this time.